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AIBU?

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hubby says he has seen a ghost five times so far.

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lowresidue · 16/07/2018 22:21

Hubby has taken our dog to a local wood, and lets the dog go for a run.
He goes at different times and different days.
He came home and told me that he has seen the same woman ghost five separate times so far. Tonight with bonnet wearing woman made him jump when she popped up in front of him. When he said 'you made me jump', she smiled nodded and walked away from him.

He was quite serious but I asked why he thought she was a dead/ ghost? He said because she is wearing a long coat and a bonnet type hat.
AIBU to suggest that this woman isn't dead, isn't a ghost and is an odd lady with a strange fashion sense?
He is quite firm she is a ghost, and walks along the path but not on it though the trees.

personally I am glad we are going on holiday soon my hubby really needs it asap.
Then again AIBU?

OP posts:
Badtasteflump · 19/07/2018 10:54

But OP have you been to the woods with your H yet to check it out? I would just have to.

Mazzini · 19/07/2018 11:05

headinhands

I like the fact the universe still holds some mysteries and that a lot of us humans can experience things that aren’t modern and sanitised.

Sorry, maybe that sounded a little ambiguous at the end... I meant that I like the fact we can share the same emotions as our ancient ancestors... of fear, excitement and awe of the unknown. So much has (rightly) been explained by modern science but there will always be these experiences that connect us to our ancient past. It’s wonderfully dark, base and earthy in a shiny sanitised world.

Tinkobell · 19/07/2018 11:06

Why on earth doesn't he just vid it on his phone?

chickenpineapple · 19/07/2018 11:20

Yes I would say the same about Zeus, unicorns, pixies and the universe sitting on the back of a giant tortoise. Although I'd say those things are less likely. Unicorns for example are horse-like mammals which suggest that if they exist they live on planet Earth - on land; most of which has been explored.

Badtasteflump · 19/07/2018 11:21

Yep, I have to say if she's popping up on that much of a regular basis, he can easily get some proof somehow - or at least let you 'see' her too.

Or maybe call Most Haunted and get the along with all their equipment? But strangely enough all the ghosties seem to hide whenever MH try to film them Grin

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 19/07/2018 11:39

I've seen stuff. When my son was a baby I was pushing his buggy through a local cemetery to get to a shopping centre on the other side. I've done this many times and never seen anything before or after this.

It was October around 4pm and it was getting a bit dark. I was the only person in there as far as I could see and it was SO quiet,so naturally I started walking faster to the entrance I could see down the path.
I looked off to my right where there were older graves and over hanging trees and I saw three identical men with black suits and bowler hats a few yards away. They were walking in step with each other with struck me as odd. Their feet and arms were moving in time with each other. I just knew they weren't real people.
They went out of sight as they walked past a large tree, but they didn't come out the other side. They were just gone. Curiosity got the better of me and I went looking for them but they weren't there and there was nowhere they could have gone.

jim1215 · 19/07/2018 11:41

Would you be ok with a teachers assistant nude photos all over the place appearing everywhere Teaching your children

headinhands · 19/07/2018 11:45

But strangely enough all the ghosties seem to hide whenever MH try to film them

If I find out I still exist after death, enough to be seen/heard, I'll be making it very obvious. I'll be materialising in front of Prof Cox everyday until he takes me seriously and starts to work out what I'm made off.

Seeing what an incredible scientific breakthrough he'd be on the cusp of I'll be very offended if he calls MH to investigate instead!

headinhands · 19/07/2018 11:47

Would you be ok with a teachers assistant nude photos all over the place appearing everywhere Teaching your children

Are we talking about a ghost TA? Grin

headinhands · 19/07/2018 11:48

Unicorns for example are horse-like mammals which suggest that if they exist they live on planet Earth - on land; most of which has been explored

Oh but these are supernatural unicorns. And where do ghost 'live'?

headinhands · 19/07/2018 11:49

Although I'd say those things are less likely

How can you say Zeus is less likely than a ghost?

BlancheM · 19/07/2018 11:50

I've always found logic in strange things. For example people I've known seeing angels or long dead relatives before passing away- well known end of life phenomenon.
I hear very loud knocking, bangs and shouting- exploding head syndrome, quite common.
But the other night I couldn't sleep at all in this heat, had turned on my side and felt a sharp jab on my hip through the covers. It wasn't soft, it was a real jab. I can't explain that and yet it makes no sense!

JacquesHammer · 19/07/2018 11:52

Would you be ok with a teachers assistant nude photos all over the place appearing everywhere Teaching your children

Depends. Are we talking ghost TA or ghost children?

BlancheM · 19/07/2018 11:52

Known of people*

headinhands · 19/07/2018 11:57

felt a sharp jab on my hip through the covers. It wasn't soft, it was a real jab. I can't explain that and yet it makes no sense

I think I can partly explain this. Recently I pulled a nerve in my back causing numbness on the right side of my neck. It got better over a few days but every now and then, as the nerves were returning to normal I'd suddenly be aware of anything that was touching that part of my neck. It took a while for me to work out that I wasn't randomly being poked by someone.

Ididnthearanything · 19/07/2018 12:03

After my dad died, my mum saw him appear all over the house. In random pictures on the walls, in doorways etc. These ‘visions’ gradually disappeared. It’s called the grieving process.

There is quite a bit of a hypnagogic/hypnopompic aspect to this. People disregard this, but a lot of these stories are either people drifting off to sleep or waking up from sleep - that fuzzy in-between state. So little is yet known about the process of sleep and brain activity during it.

nowshesaturtle · 19/07/2018 12:05

I've seen things that I can't explain and I find 'woo' explanations fascinating. I'm open to the possibility of woo weirdness, for sure.

