To suggest a FB group seller remove pics of her daughters

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A local FB selller in a group posted an ad for a mans wedding ring. There were four pics, one large pic of two little girls aged approx 3 and 4 in summer nightwear on a bed. To the left were three pics of a ring in a box.

I pm'd the poster and gently suggested she might not want pictures of children in the ad. She has just unleashed a tirade of abuse at me. I've reported it to group admin but she is clearly furious and can't see anything wrong because she justifies it with "they are not nude".

Ffs Why would anyone want to post pics of their children in their nightwear on a selling site?

I've blocked her now so I don't have to read her nasty anger. But safeguarding is everyone's responsibility surely?

Safeguarding what exactly?

You're an unreasonable busybody.

Genuinely not our business. Ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ok, so I am. If you'd seen the pic you might have a different opinion.

Your

YABU. You’re an interfering busy body

Ok thanks everyone. I hear ya.

If I were selling jewellery I'd only put pics of the ring on the site.

Yeah me too.

I'm sure she was aware her children were in the photo, so was capable of making the decision. Maybe she likes using family business as selling point. There are plenty of images of kids on online shops selling kids clothes in their nightwear. It was pretty patronising to comment to her like that.

In the niceset possible way, did you really think that having seen and posted the picture herself without seeing a problem, a message from a random was going to make her go ‘oh yes thanks I’ll take it down” ?

Some people are idiots but you can’t go round sticking your beak in because you’d do things differently. It really wasn’t any of your business. I agree with your thoughts though, just not your actions.

Me three OP.... Why put pics of your kids on a sale site?!

Wow. You don't deserve the nasty comments above!

I would have probably done the same if the poster had put a photo of their kids not relating to the item guessing it was a mistake. YANBU

My message to her was asking if it was a mistake. They are wearing tiny shorts and it's taken from above so you can almost see up the legs of the shorts. Just so madly off I figured it must have been a mistake. But hey, apparently I have a long beak.
I don't care if I was BU, I reported it to group mods and I think it's now gone. So that's a result. Poor girls.

You did the right thing.

Poor girls? Jesus that's a bit dramatic.
Honestly I'd think you were a little bit mad if I had that message.

I would report the pictures to facebook directly. I honestly would trust your gut feeling. If they say no etc you have done everything you can. Honestly, the fact u contacted the Mom and posted here tells that your gut is telling you.

My mistake was to PM her. I should have just reported it. Lesson learned.

"I should have just reported it."

To whom? For what?

"I would report the pictures to facebook directly."

For what?

Some people really are idiots.

Please tell me you logged it with 101!

Op I think your very well intentioned. I saw a woman ranting that her photo had been removed after someone reported it. Naked baby in this bath. I love these kinds of photos of mine but wouldn't dream of sharing them online. Some people may not have an awareness of online dangers being real.

I think one has to take the attitude that just because you wouldn't do something, it doesn't mean someone else can't do it, as long as it's legal!

If they're comfortable with it, I think it's not someone else's call to assume they have been negligent, although it's not so bad if you phrased it as maybe a mistake. The mum shouldn't have abused you, but people are understandably touchy about feeling it even implied they haven't taken sufficient care with their kids.

Whenever a MNetter ‘gently points something out’ it means they stick their beak in whilst wearing hobnail boots

Poor girls? What on earth are you talking about? What danger did you think her children were in?

Ridiculous busybodying. Not saying you deserved a tirade of abuse but if you'd done the same to me I'd probably have been pretty annoyed too.

I wholeheartedly agree with you op! Just why post pics of the little ones online, nothing to do with the rings!

Ywnbu.