Do I have to give SIL all my baby stuff?

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All our baby stuff came from my sister, who doesn’t need it back, now SIL is pregnant.
SIL and BIL are alright but we’re not close. Doubt they’d even say thank you. When I got the stuff off my sister I put some money in nephew’s bank for his future to acknowledge they saved us so much money. SIL and BIL wouldn’t even think of that I’m sure!
So, feel free to call me a selfish cow, AIBU to resent giving them all this stuff?

You don't have to give it to them if you don't want to.

What sort of stuff are you talking about? If it's been through at least 2 babies already is it even in good enough condition to be passed on?

And who is saying you have to give it to them anyway? Although I think I know what you mean - theres an air of expectation from them I expect, as though they feel it goes without saying that of course you will give it to them.

You don't have to. Have they asked for it?

Just say you're saving it in case you have another child. Who are these people who expect people to hand over their kids' things?

Maybe she doesn't even want it. A lot of first time mum's are a bit precious about having new stuff.

Are you finished with it? As in finished having children? If not then don't pass it on, if you are finished it would be nice to offer rather than just having it sit there. They might not even want it though

Are you saving it for your next child? If so then fine to keep it. If you don’t really need it and you’re not planning another then why not help them out?

You don't have to. You could give them a few bits. You can say you are keeping for maybe another baby. Or you can say you have already promised them to a friend.
But no matter what you don't have to give them anything you don't want to.

Who says you have to pass it on? If you’re not finished having children then keep it. If you have, say you’ve already given it to friends.

Have they even asked for it?

You don't have to give anything you don't want to.

Don't do something you're resenting doing before you've even done it! No one will benefit.

They might not want your stuff. You are t obligated to give anyone anything. If I you don’t want to then don’t.

No you don't have to give your SIL anything especially if you are going to have more children or are going to give it to that friend you promised it to - remember them

Do they know your sister? Have they actually asked or just hinted? If they have asked, tell them your sister has asked for it back or asked you to keep it for her just in case (get your sister on side with this first).

Don't give it to them. You might have another and then you'd be doubly pissed off.

No I'd pop it in the loft and say you need to be able to give it back to your sister if she asks for it / you might have another baby one day!

As some others have asked, have they even said they want it?

You might need it again.

Do they definitely want it? We’ve been given an awful lot that I don’t know what to do with - I think lots of people took the opportunity for a clear out once they found out we were expecting

I’ve waited a long time for my baby, I want to choose her things myself!

I'd be very surprised if they wanted stuff that's been through at least 2 babies already

You donNt have to, of course. But wht are you going to do with it otherwise?

Its unclear if someone has asked, or if you just think you should.

Agree up post, how much is actually in good condition?

Have you kept it this far in case of a second?

How are they doing financially? Will they actually want your sister now your clothes?

I might filter out some basic bits to give get

On the other hand, if your sister doesn’t want it back, you don’t need it and you don’t have anyone else to give it to, why not give it to them?

Do they even want it?

A cousin of mine waited until I'd had DD to have a good clear out and give me all of her baby junk items and the majority ended up in the charity shop.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to OP