To say, should HAVE / could HAVE / would HAVE?

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I know some people have learning difficulties, dyslexia, etc., but this is so common (surely more so than the incidence of dyslexia and so on) and it drives me bananas.

Also "your" being used to mean "you are".

I probably ABU to let it bother me (and to start a thread on it) but really, it's Year 2 stuff. Doesn't anybody read any more??

I've seen shoulda before

What gets on my nerves is when people mix up borrow and lend, but then my grammar is pretty awful so I tend not to speak up.

'Forgot it at home' gets to me. No. No no no. You forgot it. You left it at home. Drives me bonkers.

I don't mind shoulda, wanna etc....to me that's slang, which is perfectly acceptable on social media. But by saying should of, rather than should have, you're implying that you think that's the correct term, so showing your ignorance.

Is it "disablist" to recognise that if you are disabled you are physically and/or mentally impaired and therefore there are certain activities at which you are less "able" than someone who does not have a physical or mental disability? Call it "thick" or whatever, but I would not want to read a novel, for example, by someone who struggled to reach a basic standard of literacy, any more than I'd want to be operated on by a surgeon who struggled to reach a basic understanding of biology.

The one I can't understand is confusing bought and brought.

When someone says, "I brought a new dress," I always want to ask, "Really? Where did you bruy it?"

And those saying it feels mean to pull others up - I’m an editor, it’s literally my job to tell people when they’ve made a mistake in the hope they won’t do it again.

Obviously, it depends on the context. It's mean to do it in many social interactions, such as on an internet forum (unless requested as people often do in Pedants' Corner); it's not mean if you are a professional editor doing your job.

Has anyone else got the 'shoulda, would, coulda' song stuck in their head?

I’m hearing and seeing ‘draw’ for ‘drawer’ quite a lot too. As in ‘he put it in the draw.

We may as well use the words we speak and write correctly.

If anyone corrects me to 'might as well' I shall be cross.

YANBU.

Here, people seem to confuse weary and wary, which really annoys me. They also confuse slither and sliver. Oh and wonder and wander. Its just thick really.

And typically, a typo is made in a grammar post

Obviously I meant it's

Rein it in! It's not reign!! You see that too often. And also 'rediculous' is becoming ridiculously common. As is loose instead of lose, eg I need to loose some weight. Aargh!

Soshiny, drawer is pronounce draw and absolutely not draw-er.

Soshiny, where do you hear a difference between draw and drawer? The misspelling is annoying but they sound the same.

Drawer pronunciation obviously depends on your accent. I'm Scottish and I pronounce it draw-er

The one that I have seen on here a fair bit is people using are instead of our.
I am in the process of recruiting staff at the moment and the standard of the cv's and written applications is terrible. This is for a position where spelling, punctuation and grammar are important.

SenecaFalls
Speaking as a parent of a now adult child with serious learning difficulties who has struggled all his life with achieving basic literacy, I might assume that your post is disableist.

I am not disableist and nor is my post. I think you know full well that I was not talking about those with learning difficulties but those who are perfectly able to type a post in standard English with the exception of could/would/should OF etc

At points in my career, I have worked as a technical editor/copywriter/proofreader and commercial writer, and the basic standard of literacy among professionals is shockingly poor.

Language and meaning is important: as an earlier poster pointed out, poor grammar or spelling can signify a lack of education (which, while not in itself somebody's fault, can taint perception) or a lack of care (which generally puts people's backs up).

I have an acquaintance who, while perfectly literate, no learning disabilities etc, plays a bit fast and loose with spelling and grammar, and it really does my f*cking head in.

Much and many.

Your for you’re is pretty common on Mumsnet.

Yanbu. Can we pin this?

Around here people use ' sank' instead of 'something' , and r u , n e 1 , gr8 and m8.

Your and you’re does make me laugh, sometimes. I often see it being used, on Facebook, during discussions/arguments. Your thick! 😁

My difficulty is knowing where to place a comma. I think I have a tendency to overuse it. 😳

‘Of’, however, makes me twitch. now worrying about use of comma 😟

...I might assume that your post is disableist.

I am not disableist and nor is my post.

Erm, I think you'll find it's 'disablist'. No 'e'.

I agree and I think it's one that people really should try to learn, if they can. I would never jump in and point it out to someone on their own thread, especially one where they were asking for support with something but it does make me cringe a bit when I see it.

I don't claim to be perfect - I have always struggled with spelling and there are certain words I have to think about every time. I imagine most people, me included, have accidentally typed 'their' instead of 'there' at some point, especially when in a hurry, but 'of' instead of 'have' is a completely different word and shows that the person doesn't understand the abbreviation. I certainly wouldn't want one of my DC using 'of' on a job application, for example.

Apologies for any mistakes in my post - as I say, I don't claim to be perfect!