To tell her to just fuck off?

[Bingbangboo1]

I have a friend who is a different colour to me, I am "black" & every single time I talk to her she mentions my colour such as 'black people don't do that 'I like the black people's 'God listens to black people"
I've told her to stop saying it as it's really quite offensive, in my eyes. My colour is irrelevant to everything!?
Feel like just telling her to fuck off & never speak to her again!

made up garbage.

I had the same thought as OverTheHedge, I don’t think it’s necessary to always avoid referring to someone’s skin colour, but it’s context dependent. It depends whether you’re using it as a defining characteristic or an identifying characteristic. So for example if I had a new manager at work and my dp asked me what they were like I wouldn’t describe them by their ethnicity/skin colour - as it doesn’t define who they are as a manager, instead i’d talk about whether they seemed competent/approachable/enthusiastic etc.

On the other hand if I had to ask my dp to meet with my manager to give them a message, it would make sense to focus on their physical characteristics in order to identify them and skin colour is one of the physical characteristics that may (depending on the diversity of the group they’ve got to identify the manager from) help identify the person in question.

Your friend is definitely using it as a defining characteristic- and generally sounds to not be a nice person. I’d dump her too!

Honestly Op, dump her, the focusing on the colour of people's skin and the critical comments, honestly she sounds very shallow and dim.

drearydeardre oh dear. the term "makes my teeth itch" is far more grating than terms used by people of colour to tackle systemic racism.

Trinity lol xx

Can you find one of her distinguishing features and comment on that??

"Blondes always say things like that" etc?

Failing that a nice loud "fuck off" works too

Oh cringe!!!! I'm sorry OP, but I would get rid.

I really wouldn't want to pick up on something distinguishable about her as I think it's pretty mean, I'm just going to explain to her that it's really really inappropriate, and if she's only my friend so she can justify herself 'I have a black friend'
Maybe it would be ok if she did it once or twice to describe me, but mostly it's just completely unnecessary, her husband knows my name, and what I look like, so why shed need to say she's going out with the 'Bing the black one'