I'm 99% sure I'm not.

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Have 2 DCs with DP both boys and both very much wanted and loved. However I know that DP and both sets of DGPs hoped for a girl when I was pregnant with DS2 (obviously they love both DCs the same and it's not a huge deal but I know they all hoped for a girl) - I wasn't fussed either way.

I found the first few months with DS1 extremely hard and looking back probably had mild undiagnosed PND. DS2 has been a lot different and I've coped a lot better but mainly struggling with sleep as he's still a baby and I'm EBF so all wakings are on me.
Since he was born I've had "are you going to try for a girl next?" From (albeit lovely) MIL who currently has 5DGCs who are all boys and both DGMs asking if they'll get to buy little dresses in the near future and other general remarks about hoping for a DGD.
DP has also asked to have another DC and by the sounds of it also in the hopes of having a girl - I know he will love a boy too but he's often talked about wanting one of each.

I've told him after DC2 that I'm done and happy with 2 DCs. He still often jokes about having another or jokes and talks about having a girl next. I know he'd love another DC as he's expressed if enough.
Also SIL cannot and does not want to have anymore and I know that in MILs eyes it has defaulted me as a last hope to have a DGD which is probably where the comments are coming from.

Realistically I'm happy with 2, I'm glad knowing that after this one I will not have to go through anymore sleep regressions and I'm just thankful for two OK pregnancies and 2 lovely DCs. And I know since I don't want another that should be it and end of the topic as its my body and all that jazz.

Then why do I feel myself questioning my decision and sometimes wanting to just make DP happy and try for another and wondering if I'll regret not doing it down the line?

AIBU to just tell him that I don't want to hear any more allusions about another DC and to tell everyone to stop asking?

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YANBU

Tell any grandparents if they want more girls in the family then they can have them!

It is your choice if you want more children, not anyone else's. Also, would they\your partner show favouritism if you had a daughter?

On a personal note, I have four boys. There was always the possibility of having girl(s) but we didn't. We could have kept on having babies until we had a girl, but could have ended up with one baby a year until I hit the menopause and never had a girl. Wasn't bothered about having one anyway, secretly preferred boys, but would have been happy with a girl.

(DHs dad would have liked a girl eventually though. My mum has granddaughters from my sister, so didn't 'ask' for girls, she was only concerned about DGC being healthy anyway. We had some grandsons for her! DHs parents were 'happy' with anything, they thought we should have stopped after 2 children though, so were a bit shocked when we had more. There were a couple of comments about having a girl when I was pregnant with DS3, but no comments about trying for a girl. It was obvious that DHs dad would have spoilt a DGD rotten, so I was happy there was not a DGD to show favouritism to! The fears about a girl came when DHs bro finally had a child. I (like everyone else) wanted them to have a healthy baby, but knew there would be a lot of favouritism if they had a girl, so was secretly relieved when they had a boy!))

Well if the grannies want to buy tiny dresses and play dress up you'd be better off buying them each a Baby Annabelle. Even if you decide to have number 3 and do have a girl there are no guarantees she'll be happy in the clouds of pink, frilly, sequin, unicorn, kittens & puppies fluff that some people can't see past for little girls. My oldest Dd is 16 now, I can't remember when she last wore a dress or make-up, but she is her own, strong person. At age 3 I remember her saying to mil in a shop when trying to be persuaded into some monstrosity of a dress "well you can buy it, but that doesn't mean I'll wear it" may have had to hide behind pillar at that point to fist pump. DD2 is 9 (& incidentally as we'd had DS in between mil decided we must've had a "happy accident" and proceeded to tell all her friends and family, until DH pointed out that 3rd time round we knew what we were doing and dd2 was v much planned). She loves clothes, loves to critique an outfit, loves a dress but is just as likely to come down with a football strip on, or dungarees, today she couldn't decide so she kept her pj's on.

Other way round, but knew a family determined to have a son, which they managed on the seventh attempt. I sometimes wonder how DD's 2,3,4,5 and 6 felt as it dawned on them that they were all "better luck next time"....

paceyswife sorry I know it’s far back in the thread but people always say to me they ‘feel sorry for my poor dad’ when they find out I have 3 sisters 😡.

His hormonal mood swings would be difficult for any teenage girl to achieve.