To not help family more financially

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I have a nephew and niece, they are both at university. They visit me regularly and I enjoy seeing them. I always pay their train fare and provide treats when they are with me. I don't invite them, I don't need to as they always invite themselves over. Sometimes it's a bit inconvenient, but I reason that it's nice that they still want to spend time with me.
I have started to notice that when they visit there is always a catalogue of woes about their financial situation. I'm starting to feel manipulated into giving more money than I want to, to them.
I feel they think the are entitled to help with their cars, insurance etc. I don't really think that it's up to an aunty to support them in this way. I'm getting a bit anxious that I seem to have acquired two extra dependants just when I am thinking of slowing down a bit at work and enjoying spending some money on myself. At long last all my own children are self supporting and I don't have to worry about them. Now my niece and nephew are starting to make me feel like I should be helping them out. Am I being unreasonable to be a bit fed up and not to want to see quite so much of them?

I think you have already been very kind and generous, and now they sound like they are taking advantage of this. Stop all treats for a few months and see what happens...

I def wouldn't consider buying my N&N cars etc, outrageous that they would expect it.

They sound awful tbh. Hold them all at arms length.

During my degree I had to work 37.5 hours on placement plus I had assignments to do too, I worked around that to be able to afford my car so I could get home easily enough to see family.

If they want it that much they'll make it happen themselves.

I graduated with a first, so it had no detrimental effect on my qualification.

You sound like a lovely aunty, but if they're taking advantage it's really not fair!

Exactly Jazzle. If someone tells me something can't be done, I make sure I prove them wrong. It can be done if you want it hard enough.

It really isn't normal for aunts/uncles to funs their nephews and nieces. Not at all.
I would stop offering them money, and offer practical help, such as drafting CVs to get holiday jobs, budgeting advice etc.

Why doesn’t your sister work full time? Why do you give her money?