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Original poster

Bloody loud kids in the communal pool all day, everyday.

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DavidBowiesNumber1 · 18/07/2018 14:53

We've recently moved into a new house on a small development - 20 houses, at present only 10 sold, of those 10 only 5 of us are permanent residents.
Not in the UK.
Up until about 3 weeks ago everything was peaceful, harmonious, pretty idyllic. Then the "holiday homers" arrived.
Now, out of the 5 nonresident households, 3 have lots of children ranging in ages of about 1 to 13 years old. Approx' 9 children between them but every day there are friends arriving to spend the day (and sometime night) at the pool.
Now I'm all for kids enjoying themselves and its lovely to see them doing something other than sitting indoors in front of a tv/tablet/phone/games console but AIBU in thinking that the parents (who are rarely at the pool) should A) be keeping an eye on them and B) be telling them to hush down a bit?
All we can hear from morning 'til night (up to 12.15am this morning) is the children shouting, screaming, jumping in the pool etc.
It's incredibly hot here (40c+ in the day, never dips below 32c at night) so all doors and windows are open therefore the noise carries everywhere.
If we want to use the pool we have to dodge bombing children/passing li-los/random balls and floats along with said 'DC'.
We would just like to enjoy our downtime and relax. Is that too much to ask?

OP posts:
TheMonkeyMummy · 19/07/2018 08:34

You are welcome!

In all seriousness, I do hope that the late night shenanigans stop. But I also hope that you are able to loosen up and start to enjoy your new neighborhood.

TheHulksPurplePanties · 19/07/2018 08:34

Hardly neighbour of the year.

TheMonkeyMummy, she's "that neighbor" the one everyone hates and talks about behind their back and nods and smiles to appease. I'm sure the community manager is greatly looking forward to drinks. Grin

AIBU I bought a house in a community with a pool and kids and I'm now upset that the rest of the community is using the pool and having fun! Gasp Clutch Pearls

JacquesHammer · 19/07/2018 08:35

Why do the parents who can’t control their children think the only options are “total silence” or “scream like banshees”?

There’s a whole plethora of sound levels in between that won’t spoil the fun. Not rocket science is it? Confused

TheHulksPurplePanties · 19/07/2018 08:38

Why do the parents who can’t control their children think the only options are “total silence” or “scream like banshees”?

Why do the types of people who complain about kids having fun in a pool always use the terms screaming and shouting to describe what is undoubtedly normal levels of noise and having fun.

She is literally complaining that the children have balls and floats in a communal pool.

MoreCheerfulMonica · 19/07/2018 08:41

Part of the issue here must be differing cultural norms, as in the UK there would be firm rules about children below a certain age needing adult supervision in the pool. Evidently in your country they’re more relaxed about children being unsupervised.

Your best hope here is getting the management committee to assert the rules on when the pool can be used (and introduce a rule about adult supervision, if they’ll agree to that). Different norms and expectations about the volume of shrieking will be harder to crack; if you’re in a country where being very voluble outdoors is the norm there’s probably nothing you can do.

JacquesHammer · 19/07/2018 08:44

Why do the types of people who complain about kids having fun in a pool always use the terms screaming and shouting to describe what is undoubtedly normal levels of noise and having fun

Why? We went on holiday last year. We had a private pool but there was also a larger pool with other facilities we went to one day. Small child in it and was screaming (yes I’m using the word correctly). Before I could even think of complaining, pool staff were telling his parent he had to play at a reasonable level of leave the pool. Suddenly parent was remarkably able to make him be quiet.

You can’t honestly be suggesting all children screaming are actually just using a normal voice and people who are bothered have got it wrong Grin

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 19/07/2018 08:46

I see the sour faced fun police are out in force tonight.

I see the parents who can’t be arsed to parent have now turned up.

TheHulksPurplePanties · 19/07/2018 08:47

You can’t honestly be suggesting all children screaming are actually just using a normal voice and people who are bothered have got it wrong

I think certain people are more bothered by the sounds of children having fun. I think the OP is one of those people.

Jopelope · 19/07/2018 08:49

Is it really difficult to believe that children of these ages wouldn’t have the insight into not screaming DIVE BOMBBBBBB!!!! WATCH MEEEEE!!!! ARGH HE SPLASHED MEEEEEE!!! Because their parents have not taught them that it’s good to have fun but not at the expense of others. The fact that they think it’s ok to leave them there unsupervised suggests they probably aren’t the best parents anyway.

A soft play area is usually a din like no other - but it’s specifically for children to play like this and not open air until midnight - for good reason.

