To think he isn't just that into me?

[Lilylo]

Hi all, I am feeling a bit down and I'd love some perspective on the situation I am currently dealing with.

I met this guy on OLD nearly 6 weeks ago. We had 6 dates, all went really well, loads of chemistry and laughter. We slept together 3 times, including tonight. Plenty of daily texting in between dates, which he mostly initiated. I thought he was really keen on me.

Today we had a great date, we stayed out for drinks and we had a lovely time. He kept hinting at things to do together in the future (like watching a theater play). We went back to his and we DTD. After that, I playfully approached the subject of sleeping with other people, as I felt that after DTD 3 times (today was the third time) I did not feel comfortable with the possibility of him sleeping with other women, while he was sleeping with me regularly. He also has issues with condoms, so I said if he gets tested we could consider going condom-free, since I am on the pill.

I made it quite clear that I was not asking about relationship exclusivity, just sex exclusivity.

He said he was not sleeping with anyone else and that he thought we should see "where this thing between us goes". Then he initiated DTD again, just to lose an erection as soon as he put the condom on. He then blamed the conversation about sex we just had, as he said it was "playing on his mind". Then he said he wanted me to sleep over and just cuddle.

I woke up at 2am in his bed (and in his arms) and got dressed and left (I need to go to work tomorrow). We said goodbye but it felt awkward.

I don't like the way this exchange made me feel and I don't think this bodes well for the future. I don't think that asking whether he is sleeping with other people 6 weeks in is an outrageous thing to do?

AIBU to think that after this I should just move on, because he clearly isn't as into me as he should be by now?

If I was dating someone and they suggesting going condom free for penis-in-vagina sex after six weeks, I'd be very wary. I'd feel rushed and pressured. Six weeks is nothing! No matter how much you chat every day, you are still very new people to one another at six weeks. Christ.

It would suggest to me that our boundaries weren't compatible.

I’m always very surprised at people not using condoms really early in a relationship, I think I was brought up with all the HIV ads on tv so I’d be v wary of a man who wanted to not use them.
A close friend rarely uses them as she has a coil. She then was upset at getting an std after being with a guy for less than a month. They haven’t used condoms at all.
I think it sounds like your 2am flit after him losing his erection made him doubt things too. Just slow down the serious chat. Have fun and date.

I agree with Bluntness. She has posted logical and sound reasonings.

@Bluntness100 you can't possibly tell what he does or doesn't want. None of us can, the OP needs to have a proper talk with him.

Pleased for you op, enjoy Sunday

How did the date go?

How did Sunday go op?
Hope you had a good time

Ice it was really amazing! We ended up spending the whole afternoon and evening together. He was really nice and affectionate, he cooked dinner for me, and he even went to the shop to buy my favorite wine! We also made plans for things to do together in August.He said that getting to spend Sunday with me was the best part of his week

He apologized for reacting awkwardly to that conversation, he said he was taken by surprise and he did not know how to react. I also said I was sorry for bringing it up in such an inappropriate situation. I decided not to discuss that any further until the situation is more mature, and he seemed to agree, as we naturally left the conversation there and moved onto another topic.

The whole day felt amazing and I am now a lot less worried about where this is going, as he showed me he cares about me and that is all I need to know at this stage

Whoooopsssss NC fail

Good outcome!

Great!! 😊

Yes move on
Someone else will be easier and better for you as a pp said

Always rtft...