But I'm also very aware that in many cases our mind is playing tricks or adding up 2 and 2 to make 5. For example, a few weeks ago, I glanced down the field at the end of our road to see what looked to me like the heads of four massive Smurfs. Dd has better eyesight than me - apparently it was a bouncy castle with just the tops of the four corners showing above a garden wall Grin

I was reminded of this by @chocolatecoffeeaddict's bowler hatted men up-thread.

Iamtryingtobenicehere · 19/07/2018 12:06

Allow me to share my favourite ghostly experience, and make of this what you will.

I had bought a new home and it was moving day, my mum was installed at my new place whilst I was ferrying boxes of my stuff from hers.

Delivery of my new double bed, washing machine and fridge from a local furniture store all safely in place.

Mum said “I’ll put your new bedding on now your bed is here” so she opened a brand new duvet, pillows and asked me which bedding set I wanted on. She put brand new bedding into the brand new bed, you get the picture. Whilst she was straightening the finished bed, she ran her hands over a sewing needle and dismissed it as being accidentally left in the bedding from the factory it came from.

She told me and the needle was placed onto the mantle piece.

The following weekend and I’ve stripped my bed, done the washing and I’m making my bed again. So later I get into the same bedding and there was something inside my pillow. I thought it might be a little twig as there was trees and shrubs in my garden and I’d line dried my bedding, I put my hand inside the pillow to find another needle! A little strange, I put it with the first one on the mantle.

The following Saturday I’m busy, as you are when you’ve been at work all week, running up and down stairs with the vacuum cleaner, emptying bins, bringing down laundry, you know how it is. Now I need to tell you that my stairs ran from my dining room, open plan and I had some tongue and groove wall panels that came up to dado height ( I think it’s called wainscotting) these panels went up the stairs in the side that didn’t have a bannister. I had done downstairs, and that had included wiping a damp cloth over the top of the wainscoting, where it had a lip about 4cm.

I’m coming downstairs for the umpteenth time and there right in front of me is another needle!

No way was it ther half an hour previous when I had wiped the lip of that wainscoting!

So I tell my mum and we referred to the needle ghost.

Here comes the mysterious bit. A few years later and I’m moving out of my lovely house and emptying a smallish cupboard that was by the back door. I’d only got some folding garden chairs in the cupboard and some old curtains, there wasn’t much room as it was where the wall mounted boiler was and I pick up an old tin, a really old tin, that I didn’t recognise. Inside the tin was some unfinished embroidery.

Like a good movie, I’m not quite finished......so I decided that this embroidery was what my Needle ghost had been trying to get me to finish, later that night I look at it properly and realise it’s quite complicated, no paper plan to work from so I’ll finish it when I’m more in the right frame of mind and not on the weekend I’m moving away from the town I’d always called home. I pack the embroidery in the tin and the tin into a box in the living room.
A few weeks later I’m nicely settled into my new place and I realise I’ve never unpacked the embroidery, the last time I saw it was at the old house (which was old)

I wonder if it didn’t want to leave.
Btw, I still claim to be a skeptic as this is not proof of ghosts but it is a great story to tell. I do promise that every word of this is true.

53rdWay · 19/07/2018 12:07

How can you say Zeus is less likely than a ghost?

Seems reasonable enough to me. Zeus is a specific entity, with a set personality, range of relationships with the other gods, and so on. ‘Ghost’ encompasses a much broader range of things depending on who’s using the word. Could be ‘disembodied soul with unresolved business’, could be ‘demonic entity’, could be ‘some kind of ‘tape-recording’ from the past embedded in building/landscape played out by some natural but as-yet-unexplained mechanism’, could be ‘natural phenomenon which causes people to simultaneously hallucinate the same thing at the same time through mechanisms we don’t currently understand’. Could just mean ‘weird see-through disappearing figure I don’t have an explanation for’.

heartsease68 · 19/07/2018 12:14

Bertrand I would, but can't be bothered.

AnxiousPeg · 19/07/2018 12:14

headinhands

I realise you're joking (sort of) with the materialising in front of Brian Cox stuff. But it does reveal a strange assumption. If there is a whole realm of stuff beyond this one, why do we assume all or any of our priorities or ways of thinking would still prevail? Why would a "ghost" care if the living believed in it? Surely, if we're going to speculate about another reality, we have to accept that, essentially, we can't understand it or its rules with our this world brains?

Shiftymake · 19/07/2018 12:18

Referencing the cavemen: How many of us live in caves?

Member745520 · 19/07/2018 12:21

So little is yet known about the process of sleep and brain activity during it.

I found the below an interesting read a couple of days ago - it might be basic for some people but a lot was new to me. Fairly long but if you can hurdle over the adverts it's not too bad Grin

www.nationalgeographic.com/magazine/2018/08/science-of-sleep/?ns_mchannel=email&ns_source=newsdaily_newsletter&ns_campaign=NEWS_NLB_Wk29_Wed_18_July&ns_linkname=bbcnews_sleep_newsscience_sleep&ns_fee=0

headinhands · 19/07/2018 12:30

Referencing the cavemen: How many of us live in caves?

I use it as in first humans so 220000 years ago?

headinhands · 19/07/2018 12:32

we can't understand it or its rules with our this world brains?

I'm referring to people who think they've seen relatives that have died. Or anyone for that matter. If I'm dead and find myself able to interact with the world, as many on here feel they can, I won't drift about in a wood. I'd want to be seen by someone with the knowhow to make discoveries.