We are pregnant with our first child. It's a boy, I make no secret of longing for a DD one day and have mentioned to family that if our next baby is also a boy I would like to try for a third.
Now this is all very hypothetical, we might decide that one is enough or we can't have any more or that two is more than enough etc. But I did mention that trying for that girl is definitely not off the table. Husband agrees that two would be the ideal but three is a possibility.
Anyway, I flippantly said this months ago when we found out baby was a boy. Now, every time I see MIL she brings it up in conversation. It usually goes along the lines of "three is too many, you won't be able to cope, how will you afford three, you won't be able to look after them properly(?!)" etc. I am one of three myself and almost exploded at the last comment... like I wasn't brought up properly because I have two other siblings. What. Anyway, it's really grating on me now, we don't know ourselves how many children we will have or want. Would I be unreasonable to politely tell her it's none of her business how many children we may or may not have.
Additional info: we are both mid 30s, working, well paid, responsible, own our own home, don't depend on parents for anything, won't need them for childcare etc. I have a great relationship with MIL, If that helps.
Maybe there is a something I am missing, why is wanting three kids such a drama?
Anyway, points of view appreciated.