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Asked not to eat food from elsewhere

274 replies

moogoom · 18/07/2018 21:30

In an independent burger bar tucked away in the corner. It is 7:30 and just finished some shopping with kids in tow. DD has decided burgers are another thing she cant eat anymore so we quickly called next door for a kids sandwich and popped back to previous tucked away seat. The owner comes along and tells me to ask my daughter to put the sandwich away if we are eating in. But loudly so the customers can hear, which they all did. So would you call this pernickety behaviour or her prerogative?

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Original poster
moogoom · 18/07/2018 22:18

It wasnt a michelin fkin restaurant it was a burger bar calm down dears

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SaucyJack · 18/07/2018 22:19

I wouldn't make one of mine stand outside- but then again, none of mine would refuse to eat at a burger joint in the first place.

I'm sure that's just luck tho, and nothing to do with the fact that I don't bother getting into power games when I'm sat stuffing my own face.

RebeccaWrongDaily · 18/07/2018 22:21

i have one fussy eater, she'd have either waited, or had just garlic bread or chips.

can't believe you think it's ok to do this tbh.

Katri0na · 18/07/2018 22:21

but why is it ok in a burger bar but not in a michelin restaurant?
Do you look down at burger bar owners because they serve cheaper food, that you eat?

amicissimma · 18/07/2018 22:21

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Purpleartichoke · 18/07/2018 22:22

We bring food for our older daughter all the time. Otherwise we would never eat out. We always order her a drink from the place we are eating even though she prefers to just have water.

Original poster
moogoom · 18/07/2018 22:22

No its just quick easy eating, not a fancy occasion requiring formal wear and elbows off the table. Just a simple no frills burger bar

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WorraLiberty · 18/07/2018 22:23

It wasnt a michelin fkin restaurant it was a burger bar calm down dears

Bit of a stupid place to take a kid who won't eat burgers then, isn't it dear?

Katri0na · 18/07/2018 22:26

not a fancy occasion requiring formal wear and elbows off the table.

since when do tables manners vary depending on the venue? You sound like a dream customer.

Original poster
moogoom · 18/07/2018 22:26

Worra
Not her decision really is it?

Ive got it now.

I will let you know the location and opening times. Feel free to offer them your custom sometime.

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melonscoffer · 18/07/2018 22:27

YABU by letting your child be so picky.
If she won't eat then stay put in the burger bar and let her wait.

Wdigin2this · 18/07/2018 22:27

You can't expect to sit in one restaurant, whilst eating food from another establishment....fair play!

WorraLiberty · 18/07/2018 22:29

No it was your decision and a bit of a silly one if you're going to throw this level of hissy fit about being told not to bring your own food in...

HarrietKettleWasHere · 18/07/2018 22:29

9?!

If she's suddenly and randomly that picky and she decides she 'won't' eat certain foods, and her and her mates live on fresh air, and she's allowed to dictate meals out to the extent that you'll go and get her a sandwich she fancies from somewhere totally different from where the rest of you are eating...

Well. Do try to nip it in the bud or you are going to have big problems.

MadMags · 18/07/2018 22:32

@moogoom have you been drinking? Confused

I never understand people who get arsey because posters don’t agree with them.

What your 9 year old daughter’s friends have to do with it is beyond me.

SoupDragon · 18/07/2018 22:33

So youd really make your kid stand outside or tell her to wait until we had eaten our food and leave before eating a small sandwich

Yes, I would have told them to wait if they were refusing to eat the food on offer from the cafe. Or not have eaten somewhere that excludes one child in the first place. It’s not surprising she’s a “little Madame” if you pander to her whims.

CherryDrizzleCake · 18/07/2018 22:33

DD has decided burgers are another thing she cant eat anymore

Chips and salad. Or just chips if no salad. Or a veggie burger. Or just a veggie patty. And possibly chips as well. I expect the owner wants to stamp on some customers' idea that it's fine to bring food from other establishments into her café. If this child gets an upset stomach she wants to be sure it's not anything that's been introduced to her premises from outside.
She's clearly not sorry to lose customers with an 'I'm entitled to do as I like' attitude.

Original poster
moogoom · 18/07/2018 22:34

HarrietKettleWasHere
Yes i do believe you are very right here. I just try to pick my battles I suppose

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ToastyFingers · 18/07/2018 22:34

It's totally fair I think.

That shop will still have to pay all the overheads associated with your DD being there, and will have made no money from her bought elsewhere sandwich.

MissVanjie · 18/07/2018 22:35

Good god, who is in charge in your house op?

Present yr dc with the options of a) all choosing from the same menu, or b) you have to get the food to go.

Every parent i know who runs themselves ragged smirking indulgently at their dc’s whims and wants and expecting everyone else to be as much of a doormat to them as they are has dc who are an utter fucking nightmare

I wonder why

Purpleartichoke · 18/07/2018 22:35

I’m really curious what posters would do if their picky child was falling off the weight charts, even at 9 years old? Because saying eat what I give you or go hungry is the exact opposite of the message we have gotten from every medical expert we have seen. Before I had a child who was so picky it endangered her health, I might have been sanctimonious about picky eating too, but now I know better.

m0therofdragons · 18/07/2018 22:37

she's quite a madam.

Not surprised when she can stamp her foot and get what she wants. I'm amazed at what some parents put up with as acceptable behaviour.

When dd was 3 I once was in a cafe with a friend and asked if I could order coffee and cake but would it be okay if dd had a pot of blueberries I'd brought with me so long as I paid for her to have a drink of milk. They were fine. The difference was that I was polite enough to ask and explain rather than rude and entitled.

SoupDragon · 18/07/2018 22:37

I’m really curious what posters would do if their picky child was falling off the weight charts

That’s not the same scenario at all though.

Katri0na · 18/07/2018 22:38

there might be a few medical exceptions, but the picky eaters are usually just spoil little brats, and the OP has described her own DD as a little Madam.
They are not refusing to eat, they are just being choosy. It would work better in the long run not to leave them in charge!

Wolfiefan · 18/07/2018 22:38

Eating out isn't the same as eating at home. There will be a limited menu. At home children will have favourite dishes and things they don't like. Parents can choose to adjust menus to suit their family.
If you choose to go to a restaurant then you eat food off their menu. Don't like it? Go elsewhere.
One meal won't make a healthy but picky child fall off any charts.