To suggest a FB group seller remove pics of her daughters

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A local FB selller in a group posted an ad for a mans wedding ring. There were four pics, one large pic of two little girls aged approx 3 and 4 in summer nightwear on a bed. To the left were three pics of a ring in a box.

I pm'd the poster and gently suggested she might not want pictures of children in the ad. She has just unleashed a tirade of abuse at me. I've reported it to group admin but she is clearly furious and can't see anything wrong because she justifies it with "they are not nude".

Ffs Why would anyone want to post pics of their children in their nightwear on a selling site?

I've blocked her now so I don't have to read her nasty anger. But safeguarding is everyone's responsibility surely?

It's a selling site. She was selling a ring. What has a pic of little girls dressed in anything in any related to her selling a ring?

Weird people out there. Not sure if it's reportable though OP, but if at all worried don't PM people you don't know, just flag to mods as irrelevant to the site and let them deal with it.

I reported it to the FB selling group mods. Not the police ffs.

Kids in clothes.....why is that a safeguarding issue??

I wouldn't post pics of my kids in an ad but I can't see what the issue is. They've got clothes on :/

I don't see how 'summer nightwear' for three and four year olds is any different from their day clothes.

My DD has modelled pyjamas for an online clothing store before.
What do exactly do you thinks going to happen to her?

You were totally in the right OP. There was no point in her little kids in pjs being in the pics. She wasn’t selling pjs she was selling rings. Those kids are too young to have themselves splashed on the internet without their express choice. The least parents can do is ensure nothing is put on that could embarrass them in the future

But it's not your decision? I don't understand!

OP well done my dear , you did the right thing . She was furious because you made her realise she was in the wrong to do it hence attacking you because of her guilt.

oh gawd!sometimes mumsnet is outrageous. it seems to me-your concerns were actually quite valid-you assumed the sellers innocence of her mistake with pics and how viewed and who by.to be honest if i had posted id rather one well meaning even if portraid here as busybody pointing out a possible concern..than whatever yuk outcome not pointing it out would possibly conjure up...i dunno how fb works.reporting leave you anon but rapid result?that would do.op always go with your gut reaction.nobody has to agree with ya.its cool

I'm sorely tempted to share the pic so those of you who cannot see what's wring can decide. But that would be gravely wrong. Suffice it to say if you saw it you might see why I was shocked.

Why are people constantly looking for something to be offended about these days? You can control your own behaviour but not everyone elses.

But why were you shocked? What was so indecent about these photos?

FGS,so her kids are in a pic in their nightweat, it's not as though they were artfully posed naked.

OP, your heart is clearly in the right place, and I can see you were genuinely trying to offer gentle advice, but quite often when parents feel judged or like they are being 'parent shamed' the response will be defensive, especially in a situation like this where it's quite a sensitive matter. I think it might have been best to have reported to the group admin and let them decide whether the pic was inappropriate. Put it to the back of your mind now.

So she’s selling a mans ring but purposely included photos of 2 very young children in small summer nightwear posing on a bed. I would question that too, it’s a very odd thing really isn’t it? Yes the girls were just about covered but why was the photo there, it’s nothing to do with the ring?

OP ignore the people saying you are bu. Yanbu. I would have wanted to be told if I had accidently put a photo of my (semi dressed) kids on a public selling site. Are people seriously questioning why this was an issue? Exactly the same reason as when people post photos to Facebook, they set their settings to private because you don't want any Tom, Dick and Dickhead having access to photos of your kids. Just because some people think you are over reacting doesn't mean you are. Let them crack on. Well done OP.

Completely flummoxed as to why a picture of pre school children you don’t know wearing their pyjamas has got you so het up

Suffice it to say if you saw it you might see why I was shocked.

Can you see their genitals? Or are they wearing summer pyjamas that cover them properly? Children legs, arms and stomach are not inappropriate btw

She was furious because you made her realise she was in the wrong to do it hence attacking you because of her guilt

Seriously?!
Nothing to do with a stranger poking their nose in?
People post pictures they want to post. They don't expect someone to tell them they shouldn't.

It’s possibly not the actual photo, it’s why a photo of girls in very little clothes would be posted in an advert selling a mans wedding ring, it’s not the women’s personal feed, it’s an advert on a selling site for a mans ring, why on earth would you include a photo of your children in small night clothes posing on a bed unless it’s an accident?

I will not be drawn into a graphic description, that would be feeding the baiting.

You'll have to take my word for it that as a sales pic for a man's wedding ring it was not a picture in which you would want your daughters included.

Suffice it to say if you saw it you might see why I was shocked

But we won't be seeing it so you are expecting us to take your word for it.
You can't post the picture because you've already judged it as inappropriate.
No point in the thread really.

It was probably an accident.

What was the actual message you sent though?

I think your 'gently suggesting' was probably rude and interfering and that was the problem here.

Either way the kids were in their PJs. Do you get similarly ranty about pictures of kids on the beach or swimming?