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AIBU to ask if you would like this hen weekend?

106 replies

DissertationDrama · 13/07/2018 18:59

For 3 bridesmaids (who all know each other) and the bride.

Saturday afternoon
Meet at bride’s house late afternoon for drinks, nibbles and a few hen party style games. Get ready to go out together.

Saturday evening
Go into town together. Italian meal. Bar hop several different cocktails bars with different themes (e.g. one is like a science lab).
Go back to bride’s house and get into pyjamas for films and chocolate. Everybody sleeps over at bride’s (seperate bedrooms).

Sunday morning
Coffee and croissants at bride’s house.
Drive to afternoon tea venue, collecting daughters and grandmothers on the way.

Sunday afternoon
Afternoon tea for 15 ish guests.

What do you think? Would this weekend appeal to you?

OP posts:
MorbidMuch · 13/07/2018 19:58

Lots of lovely ideas there! I'd probably split the hen party games up so you do one at each bar rather than before you go out.

Like others have said, maybe dancing to cheesy music after / or plan for both and make the decision on the night whether to dance or retire to pyjamas and films.

Angelil · 13/07/2018 20:00

Hate "hen party style games" but the rest sounds lovely.

MyNameIsNotSteven · 13/07/2018 20:01

I wouldn't want the hassle of loads of people staying at mine if I were the bride. Other than that it sounds could except that the late night film isn't going to happen everybody will still be getting smashed

Happysunshine1992 · 13/07/2018 20:03

Sounds wonderful, love the idea of a sleepover

theSnuffster · 13/07/2018 20:06

I think it sounds great... Probably wouldn't bother with the film personally, would just carry on drinking then go to bed!

Most hen do's I've been invited to have been long weekends away, very expensive, lots of added extras, sometimes abroad.... So I've had to politely decline. This sounds so much more reasonable!

choli · 13/07/2018 20:07

Sounds like a lovely hen for 4 people, wouldn't work for a bigger crowd, but then I hate large hen parties. A small hen with close friends is much better.

As others have said, book a table in one bar, there is nothing to be gained from bar hopping on a Saturday night. And ditch the hen party games, they are always cringe.

barleyreed · 13/07/2018 20:10

Sounds perfect :)

HarrietKettleWasHere · 13/07/2018 20:10

Too much to fit in one night. So you have games, then have a meal until what time? Then three bars? Then films and pjs?

And you'll all get a decent sleep in to do a load of stuff the next day?

Sorry OP, lovely ideas but too much going on for the time-frame.

I'd probably want to get home on the Sunday too, but that's because I don't like my entire weekend to be taken up by socialising. Also aptld meet people out as would hate getting ready together, never understood it Blush

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 13/07/2018 20:11

Sounds brilliant to me.

Isthisaproblem · 13/07/2018 20:12

Sounds great but is the bride happy hosting? I’d not have been happy having to clean before and after (and usually I’m a happy host). Enough fun for the bride?

StealthPolarBear · 13/07/2018 20:13

Surely the point of bar hopping is new places, new people? If you want to stay in one place stay at home entirely

choli · 13/07/2018 20:23

Surely the point of bar hopping is new places, new people? If you want to stay in one place stay at home entirely

Surely the point of a hen is to spend time chatting and reminiscing with close female friends, not meeting new people?

StealthPolarBear · 13/07/2018 20:24

So why not stay at the brides home and get a take away? What does going out supply other than dirty toilets?

SmellyNelly2018 · 13/07/2018 20:31

It sounds a little bit staid for me especially the bit about getting into PJ’s and a film. Instead of this I suppose you could go to a really nice bar with a seat, nice outlook that your happy to stay in. But personally I don’t mind bar hopping I would also prefer late drinks to the PJ’s and movie option but not too late and the option of a boogie.
I would maybe run it past the bride and or other hens to ensure they would all be happy with this than risk them being disappointed.
I think hen doos have gone mad with costs astronomical which is bonkers. I think this is a more reasonable budget.
If the bride and pals aren’t big on drinking you could maybe hire a nice cabin or cottage somewhere with a hot tub depending on your location, budget time of year etc.
Or a girlie weekend at Center Parcs with a visit to Aqua Sauna if not school hol prices.
Just so you have had a change of scenery but not gone mad with a flight, holiday clothes, hotel and food costs etc.
it really depends on what you all like enjoy but I would tailor it more towards the brides wants and desires than my own.

Madonnasmum · 13/07/2018 20:33

I think it sounds great. I'm in!

AlpacaLypse · 13/07/2018 20:34

Hen party games are usually more successful when everyone involved isn't sober...

Chathamhouserules · 13/07/2018 20:36

Wouldn't like the film at the end. Wouldn't that be about midnight? Either stay out or go to bed. I'd be too tired for a film but staying out would keep my energy up. Sounds fab apart from that.

choli · 13/07/2018 20:41

So why not stay at the brides home and get a take away? What does going out supply other than dirty toilets?

A nice dinner in a nice restaurant beats takeaway for me.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 13/07/2018 20:42

I'd love this. Sounds right up my street. Of course, I'm a wee bit boring but do like my food and drink.

Typhers · 13/07/2018 20:43

But what about the strippers? 🧐

TroubledLichen · 13/07/2018 20:44

It sounds fine. It’s hard to object to as there’s something for everyone which I guess is the point but the flip side is that it’s also hard to get excited about that itinerary. Also if you do games, then dinner, then several different bars unless you’re rushing everyone to down their drinks and sprint between bars I doubt you’ll get back to the house early enough for a film. If you do dinner say 7.30-9.30, then 3 bars for only an hour each it’s then 12.30pm which depending on distance to town likely means home and into pyjamas around 1am. Doubt anyone will stay awake for a movie at that time. I’d either do a night in or a night out, whichever the bride would prefer, and do it properly rather than trying to do both badly.

Pinkprincess1978 · 13/07/2018 20:46

Perfect, I would love this hen do

MrsMozart · 13/07/2018 20:48

Sounds perfect.

BischBaschBosch · 13/07/2018 20:50

After bar hopping cocktails the films and PJs are not going to happen.... everyone will want to go to bed!!

DillyDilly · 13/07/2018 20:53

I think afternoon tea in the Sunday is bad scheduling - the guests that stayed over will probably want to get home.

Could you change this and have the night out Friday night. (Forget the party games, would be a damp squib with just four people. Changing into pj’s and watching movies is lame). Spend Saturday morning lounging around/recovering from night before and then afternoon tea. Saturday for afternoon tea would suit everyone much more than Sunday afternoon.