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AIBU?

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hubby says he has seen a ghost five times so far.

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lowresidue · 16/07/2018 22:21

Hubby has taken our dog to a local wood, and lets the dog go for a run.
He goes at different times and different days.
He came home and told me that he has seen the same woman ghost five separate times so far. Tonight with bonnet wearing woman made him jump when she popped up in front of him. When he said 'you made me jump', she smiled nodded and walked away from him.

He was quite serious but I asked why he thought she was a dead/ ghost? He said because she is wearing a long coat and a bonnet type hat.
AIBU to suggest that this woman isn't dead, isn't a ghost and is an odd lady with a strange fashion sense?
He is quite firm she is a ghost, and walks along the path but not on it though the trees.

personally I am glad we are going on holiday soon my hubby really needs it asap.
Then again AIBU?

OP posts:
BertrandRussell · 18/07/2018 23:02

Time- there is no need to be scared. Nobody have ever, ever been harmed even slightly by a ghost.

Snoophoggyhog · 18/07/2018 23:09

I went to visit my (now ex) dp Gran and when we pulled up outside her house, through the window I saw a lady sat on the chair at the far side of the living room. I told dp his gran had a visitor and asked should we go back later. He said no we'll just call in and see what she wants us to do. Walked in and Gran was sat there alone. I asked her if she had had any visitors and she said not for a couple of days. Felt a bit spooked and didn't sit in the chair where I'd seen someone! 2 weeks later his Gran passed away. At the funeral my ex was telling an old family friend what I'd seen and she asked me to describe her . Was a match for his gran's sister, Mary who had died years before and I'd never seen pics or heard of her before. Months later I went to see a psychic. Didn't tell her about this experience and she said orbs were going over my head and the name Mary was coming to mind!

welshmist · 18/07/2018 23:36

Well with this thread I have had an interesting evening. Found the property that I spoke of earlier that was seriously haunted back in the late 50`s . FB led me to the towns page. So I asked about the property. Turns out someone had worked there and it was spooky particularly one room. That room I remember well, no-one wanted to go in there it felt evil so we closed it up. I am hoping others will come forward. It was sold again in 2016 I wonder if it still has a woo factor.

Plimmy · 18/07/2018 23:37

So many sightings of ghosts!

And yet no-one’s suggested they can offer a shred of physical evidence...

At least the oddballs who believe that giants used to roam the earth try to offer up dodgy photoshopped photos of enormous skeletons. I am very disappointed by the lack of effort here.

ladycarlotta · 19/07/2018 00:13

I love these threads. I don't know where I stand on this woo stuff but I have had one experience I could never explain.

I was about 11 years old and some friends of my brother and I - a pair of siblings - had come to our house to play after school. We lived in a long narrow house, one room wide, with a door at each end (one we never used; the main door was on an enclosed porch at the opposite end) and a paved walkway running along the length of it. The house was in a very rural area and we had no close neighbours.

It was pitch dark but not late (it was winter), and my mother was getting ready to drive the visiting kids home to the next village - my dad didn't live with us so my brother and I had to come along for the ride. My brother and the girl were still getting ready, but the little boy and I had our coats on and were sitting in the porch waiting to go. Then we heard loud footsteps on the path that ran along the front of the house, coming towards the porch. Sometimes people stopped at the house for directions, and went to knock on the far door before making their way along to the door we used, so I was not frightened or surprised. The porch had a motion-activated light outside, which clicked on, and I jumped to my feet in expectation of a knock on the door.

At that moment, the shadow of a hooded figure swept across the porch: the footsteps reached the front door, and just stopped. Not stopped like a person stopping; stopped dead like a tape had been paused. The little boy and I just knew immediately that it wasn't right - we stared at one another in total fear. We got torches and went outside, searching both ways on the path and down onto the drive, but nobody was there and in our hearts we knew they wouldn't be.

The footnote to this story is that a few years later, after we moved from the house, I mentioned to my mother how comforting I'd always found it to hear my parent's footsteps on the path underneath my bedroom window every night, walking away from the porch. I felt so safe knowing that she and my dad were out there last thing at night locking up. She looked confused and told me they absolutely never did this. Reiterating that we had no neighbours and our home was pretty remote, I have absolutely no idea whose footsteps I heard for years and years, walking in the opposite direction from the ones that approached the porch that scary night.

We moved away from the area not long after (unrelated reasons!). I'm still facebook friends with the girl of those visiting siblings, but I've never had the balls to contact her brother and ask him whether his memory matches mine. It's honestly inexplicable to me.

welshmist · 19/07/2018 00:18

Well if you ever get to Stone street in Cranbrook pop into Ralphs mens shop or next door and ask if they have been woooo'd

welshmist · 19/07/2018 00:20

Lady c you have to contact him for us now

1forAll74 · 19/07/2018 01:59

There used to be a place near me, where people were often seen wearing strange clothes in the woods, think it was a dogging place, but no dogs of course, and only at night time. I never went there, but am sure the doggers would have scared me more than a ghost !

NewbieSpartacus · 19/07/2018 02:46

Who you gonna call?

teal125 · 19/07/2018 06:32

Please don’t use derogatory phrases like nutter it is very insulting to people with mental health issues.

