To suggest a FB group seller remove pics of her daughters

[flamingnoravera]

A local FB selller in a group posted an ad for a mans wedding ring. There were four pics, one large pic of two little girls aged approx 3 and 4 in summer nightwear on a bed. To the left were three pics of a ring in a box.

I pm'd the poster and gently suggested she might not want pictures of children in the ad. She has just unleashed a tirade of abuse at me. I've reported it to group admin but she is clearly furious and can't see anything wrong because she justifies it with "they are not nude".

Ffs Why would anyone want to post pics of their children in their nightwear on a selling site?

I've blocked her now so I don't have to read her nasty anger. But safeguarding is everyone's responsibility surely?

I'm baffled. Was there something more to it than just children in pyjamas? You are being very obtuse.

I've reported this thread. I will not disclose details of the picture to feed any more speculation. I should have kept it to myself. I wish I had.

You said you could almost see up their shorts. So, you couldn’t...so what’s the problem?

Suffice it to say if you saw it you might see why I was shocked

So why were you so shocked? All we've been told was they were in night clothes, which is not shocking

Reported the thread for what?!

Op, before it disappears, I think the whole thing is off and it gives me the creeps. I hope it was an accident and she had that defensive response, I fully understand why you would have questioned it. Strange responses on here tonight.

Op it does sound very strange. I agree that reporting to the mods is probably better than contacting the person directly.
Let them decide if it's acceptable in their group.

You'll have to take my word for it that as a sales pic for a man's wedding ring it was not a picture in which you would want your daughters included.

Why the weird emphasis on it being a man’s wedding ring? Would the photo be less inappropriate if the seller was advertising a woman’s wedding ring instead?

Isn’t that just including details, like saying it’s an ad for a double bed rather than just saying an ad for a bed?

I'm glad you've reported it to the admins op. I completely understand where you are coming from.

Does anyone not think how peadophiles manage to come into contact with young children. They are 'sold' to them.

For example, a 'for sale' post of bed, upon which a child lays, while wearing little more than a crop top and pants. "Sorry," writes the seller, "this is the only photo I had" really? The pictures could so easily be code for 'child available'. Are people really so naïve?

If the item is unrelated to the child then the child does not need to be there. And yes, peados do get off on pictures of kids in underwear from catalogues. There's a reason why child abusers are banned from having them in prison.

I've had a message from the mods of the group and they agreed it was off and it was them not her that removed it. They have supported my action and will let the poster know why.

Mini, that exactly what my thoughts were, I thought maybe I was being way off the mark finding it creepy or reaching that thought.

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I'm sorely tempted to share the pic so those of you who cannot see what's wring can decide. But that would be gravely wrong. Suffice it to say if you saw it you might see why I was shocked.

So you think the post has been removed..... but you saved the picture yourself first?

Sorry, but you've not presented well here.

I have literally 1000s of pictures of my kids and grandkids on FB. None nude, but many in swimming cozzies etc

Its up to each parent. Not you.

Rachie it’s not on her fb feed, it’s on a selling site for an advert for a wedding ring, like putting it in your eBay auction photos, nothing like sharing on your private sm feed for family and friends.

Thanks mini and all of you who seem to understand. It's exactly the stuff you mention that made me deeply uncomfortable.

mini That’s clearly not the case here. And I am far far from naive.

It’s been an error, not children for sale.

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Rachie it’s not on her fb feed, it’s on a selling site for an advert for a wedding ring, like putting it in your eBay auction photos, nothing like sharing on your private sm feed for family and friends

She says it's on a FB selling page. I know what they are. In fact I have a few things up at the moment, including a paddling pool, hence my swimming costume comment.

Lots of people have their feed set to public, again, it's up to them to parent. Not us.

Unless you are the seller nicky you cannot be so certain. And yes, people are very naive as to how things happen under their noses.

It might have been an error, the seller might have taken a photo of her children before the rings and accidentally selected them all when posting her sale.

However; I do maintain my stance, from knowledge, that there are people who will do this sort of thing in order to sell sex with a child.

mini What knowledge is that? And I ask that as someone which has working knowledge of sex offences.

Offender management. Not all 'pimps' are sex offenders themselves, the same as not all drug dealers use themselves.

Have you not seen the eBay posts where it is clearly not a pair of stockings which is being sold? While it is unlikely, this might be no different. Safeguarding is everyone's responsibility.

I honestly do hope that it was accidental on her part. And that was my approach in my private message to her. It was the torrent of abuse that my message prompted that was so hard to bear as are some of the responses here but it is AIBU so I have to take it on the chin.

mini CID.

@Nicknacky, we appreciate your work in keeping our jobs safe 😉

I was never, ever trying to give the impression that i thought it was anything more sinister than a stupid mistake, an ill thought through posting on FB. I was was however shocked at being called a slut and a cunt for asking her if it was a mistake.