Am I being entitled/greedy fucker?

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So it's my birthday today. Best friend of over 10 years hasn't sent a card/text or any sort of acknowledgment that it's my birthday.

We normally exchange cards/gifts. (If she can't afford a gift that's fine, but a text to say happy birthday would have been nice) I saw her yesterday and no mention of 'oh I put your card in the post' or 'happy birthday for tomorrow. '
She's not working and isn't ill /hospitalised. So no reason she can't send a text etc.

Am i being entitled by expecting her to at least acknowledge my birthday? We've been best friends for about 12 years?

I disagree with birthdays are only for children. Send her a text and simply say “Happy birthday to me! 😁🎂”

Give her time OP.

I was the friend many years ago. For a genuine reason I was unable to text her until later in the day. By the time I managed to get to my phone to text, apologise and ask if I could drop her gift around she had sent me such horrid messages that the friendship never recovered.

Happy birthday

My best mate is shit at remembering my birthday. I usually send her a text saying something like ‘Happy birthday. Oh no. That’s ME!!’ then call her a twat. We have that kind of relationship though. I am usually bang on with birthdays but I forgot hers once. She was delighted she got to get me back

And no, birthdays aren’t just for kids. How joyless is that?

It's got sod all to do with whether people care about birthdays and more about the fact that it's only half past bloody eleven.

Happy Birthday OP. 🌼

Happy birthday op,

If you haven't had a falling out and she has remembered every year then I would vet she has forgotten, it doesn't make her a bad friend, like previous posters have said, they have forgotten birthdays...sometimes it happens and our minds forget...call her and say do you fancy a cup of coffee my treat to celebrate my birthday or do you fancy seeing a movie tonight/this weekend to celebrate my birthday....that way if she has forgotten it gives her a chance to remember without embarrassing her...

Birthdays should be happy occasions, regardless of age.
Sometimes people forget and that shouldn't be the end of the world. Beside that, it's still early, the day is not gone yet

I love birthdays, it's the fact she's moaning before dinner time, she has no idea what her friend might have on ! Atleast give her a bloody chance

It's only early still. Give it longer. There may be a reason.

I forgot my best friend's birthday once. We were sharing a flat at the time. Awkward.

My mum, who I get on well with forgets to phone me on my birthday most years. Imagine that! Your own mother!
She's a busy lady and we just laugh about it.and she's usually sent me a card 3 weeks earlier to make sure it gets to me in time

Happy Birthday OP!

I know exactly what you mean, my birthday was last week and my best friend still hasn’t been in touch or sent a card and I’ve known her for almost 15 years.

It is disappointing but hopefully your friend will get in touch a bit later, for me this is just the tip of the iceberg in our friendship and is making me reevaluate it (lots of feelings like this long before my birthday)

Enjoy the rest of your day

It was my DHs birthday last week. We both forgot it at first and only remembered midway through the day when the postman delivered some cards. We are not going to go NC over it.

My godmother forgot my birthday once, bit of a surprise as she's normally so on top of it. Turned out her daughter had just been jilted the week before her wedding so she was a bit busy!
I still love her.

Yes it is a shame when people don't remember, especially if birthdays are a thing for you.

Don't assume she's forgotten . She's probably just been busy this morning.

Jesus its only 12.30. If it was 8pm you'd have a point. Chill out and enjoy your birthday

Presumably you are out of single digit and teen birthdays? In that case, yes you are being bloody ridiculous.

Your friends lives do not revolve around you.

Happy Birthday Op. Hopefully your friend will remember later - maybe Facebook will remind her. Give her the benefit of the doubt if she doesn't, we all forget things sometimes & there could be a good reason.

Jeez. Its only halfway through the day

op, if you’re that close then surely you would have only very recently mentioned yir upcoming beithday?

Eg during a phone chat, mention you’re doing this/that for your birthday, or a present DH is going to get you etc.

It's my 30th, so maybe a bit miffed she's forgotten?

She's the sort who places a massive importance on birthdays so forgetting it is very strange hence the post. She's a massive 'birthday person'

Like I say, saw each other yesterday and no bad words, or massive fall outs.

Thanks for the happy birthdays :)

It also depends on what she is doing today. If she’s at work then she could well be busy and non-work stuff just isn’t on her mind or if it is she has told herself that she’ll text you when she finishes work/or her lunch break.

If she’s a SAHM then presumably she has had the chance and has just forgotten for now. But yes, it will still be your birthday in 11 hours’ time, so can’t see the problem in not texting you before noon.

So if you saw her yesterday, you presumably mentioned the fact that your birthday was today? Even a joke about the big 3-0?

Could she have got mixed up with dates?

Are you doing something to celebrate?

Happy 30th! It’s a big one

You never know their may be a surprise?