Are these rules for my lodger too harsh?

[southatsea]

I have a lodger but he has complained that my rules are too strict. So looking to canvas opinion on them!

No loud music or loud TV after 10pm
No smoking
Has to ask my permission before having friends to stay
Use of the bathroom, kitchen and living room but can't use the bathroom between 0645 and 0700 (when I need it to get ready for work)
Plates cutlery etc to be brought downstairs on the day they are used eg no hoarding in bedrooms.

Do these sound too harsh? His room is well furnished with a sofa, double bed, tv etc and I charge below market rent.

[Leapfrog44]

All perfectly reasonable, only objectionable that they're written down as though for a simpleton / teenager.

Surely a normal person would respect all of these anyway if you just ask? What standards of lodger are you inviting into your home???

[twofingerstoEverything]

Where does it say they are 'written' hiphop?

[Lweji]

For lodgers that require such rules to be explicit, the rules should not only be written, but written in a reward chart.

[CutesyUserName]

Perfectly reasonable rules, in my opinion.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

Lweji

[mathanxiety]

Your rules are all completely reasonable, and I would add that nobody but the lodger gets a key to your house. I.e. none of his friends.

If he doesn't like it he can leave.

[SherbrookeFosterer]

So long as they knew the rules before they moved in, there is no room for complaint.

I once had a tenant who hoarded cutlery and uneaten food under his bed, so I know where you are coming from on that one.

[mathanxiety]

Even if the rules were drawn up by you after he moved in and you discovered that he smoked in his room, kept cutlery/dishes there, hogged the bathroom every morning, played loud music, and had a steady stream of friends in and out of your house, you are still reasonable.

If you didn't have the rules in place when he moved in you were a bit naive, but introducing them after the fact is still fine. Some people are not civilised, and the saying 'if you want to know someone, live with them' holds true.

[whathappenedtomyusername]

Legal team. Ah shit that has made my day.
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[clippityclock]

sunshades I'd give you 2 weeks notice to get out of my house if you tried that crap. What an unpleasant person you are.

I've had lodgers and friends staying during the week while in the process of moving. All have asked what time I needed the bathroom to get to work etc and then also said what time they would need to leave and we worked around it. Both letting the other have the best time and avoided going in during 'their' time. Its manners and cohesive living.

[Ippydippyskyblue]

Umm, we have a 23 year old son and despite my nagging, he always stays out until after 10pm because the clubs don’t come to life until then and from my own experience, he’s right. He doesn’t put dishes, etc that day, despite nagging and threats of mice. However, to be fair, he doesn’t smoke in his bedroom and he does ask if friends can stay over in advance.
He’s about to move back in after four years at university and I think he’s making the most of every second before he moves back home. Personally, I’m dreading it, because he and I do clash big time. We’re so alike...
Back to the calming breathing exercises they teach you for giving birth...again.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

Legal team. Ah shit that has made my day.

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I'm looking forward to it . . .