Not taking a baby into a weatherspoons?

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Well tbh I KNOW I'm not being unreasonable I just want to vent because I'm a bit upset (most deffo overreacting)

I am co parenting my 3 month old daughter with my exP. I'm BF so he doesn't take her on his own yet.

He gives me NO money for her and has never bought anything for her either.

We were out the other day and we wanted to stop for some food. I suggest we just go to the nearest weatherspoons. ExP pulled this disgusted face like I'd just spat at him and said "there is no way I'm taking my daughter into a weatherspoons. She's not a pauper"

His family are verrrr middle class and I'm very working class. And the funny thing is she pretty much is pauper especially as he doesn't contribute towards looking after her so she's being raised in a single income household. What a f*cking bellend.

So he isn't giving you any money pulls i have shit on my shoe faces when you suggest a pubchain for lunch and then has a dig at you. He sounds a delight do you really want to co parent with such a knob

"She is. Her dad doesn't pay anything towards her upkeep. It's dreadful, isn't it?"

The comment is beside the point.
Why are you hanging out with him if he contributes nothing? Get thee to cms.

"Pauper"?

Does he live between the pages of a Dickens novel?

Why are you tagging along for their contact times? Just let him take her for short periods or take a bottle with him. A three month old doesn't need feeding constantly like a newborn.

Sounds like he just wants to use the contact time to make you feel bad. Let them get on with their relationship, you don't need to be involved.

That's not co parenting.

Why are you tagging along for their contact times? Just let him take her for short periods or take a bottle with him. A three month old doesn't need feeding constantly like a newborn.

Because she’s the babies mother and doesn’t feel comfortable leaving the baby with someone clearly not responsible enough?

Nothing wrong with a Wetherspoons. They are one of the better pub places to take a baby because they are quiet (ie no music playing, TV is on silent). 'Spoons are usually just full of old boys quietly reading the paper with their pint. Their chips are yummy too.

My local wetherspoons is a favourite for our mum group lunches.

She hasn't said anything about how responsible (or not) he is at looking after her.

It is crazy making to spend time with your ex in the name of child contact. Much much better all around to let them get on with it. If he is genuinely thought to be a threat/liability push for supervised contact. TBH if you start going through CMS and don't offer to do all of the work, he will probably stop bothering anyway.

Even contact at her house where she can spend time in another room and leave them to it is better than going out and about to be sneered at and put down. It's abusive and it's not good for the child to witness that.

She hasn't said anything about how responsible (or not) he is at looking after her.

Not paying suggests this.

You are not co-parenting. You are doing all the parenting while he contributes nothing.

What you are doing is allowing him to play Daddy from time to time.

*You are not co-parenting. You are doing all the parenting while he contributes nothing.

What you are doing is allowing him to play Daddy from time to time*

⬆️ This, just this.

Why did you need his permission? You should have just gone in, ordered yourself a bite to eat and left him outside.

If he's so middle-class about Wetherspoons not being "good enough" I'd have asked him which posh restaurant he was planning on taking the three of you to instead. He can't have it all ways. His contact time = he pays. Wetherspoons too crummy for him = he pays even more to go upmarket. Bet he'd have quickly backed down.

I agree that he's not coparenting he's playing the role of an uncle who likes to play with the baby but has no responsibility for actually supporting or looking aftet it.

Mrskeats- "get thee to CMS"

^^ this

God I love Wetherspoons.

Lunch and a g&t for about seven quid, coffees are ONE POUND FIFTY with free refills, there’s no music or horrible slot machines ping pinging, the plates are real plates not bits of slate.

And I’m as middle class as fuck.

Does the rest of his family know about the baby and that he contributes nothing?

As said, why are you playing happy families with him?

Don't hang in there hoping he will improve.

I don't know what verrrrr middle class means but if he's not paying for his child he is a low life. Tell his middle class family and stop having cosy days out with him.

And the funny thing is she pretty much is pauper especially as he doesn't contribute towards looking after her so she's being raised in a single income household

Did you say this to him ? because if you didnt then you need to

Why isn't he paying anything toward baby? How has he managed to get out of that

As a teen my parents had a six figure salary, and to celebrate birthdays/exams/promotions etc we went to Wetherspoons.
Exp can wind his neck in and start paying for his fucking kid

I'm with your DP. Hell would freeze over before I'd take any DC of mine into a wetherspoons. It's chav central, and I'd worry about the attitudes and kind of people I'd be exposing them to.

I'm with your DP. Hell would freeze over before I'd take any DC of mine into a wetherspoons. It's chav central, and I'd worry about the attitudes and kind of people I'd be exposing them to

GOSH you couldn't expose your precious children to people/families eating their lunch poor darlings would be traumatised .

He is an idiot. Don't get any more middle class than my parents (my Dad has just bought a new car worth more than some houses) and they will quite happily go to Wetherspoons.