Child’s father wants to charge me rent for temporary moving into his bought home

[TB2013]

So basically, me and my partner have been together for 10 years and have a 4 year old child together. During our relationship we’ve always had our own places. He owns his home and the mortgage is fully paid. I rent privately and he has always lived with me and our child and rarely uses his own home (usually when we’ve fell out haha) he never put anything towards my rent when he’s lived with me but he would throw a tenner here and there on gas and electric and put towards the shopping now and then. Recently I’ve been really struggling with my bills while working part time so I asked him if me and our child could move into his property temporarily so I can leave my home and work as much over time as possible for 8-12 weeks to save up a rent and deposit on a cheaper property and the very first thing he said was. Well you can’t live in there for free you know. Now don’t get me wrong I would make sure there’s always gas and light in there and I’d always fill the fridge and cupboards but the fact he wants actual money off us I’m actually in shock considering all the years he’s lived with me rent free. Bare in mind also that his mortgage is fully paid off and all he has to pay is council tax which still I would be happy to contribute to but I fell like he’s sort of demanded it. I also feel like he’s not even bothered that I’m struggling. I tell him all the time and still he does nothing about it. What can I do guys? I really feel like this is going to be the straw that breaks the camels back I really do feel like I’m in shock I just can’t believe it.

You wouldn’t need to be leaving your current home if the selfish man child you had a child with was paying you rent when he stopped at yours. Or better still, if he was providing properly for his family, he owns his own place but expects you and his child to pay rent anywhere is pretty piss poor from where I’m looking!

Why are you with him?

Wow. How long has it taken you to realise he's so selfish?

It never fails to shock me the absolute crap some people put up with, and don't seem to see it. How you have put up with this situation for 10 years I really don't know.

As others have said, you would be much better off if you kicked his ass to the kerb and got maintenance out of him.

I do wonder what the positives to this relationship are, because I can't see any. Just a big huge cocklodger.

I am so astonished by this post that I have read it out to my dh...we are both sitting here open-mouthed at the sheer cuntery of your ‘dp’. He is neither ‘dear’ nor your partner, he’s a freeloading, selfish, exploitative, greedy piece of shit who is gaily mugging you right off.

No need to advise getting rid...I’m sure you’ve worked that out for yourself by now.

Shocking.

Ridiculous! Something is not right here. Does he actually work or is he pretending to work? Has he been telling porkies about owning the house mortgage free? Does he have another family. This is the weirdest thing i've seen on here in a while.
I think this relationship has run its course, but if you feel differently then you should ask him to contribute towards rent, utilities and food. If he refuses do not allow him to stay or enter your property.

I just don't understand why people settle for this shit. I really don't.

Why are you still with this tight fisted mean man?
It's utterly ridiculous to charge you... from the thread title I thought you were no longer in a relationship with him.

What on earth? OP have you been claiming single parent benefits whilst this cocklodger has been sponging off you? Get rid of him ASAP. I'm sure you'll find once you are getting 15% from his pay and not having to pay to feed/house/heat him you'll get on a lot better in life.