Not taking a baby into a weatherspoons?

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Well tbh I KNOW I'm not being unreasonable I just want to vent because I'm a bit upset (most deffo overreacting)

I am co parenting my 3 month old daughter with my exP. I'm BF so he doesn't take her on his own yet.

He gives me NO money for her and has never bought anything for her either.

We were out the other day and we wanted to stop for some food. I suggest we just go to the nearest weatherspoons. ExP pulled this disgusted face like I'd just spat at him and said "there is no way I'm taking my daughter into a weatherspoons. She's not a pauper"

His family are verrrr middle class and I'm very working class. And the funny thing is she pretty much is pauper especially as he doesn't contribute towards looking after her so she's being raised in a single income household. What a f*cking bellend.

God yes, all those chavs sitting there quietly with their pint and their lamb shank. It's a cesspit of working classness.

It’s chav central, and I'd worry about the attitudes and kind of people I'd be exposing them to

As opposed to the attitude they’re being exposed to at home?

I love weatherspoons for a breakfast

Absoutely delicious. My dc love them too.

Nice and cheap and good food.
What's not to like?

Actually you can keep away...means there's more space for me

Your ex is a dick though.

@Itoldyouiwasgeeky

The attitude they're being exposed to at home is one of standards, etiquette and decorum. I make no apologies for teaching my DC these values.

Well, one person’s values are another person’s snobbishness I guess.

Whether you love Weatherspoons or not is beside the point. The more worrying aspects of the OPs posts are that the father of her child is not financially contributing at all and is happy to put her down and belittle her in front of their child.

What a total bellend.

FWIW I’m pretty middle class and took DS into Wetherspoons at that age a couple of times to BF him over some lunch (and probably a pint).

Sunshades, don't do that please. This is a serious thread, those sorts of 'hilarious' responses are best saved for chat where everyone knows you're really just pretending to be a shithead.

Your daughters father sounds like a utter snob , the arsehole .

As for you Sunshades, that nasty little post says far more about YOU than people who might dine in Weatherspoons . Nasty,

Good for you SunShades darling!

Apologies for the derailment op

I could afford the plushest restaurants if I wanted too but luckily I am not a shitty person who looks down on the less fortunate .

It’s chav central, and I'd worry about the attitudes and kind of people I'd be exposing them to

I don’t think 3 month old babies are very perceptive about these things.

I guess you are referring to the “kind of people” the DC will play with, go to school with, have a relationship with, work with ..... the horror!!!!!

And by the way, “chav” is a horrible, offensive expression and “chav central” makes you sounds like an arse.

"OK, lets go to MacDonalds than - or would you prefer Wimpy's or Green King? smiling with gritted teeth! (Tongue in cheek notice)

Ooh I love Wetherspoons, kids love Wetherspoons, cheap and they don't have to mind their manners too much.

That's not really the point, though - OP why isn't he paying?

Well if he was prepared to pay for somewhere nicer then fine!

It’s pretty stressful though if you feel you have to tag along. Can’t there be some other arrangement?

Why didn't you just say "she is a pauper because her dad doesn't support her financially".

And why are you allowing him to not support her financially?

Unless he's offering to take you to The Ritz tell him to do one.

Why didn't you just say "she is a pauper because her dad doesn't support her financially"

^This. Absolutely this. He needs to be paying maintenance.

SunShades, how does the issue of taking your children into Wetherspoons even arise? You told us that your employers get away with their grossly illegal practices because they're not in the UK.

Why is this idiot not paying maintenance, OP?

Of course you’re not BU. He sounds like a massive knob. Why doesn’t he pay anything?!!!

No maintenance? Sort this out!

"She is. Her dad doesn't pay anything towards her upkeep. It's dreadful, isn't it?"

I personally would not want to take my baby into weatherspoons but my reasoning is not logical.

Get child maintenance sorted for your baby for their sakes.

Forget Weatherspoons, why isn't this idiot contributing anything? My attitude would be if he doesn't pay he doesn't see her.

Why aren’t claiming maintenance? Get on the to the CMS! You are not co-parenting when he contributes nothing financially and have to accompany his contact times, you’re allowing him to play Daddy.

Personally I think Wetherspoons is rank and wouldn’t eat there but I wouldn’t be so rude and classist about it. And besides, his dislike of it is the least of your problems.