AIBU to ask if you would like this hen weekend?

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For 3 bridesmaids (who all know each other) and the bride.

Saturday afternoon
Meet at bride’s house late afternoon for drinks, nibbles and a few hen party style games. Get ready to go out together.

Saturday evening
Go into town together. Italian meal. Bar hop several different cocktails bars with different themes (e.g. one is like a science lab).
Go back to bride’s house and get into pyjamas for films and chocolate. Everybody sleeps over at bride’s (seperate bedrooms).

Sunday morning
Coffee and croissants at bride’s house.
Drive to afternoon tea venue, collecting daughters and grandmothers on the way.

Sunday afternoon
Afternoon tea for 15 ish guests.

What do you think? Would this weekend appeal to you?

I’d like the getting together before heading out. Not the getting ready (I need my space for this, my hair takes time!) but for a glass of decent fizz, lovely.

I would detest ‘hen games’.

I’d like food / cocktails / a couple of bars (with reserved seating and table service).

Movies and chocolate would have me . Lovely on the Sunday morning but the Saturday night cocktails would have me 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

Sounds dreadful, but then I have only ever been on one hen night. A group of us went out to dinner and then ended up meeting the stags at the bride and groom's flat. Sounds really boring, but it certainly wasn't. It was just good, clean fun.

Sorry and Afternoon Tea? Nah, I’d be O.V.E.R it by that point and want my sofa.

A full on roast with more wine might be able to tempt me though #roundtwo

Sounds really good OP but like someone else said upthread, I’d prefer to stay in one bar rather than bar hopping. This is something you can agree on on the night though.

My friend did one like that and it was great.

I’d hate it but I know a lot of my friends would love it.

Personally I’d feel like the night was just starting... then it’d be pj time 😕 I’d want to be out dancing till 5am (or as long as we could handle), then a fry up in the morning 👌

Sounds lovely!

And to my antisocial self films and chocolates sound like the best part

and there's no knitting

Oh dear, scheduling is unavoidable unfortunately. I expect I’ll be ready for home by Sunday afternoon!

Bride is definitely happy hosting.

Maybe we’ll ditch the film. Bride is adamant that clubbing is definitely not happening. She hates it. It feels like it’ll fall a bit flat when we get back to bride’s house. What can I do to prevent that?

Sounds absolutely perfect!

80s music? Or some silly quiz

Comedy club?

Oh I’m worried now!
Thank you though, you’ve all been really helpful.

If she's adamant about the clubbing I'd get back and get some tunes on. Bluetooth, speaker and Spotify is all you need. Everyone gets to chose one song and go from there, it's fab as you're introduced to new music and ones you'd forgotten about and it often goes off on a complete tangent

I hate clubbing too OP but I definitely couldn't be arsed with a film. Just have more drinks!

Aren't there any bars which are open a bit later, like til 1 or 2? I would fall asleep during the film.

How about having some music and some wine in the fridge when you get home?

Just enjoy the bars and don’t interrupt a good time because you MUST hit another 2 before leaving early enough to watch a film! It’s the pressure of trying to force a schedule that is usually a downer. Do the movies in pyjamas the next day day with your coffee and croissants instead and let the evening play itself out.

Assuming you haven’t missed out ‘fly to Vegas’ as step one, it sounds perfect! I’m not a fan of hen’s generally but if I had to go on one it’d be like that.

Sounds lovely. The only thing I might re-think is the bar hopping purely because it can be a pain walking about in heels, possibly in the rain and in my local city it's hard to get seats on a Saturday so if I find a nice bar with seats I tend to stay out!

Oh yes and I wouldn't rush back from the bar if having fun, leave the movie and pjs as an optional extra.

Sounds perfect!

Couldn't tolerate the 'games'. There is something about grown adults playing games (excepting chess/tennis etc.) that just makes me cringe. The rest I could tolerate if the dtinks/restaurant/pubs etc were suitably Naice. But if not then a night in with bridesmaids and good wine plus well made meal would be preferable. Would also question the wisdom of an afternoon tea-sounds like you are planing to drink a lot, won't you be hungover?

Sounds great! Definitely preferable to me over going out and embarrassing ourselves in a club! X

How about meet at the brides with hair done make up on and maybe ready to go out (depending on travel/journey). So you can all have a lie in on Saturday and maybe head out for the night a little earlier than planned maybe 4pm or 6pm (before crazy time).

Agree to the no clubbing and go to a nice upmarket bar or bar restaurant where you can book a table then hit the proseco and or cocktails (preferably one that serves food) and take it from there. See how it goes Tapas might be nice.

I wouldn’t mention PJ’s and a movie it sounds too forced and you don’t want to be rushing back to cram this in. You can go back to brides for more drinks snacks music and reminiscing till you drop if you are still in the mood for more.

Combine PJ’s and croissants in the morning if you must.

You can maybe do big brunch/fry up on Sunday or Filling Sunday lunch before heading home don’t drag the weekend out too long much past 2pm or 3pm.

Sounds great. Although I bet you end up doing the bar crawl then ending up going straight to bed, or come straight home from the meal to watch films. But either is great and you could just go with what you feel like on the night.

Actually I would prefer to have a couple of drinks in bars before the meal and fit that in that way.

I hope you have a great time x