Holiday home or no holiday home - I’ve been in plenty of holiday park type holidays and most parents coming back late from the main club with their kids would keep them quiet past everyones sleeping caravans/chalets/tents because it is courteous!

If OP was living next to an 18-30 Magaluf holiday complex then I would probably say - suck it up, it’s tough shit but this is a small residential area and it is horribly disrespectful to those who are not on holiday and may have Work/jobs

Original poster
DavidBowiesNumber1 · 19/07/2018 08:50

use the terms screaming and shouting They were screaming, shouting, shrieking, screeching etc. I heard it and you didn't so you'll just have to take my word for the fact that it was not normal levels of noise. But you won't.

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JacquesHammer · 19/07/2018 08:51

I think the OP is one of those people

She literally wrote in her OP she was in favour of kids having fun and not being stuck inside.

I am very familiar with kids, I volunteer with kids. I don’t believe any child needs to scream to have fun. I certainly don’t permit the children in my care to scream. Noise? Of course.

Original poster
DavidBowiesNumber1 · 19/07/2018 08:52

I see the parents who can’t be arsed to parent have now turned up Grin

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Jopelope · 19/07/2018 08:53

OP I totally know what kind of noise you are talking about, it’s usually kids around 9/10 (often boys as much as the girls) and they just don’t know how loud they are. Which is what parents are for

madeyemoodysmum · 19/07/2018 08:53

Ha ha ha ha. What a precious post.

You bought the house knowing it had a pool. Knowing kids would use it.

Ride it out or go away yourself I'm afraid.

Original poster
DavidBowiesNumber1 · 19/07/2018 08:54

this is a small residential area and it is horribly disrespectful to those who are not on holiday and may have Work/jobs Precisely. I don't Work but DH does (we are both up at 6am) and so do the other residents

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JacquesHammer · 19/07/2018 08:55

You bought the house knowing it had a pool. Knowing kids would use it

Pretty sure OP was reasonable to assume parents would actually parent. As in fact they’re required to do under the rules of the development.

You must have incredibly low standards if that’s precious Shock

mostdays · 19/07/2018 08:56

Tbh op, I can't see you winning here. If you have said whether the noisy families own the houses or have booked them as holiday let's I've missed it, but either way, there are going to be far more people against you than with you. If the families own those houses they have invested in a holiday home to enjoy, not a place to come and be silent in. If they are renting them, the owners are going to have advertised on the basis of a pool being available to them. Either way people are going to question why what you want is more important than what they want.

Original poster
DavidBowiesNumber1 · 19/07/2018 08:57

Ride it out or go away yourself I wrote ages ago that we're going to have to wait this summer out. Doesn't mean its acceptable though, dear precious

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TheHulksPurplePanties · 19/07/2018 08:58

She literally wrote in her OP she was in favour of kids having fun and not being stuck inside.

Sure, go outside, but no balls or floats in the pool.

I am very familiar with kids, I volunteer with kids.

Totally the same as parenting. Totally.

JacquesHammer · 19/07/2018 08:58

If the families own those houses they have invested in a holiday home to enjoy, not a place to come and be silent in

And again there are way more options that “enjoy” or “silent”

madeyemoodysmum · 19/07/2018 08:59

Fair enough and I do agree with you, I wouldn't let my kids behave like that. sadly a few idiots spoil everything for the masses.

Same with everything.

TheHulksPurplePanties · 19/07/2018 09:00

Pretty sure OP was reasonable to assume parents would actually parent.

They are parenting by their standards. Children are given far greater permission to be kids in the ME/North Africa/Turkey and Asia as a whole. "Screaming", shouting, laughing is encouraged and enjoyed by most adults of all ages because it means they're having fun.

The OP is the odd one out here.

TheHulksPurplePanties · 19/07/2018 09:01

sadly a few idiots spoil everything for the masses.

I imagine that's exactly what everyone else in her community is saying about her.

Original poster
DavidBowiesNumber1 · 19/07/2018 09:02

If they are renting them, the owners are going to have advertised on the basis of a pool being available to them There is no renting, we are all owners and were all made away of the rules before purchase.
I didn't make these rules up, by the way. It had nothing to do with us.
S it so wrong to expect others to abide by those rules the same as we do?

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JacquesHammer · 19/07/2018 09:02

The OP is the odd one out here

It seems not as the OP said

So, I've just found out that it does state in the rules that children must be accompanied by an adultvat all times around the swimming pool

So it pretty much looks like people with have to supervise their kids.