Am I being entitled/greedy fucker?

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So it's my birthday today. Best friend of over 10 years hasn't sent a card/text or any sort of acknowledgment that it's my birthday.

We normally exchange cards/gifts. (If she can't afford a gift that's fine, but a text to say happy birthday would have been nice) I saw her yesterday and no mention of 'oh I put your card in the post' or 'happy birthday for tomorrow. '
She's not working and isn't ill /hospitalised. So no reason she can't send a text etc.

Am i being entitled by expecting her to at least acknowledge my birthday? We've been best friends for about 12 years?

Maybe there is going to be a surprise party for you later on and she's worried if she speaks to you she might let the cat out of the bag (OK, I'm clutching at straws!!) Happy 30th Birthday x

It's my 30th, so maybe a bit miffed she's forgotten?

You don't know for sure she's forgotten yet though. Anything could have gone on this morning, or maybe she's planning something as surprise. :-)

I don't know whether or not it's reasonable to be upset about a forgotten birthday but I am always a bit bemused by the folk on her who describe someone as a close/best friend but don't talk to them when upset.

Is it just me who'd phone my bestie up and say "what's with forgetting my birthday you old loon?"

Or maybe she’s an adult with shit to do and will get around to it later?

Happy birthday!

I am the friend that always forgets birthdays . I mean to text, but then I get caught up with something else... But most of my friends are similar, so no one seems to get upset about it. It doesn't mean I love them any less, I'm just crap and disorganized!

There's nothing so pointless as being cross someone has forgotten something. You absolutely can't help it if you've forgotten.
Happy 30th and send a text mentioning plans so she remembers and can fuss you.

theres still time yet OP

HBD! x

Maybe she's planning a surprise party...this often seems to be coupled with winding the person up that you have forgotten them first...I don't know why...some sort of shit trope I guess.

Happy Birthday! I always forget birthday's and need constant reminding, it's not because I don't care. I'd go easy and surely facebook will prompt her some point today ;)

One year I forgot it was my DH birthday until 4pm.
And the only thing that reminded me was that the chalet girl had baked a birthday cake for another guest in our ski chalet

Happy Birthday

My oldest friend didn't mention my birthday at all this year - I saw her the day before and not a word. Come the following month (right day, wrong month) she made a huge deal about meeting up before I went on holiday and handed me a lovely present. Turns out she had got the month wrong and was mortified which was hilarious!

Don't worry OP - these things happen and there will definitely be an explanation.

Hippo Birdies to you OP!

Happy Birthday!

Tbh, I don't even know when my friends' birthdays are - they don't bother with them and I never bother about mine either. I thought most adults were the same?

YANBU but she has maybe just forgotten. I forgot my good friend's birthday just last week. Realised a few days later and felt TERRIBLE, sent a grovelling text followed by a call. She was very forgiving of me, thank goodness! Hopefully it's the same from your friend.

Happy birthday!

Tbh, I don't even know when my friends' birthdays are - they don't bother with them and I never bother about mine either. I thought most adults were the same?

Some adults might be the same I guess but I've never met one (although I do know a set of identical twins are so set on having their own identity that one forgot the "other's" birthday!).

Happy birthday! I've got to admit I'd be feeling hurt. Having friends acknowledge my birthday is really important to me, and I always make sure to acknowledge theirs in return. YANBU.

Happy birthday!
I wouldn't consider it forgotten until tomorrow. There are many hours of your birthday left.
If she usually remembers, I'd think there must be something important going on in her life.

Hahahha at all the usual hatchet faced ‘birthdays are for kids how dare you care’ posts

Happy birthday op. Treat yrself to an extra spoonful of gravel in yr watery gruel, as long as you don’t go getting bigheaded about it mind

Don't waste your time on Mumsnet! It's your birthday!

Never ask this question on MN. Youre not allowed birthdays once you’ve had your 10th. Maybe an 18th if they’re feeling kind

Hahahha at all the usual hatchet faced ‘birthdays are for kids how dare you care’ posts

Really? I'm not really seeing that. I think it's much more that the OP decided at only 11.26 that her friend had let her down.

She has all day to remember! Maybe she has planned a lovely surprise for you.

I'm not anti birthday, but I think if someone forgets once in twelve years, the kind thing is to let it slide.

In non mumsnet world, it would be v weird a a v close friend didn’t say happy birthday.

(*if a) unless she has genuinely forgotten!