Am I being entitled/greedy fucker?

[supercalifragilistic2]

So it's my birthday today. Best friend of over 10 years hasn't sent a card/text or any sort of acknowledgment that it's my birthday.

We normally exchange cards/gifts. (If she can't afford a gift that's fine, but a text to say happy birthday would have been nice) I saw her yesterday and no mention of 'oh I put your card in the post' or 'happy birthday for tomorrow. '
She's not working and isn't ill /hospitalised. So no reason she can't send a text etc.

Am i being entitled by expecting her to at least acknowledge my birthday? We've been best friends for about 12 years?

Happy Birthday! She's probably forgotten. She's human and humans make mistakes. I heeded some words of advice years ago "lower your expectations of others", honestly it's the best approach for much less aggro and paranoia in your life. A close friend of mine forgot my birthday the other week, it didn't bother me at all. Then a few days later she sent me a text (tying herself in knots) saying she had no signal where she was staying so couldn't text on the day, and she had assumed her DH had posted the card that was sitting on their coffee table. She had forgotten that she had texted me on my birthday, but about something else! Honestly, does it matter? It's an easy oversight and she's going to feel bad enough when she remembers.

Happy birthday!!

Try not to take it personally, some people just forget sometimes, it happens. My best friend forgot my birthday a few years ago. I got a very apologetic phone call the next day. No major emergency, no real reason, just one of those things. We laughed about it and she got me some flowers as well as a present that weekend. It was fine! Life just gets in the way sometimes.

Nothing 'hatchet faced' about not bothering with birthdays surely? Other people can do what the fuck they want and will get no abuse from me.

Happy Birthday! It's also my birthday today
My mum forgot to even say Happy Birthday this morning when I dropped the kids off!
One close friend hasn't sent a text or fb message (we don't do cards) there is a part of me that's a bit miffed that she's forgot as I don't forget hers or her kids, so i understand where you're coming from, especially if she's normally big on birthdays.
I personally wouldn't mention it to her & wait and see what she says when you next see her.

Happy Birthday to supercalifragilistic2 and MissCalamity - I expect it's all to do with the heat

• no-one can think properly or remember anything

do what you like with your own birthday

telling other people not to bother about theirs is indeed hatchet faced

Still nothing, so definitely forgot!

Also no to a party etc. Dp would have said something because we were making plans for the weekend. That and he's an utter blabbermouth

I get that some people don't bother with happy birthdays etc to each other (I have friends like this, and it's a text a few days later saying happy birthday etc) but we have ALWAYS wished each other happy birthday etc.

Ah well, I'll climb back under my rock and ensure I never celebrate my birthday again.

you entitled princess super

imagine expecting ppl to wish you happy birthday on your 30th

(jk, happy birthday. hope your dp and other friends have made it special for you)

Some people get quite stroppy about their 30th. Perhaps they're scared to bring it up.

Don't give up on ever celebrating your birthday again. I'm sure your 40th will be fabulous.

Happy birthday
And happy birthday to misscalamity too.

Sorry OP, no, you're not BU and happy birthday! I hope you enjoyed your day 😊

I forgot my best friend's birthday once. She never mentioned it at all or dropped any hints or anything until about a month later I realised and messaged her - she said she'd wondered, but assumed I'd forgotten. She was fine with it luckily.

I had just lost track of time. I don't use paper calendars or diaries any more, and hadn't started using phone calendars and I knew in my head her birthday was around the start of the school holidays but would have had to check a diary to be certain. In my head we'd just had Easter, so her birthday was a while away and I had plenty of time. Then someone made a comment about it being August and I realised what had happened.

She just forgot! It doesn't mean she likes you any less

You should have done what a PP suggested and sent a text asking if she'd be free for a birthday drink later - even if she wasn't free it would have allowed her time to drop off a card etc without either of you having to acknowledge it was forgotten!

You're not allowed to even remember your birthday on MN, so shame on you.

Would she have posted something on social media??

I hardly ever remember birthdays except for close family. But if you and your friend make a big thing of each others birthdays then you are right to be a bit disappointed.

I do this sometimes these days. As a SAHM I rarely know the date! Also even if I did sometimes I'd just forget lifelong friends'/siblings. Wouldn't care if someone did to me. Meh!

I forgot my sister's birthday once, absolutely no excuse and no lack of love either.

I did not send my best friend a card and gift for her significant birthday a couple of weeks ago. I rang her the next day to explain my sister was dying. Sometimes, you don't know what is happening in another person"s live and we don't always have time to tell you.

My friends / some family members and I forget birthdays all the time! I make sure people remember mine by reminding them! E.g. Shall we go out next week to celebrate my birthday? However if other people forget then - meh - I've probably forgotten theirs in the past too.

I once went out for dinner with my best friend on her birthday. I was oblivious until the cake and candles came out...we still love each other, and she enjoys reminding me of my embarrassment.

Please don't do any of the "jokey" messages people have suggested (like the happy birthday, oh no that's me etc). Don't mention your birthday until after you have spoken to her if at all. I forgot to message a then close friend's birthday (I'd got a card and present) because I was having a suspected ectopic pregnancy (turned out to be my second miscarriage). She messaged about it and it made me feel even more awful at an already horrendous time. We're actually no longer friends because she brought it up a few times after and on subsequent birthdays in a "jokey" manner. She knew about the miscarriage so I concluded she just wasn't very nice!

Of course your friend may have just forgotten as I'm assuming she's human and we do forget things sometimes! It doesn't mean she dislikes you or had done it purposefully.

@supercalifragilistic2 and @MissCalamity happy birthday; hope you noth had wonderful days

*both

I would’ve forgotten on purpose if you always act like this.