User183737 · 19/07/2018 07:20

Tbf i have severe mh probs and it doesnt bother me.

headinhands · 19/07/2018 07:47

. I do wish that they'd just leave those of us who are open to the unexplained to it. Same old, never changes, knee jerk boredom.

But I'm as in interested in why people believe in ghosts as believers are in these stories. In the same way I don't hold the same beliefs as others but still find in fascinating. Maybe you could find how those who don't believe as fascinating?

Also this is Mumsnet. It's not as if you're sitting in your lounge with a friend and I'm shouting contradictory things though your letterbox.

headinhands · 19/07/2018 07:53

Much further down the thread someone pointed out the interesting trend in this sort of belief. I touched on it in a thread a while back looking into how and why more women hold these sorts of beliefs more than men having seen the audiences at psychic shows being massively middle age woman.

It was suggested that females are more interested in relationships and therefore explore the possibility of this connection continuing beyond death.

I wonder if any studies have been done into this? One problem is how do we explain women who don't hold to this belief. I mentioned upthread about losing my sister and I was poleaxed with grief for sometime and will forever carry that pain and loss. Yet even with this it wouldn't occur to me to attend a psychic.

BertrandRussell · 19/07/2018 08:24

I'm fascinated by god, ghosts, the unexplained - you don't have to believe to be interested. My atheist ds has just finished a degree in Theology!

Laiste · 19/07/2018 08:33

But I'm as in interested in why people believe in ghosts as believers are in these stories.

Nothing wrong with healthy scepticism. The problem is that many sceptics post with rude condescension rather than genuine interest.

heartsease68 · 19/07/2018 08:34

You don't come across that way Bertrand. What fascinates you?

BertrandRussell · 19/07/2018 08:38

I'm fascinated by why people believe. I'm fascinated by the practicalities-what the explanations are for what people experience and genuinely believe to be supernatural. I'm fascinated by the frauudsters. I'm fascinated by the impact that belief has on individuals and on society. I'm fascinated by the history of belief in the supernatural.......

memaymamo · 19/07/2018 08:55

Out of curiosity, what does your DS hope to do with a degree in theology?

dorisdog · 19/07/2018 09:00

'Dark and spooky woods' you say. That's why he thinks he's seen a ghost. It's a woman in a bonnet.

Laiste · 19/07/2018 09:00

I've posted my experiences on threads like this for years. I've never offered any explanation for what i've seen. I don't know what i believe. I enjoy the sharing on these threads. I enjoy reading the threads.

I'll stick my neck out though ... I'm going to admit that, even though i'm probably firmly in the 'lunatic woo camp' according to the usual sceptics who always appear on these threads, in fact i too don't actually believe a lot of what i read here. I enjoy other's stories, but i think many are made up, heavily embellished or can easily be explained away.

Not all though. And i wouldn't dream of telling any poster they're deluded, or liars, or irrational, or simple minded, or whatever else gets thrown about.

Alleycat1 · 19/07/2018 09:07

Pgs007 The bronze age rider is on the cursus (Bottlebrush Down) between Wimborne Saint Giles and Sixpenny Handley . Is that where you saw your phantom?
ShovingLeopard Yes, could well be a miffed site guardian! We have lots of barrows and earthworks in Dorset but our ghosts seem benign in the main.

thecatsabsentcojones · 19/07/2018 09:12

My friends managed to take the best bit of ghost evidence I've ever seen. They'd had a kids party, taken photos on their phone and then whilst looking through realised there is a figure of a man in one of them. They posted it on facebook asking if any of the people at the party had spotted someone else come in at any point - nobody had and then they got a bit spooked. I'm a graphic designer and know photoshop pretty well and it doesn't look messed about with.

It got really interesting when they went into the history of the previous owner, he died really tragically - he was driving, started to have a hypo, was taken to the police station for driving erratically and died in a cell because the police that arrested him didn't realise he needed medical treatment. It was a scandal that was reported nationally. When I googled it there were a few articles that came up in papers like the Daily Mail along with pictures - it's the same bloke. But none of the pictures are consistent with the picture taken at the party because I was looking to see if one had been photoshopped in. So although I started off thinking it was a hoax I don't think it is.

My friends were a bit freaked out for a bit but now don't care. They talk about living with Tony jokingly now. Not sure I'd be so relaxed, but he hasn't revealed himself again so most of the time he's not on their minds.

Anyway, it was a sad end for a bloke who lived very respectably to die in a police cell, needing medical treatment not arrest. But he obviously lives on and enjoys a kids party...

BertrandRussell · 19/07/2018 09:12

"Out of curiosity, what does your DS hope to do with a degree in theology?
She's currently in a graduate training programme for a hotel chain and also training to be a volunteer at Woman's Aid. Why do you ask?

ToeToToe · 19/07/2018 09:22

Bertrand - To partly answer your question - it can be of great comfort to people to believe in the paranormal. In the same way as religion, I suppose.

When my Dad died suddenly, I really had a strong feeling that my grandparents had come to get him. It was incredibly comforting. The reality was that he was in a hospital mortuary, because they had to do a post mortem. But in my mind, my grandparents had collected him - and he was really somewhere else now. Not lying in a mortuary.

It can be a form of self-preservation - against the shock and grief of losing someone.