To tell her to just fuck off?

[Bingbangboo1]

I have a friend who is a different colour to me, I am "black" & every single time I talk to her she mentions my colour such as 'black people don't do that 'I like the black people's 'God listens to black people"
I've told her to stop saying it as it's really quite offensive, in my eyes. My colour is irrelevant to everything!?
Feel like just telling her to fuck off & never speak to her again!

Yanbu.

Bloody hell I couldn’t be doing with that

She seems to be going to a lot of effort to “prove” she’s “ok” with people from different races (how big of her )

Does she actually bring anything positive to your life?

Tell her too F off, honestly at best she’s a bit stupid and worse she’s offensive.

The colour of your skin has nothing to do with what you do/don’t like, you are an individual with tastes of you own.

Send her that.

Oh shit, photo fail!

^ Yip

No, she's just a 'friend' there's just no reason to mention my colour at any given opportunity, she even tells her husband she's going out with 'that friend you know the black one'

So in her eyes you're black first, and 'you' second? Nah, she's not a real friend. She should be your friend and your colour be irrelevant to the friendship, but she's your friend IN SPITE of your colour.

YANBU
And I'd be tempted to ask if she has an issue with you as she always seems to bring up skin colour around you and it's coming across as she's uncomfortable around you.

Yes, please! tell her to kindly fuck off. She's a moron and wasting your time

I'm embarrassed for her

Your "friend" doesn't seem very friendly at all, especially if you've already spoken to her about how this makes you feel and she's still doing it. Tell her to fuck off. My friend group is very diverse and we don't mention race/colour etc when we mention each other - we just do the normal thing and use each others names

Get some new decent friends that don't define you by the colour of your skin

wow - I think you need to tell her as it is, she can sort her shit out or you move on.

Hate to brake it to you but you are her token black friend. Just stop seeing her, she sounds like real bore.

Not a friend in my view.

Yeah, you're her "'well, my black friend says..." to everyone she speaks to and "I can't be racist, I have a black friend." I bet she drops you into every conversation.

And as for white-splainin to you what black people do or don't do - ffs, I'm surprised you haven't already told her to fuck off.

Don't bother telling her anything because she won't get it, just get rid.

You are probably a "beard" for her to show others she isn't racist.

" I am not racist - my friend bing is black you know."

I wouldn't bother with her.

OMG really, she tells her husband that. That alone would be enough to dump her.

I would start a purple day and after all she says would reply " purple people don't do that", I'm with purple, you know the purple I was to you about...

I remember classic advice from a friend to his dd when she mentioned a boy in her class and trying to be specific, mentioned he was black. Her dad told her that this was the last thing that should ever be mentioned as it was wrong to describe people by their colour.

Sounds like your ‘friend’ is more into having a black friend to prove her ‘diversity’. She’s not a real friend.

It's just so strange- she is Asian herself and also mentions her other friends colour such as 'you know the white one' so it's not just because I'm black it's like she's fixated on colour, but then again she is also very critical.. a lady walked past the other day in a pink maxi dress and she was saying she shouldn't wear that colour as she is too pale for it, she picks on everybody's flaws, I'm going to ditch her after writing that, She isn't somebody I need in my life!

YANBU
she is out of order.
bin her off

she's 'othering' you which is incredibly racist - as you know.
but can you be arsed telling her that then listening to her whine and cry at being called a racist. white fragility etc

dump her xxx

She sounds like a very negative person. Do you need that in your life? I know I wouldn't!

she even tells her husband she's going out with 'that friend you know the black one' - how offensive. So you are her token black friend? How charming.

I wouldn't be able to stop myself telling her exactly why I was defriending her!