To ask what time your 7YO goes to bed?

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Just that really.

I want him up by 7.30am but it's just not working for us right now, and hasn't for a long time.

What time do they go to bed? And what time do they wake up?

Do you let them read in bed by themselves after stories, or is it a strict lights out?

We currently stay in his room until he falls asleep, he gets very upset at the suggestion of leaving him to get to sleep by himself. He is not falling asleep until 9pm - 10pm. We have bath at 7pm, then reading and lights out at 8.20pm as a strict lights out, no exceptions.

Please help me work out how to do this differently so that DH and I actually have some time together in the evenings before falling asleep!

Should also say, DS aged 3 and 5 go to bed around 7-7.30 to get up for 7. DS2 is usually asleep shortly after, DS1 usually sits playing with teddies or reading until 8ish. Some times it's later.