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Original poster

To be so embarrassed?

75 replies

Wawaa · 08/07/2018 20:13

Went out for drinks with friends during the match yesterday. Obviously England won so high spirits, and everyone chatty. I’m a young, single 23 year old girl and very chatty - get very chatty when tipsy too! I speak Italian so randomly asked the group next to me if they were Italian - tipsily practised my Italian with one of the blokes and had a bit of a banter but in hindsight he was quite dismissive and not that nice! I even followed them out for a cigarette like a little lost sheep before coming to my senses (he was trying to get rid!!) and going back in

I’m so embarrassed! I was with some old friends and a couple of their friends (two couples, very chilled) and while I don’t think anyone really noticed, in my head I’ve really magnified it and concerned am a bit of a sad desperate spinster! Don’t want to be a laughing stock :(

OP posts:
Disquieted1 · 08/07/2018 20:17

YABU.
This is very low down on the embarrassment scale. You'll do a lot worse over the years!

9amTrain · 08/07/2018 20:17

You're not a laughing stock! Really, don't even think about it for another second. It's a nothing situation. They won't be thinking about it today either.

MellowMelly · 08/07/2018 20:20

Really it’s fine. You were tipsy. No harm done and I doubt you’ll be a laughing stock!!
If it makes you feel any better I pissed myself repetitively while being escorted home by a male friend once and then stood outside my Mums house shouting for half hour because I couldn’t get in. No one cared apart from me and my male friend was fine with me the next dayGrin

Singlenotsingle · 08/07/2018 20:21

Embarrassed? Really? You'll have to do better than that! (And at 23 you're just a young girl, not a spinster)

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 08/07/2018 20:23

Okay this is easy for me to say but Let's put things into perspective. You're a young women you went out and got pissed and acted well like a pissed person. It's not the end of the flipping world. These things happen on a nIght out. I guarantee last night 1000s of people would have made
"a show" of them selves, last night.

coolncalm · 08/07/2018 20:24

Absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. Dont worry, enjoy your young years.

Original poster
Wawaa · 08/07/2018 20:25

It wasn’t a night out though! It was about 5pm, and I was two glasses of wine down (albeit on an empty stomach). I think I’m attractive blah blah but made me feel like shit and really ugly!! (I know that’s my problem)

OP posts:
DrinkFeckArseGirls · 08/07/2018 20:27

What being attractive or not has to do with anything? Confused

cmlover · 08/07/2018 20:27

this is drunk guilt.

it'll pass, as your hang over does..

but don't worry, I don't think you embarrassed your self, I'd rarther see chatty happy people then drunks sliding insults at people.
I love when out and people start chatting, and inwould esp have loved a language lesson Grin

RoseWhiteTips · 08/07/2018 20:27

You think you’re really attractive? Maybe he didn’t.

RoseWhiteTips · 08/07/2018 20:28

You sound like a teenager.

DextroDependant · 08/07/2018 20:28

I bet not one single other person that was there has given it a second thought. Don't beat yourself up over it.

Silhouetta · 08/07/2018 20:29

Wow rosewhite!

cmlover · 08/07/2018 20:30

I think she means she diesnt normally think she's ugly but how the people reacted has made her feel ugly.

she's not trying to say how dare they I'm wooop attractive.

Westworld · 08/07/2018 20:35

You’re 23 - so young and lovely. Don’t let one arsehole get you down. Some men get off on this.
You should not be embarrassed! It’s just the Fear.

BlancheM · 08/07/2018 20:36

You should've seen what my local high street was like last night, fucking hellfire now there was some mortifying behaviour going on.
Over enthusiastic chit chat is small fry compared to that. So you got pied, nevermind it might be you doing the pieing next time!

Theyvallgone · 08/07/2018 20:40

RoseWhite - you also sound like a teenager. The bullying kind.

Zioanna · 08/07/2018 20:42

You’ve got the fear. It’ll pass.

Joey7t8 · 08/07/2018 20:44

So you basically fancied someone, showed a him a bit of interest, but he didn’t fancy you back?

We’ve all been there. Nothing to be embarrassed about.

Lollypops20181 · 08/07/2018 20:44

It's a hangover, they get worse with age! It's just the fear. Believe me it's not embarrassing and guessing if you saw him in sobriety you wouldn't be in to him either. Word of advice, up your self esteem game!

Get some rest, relax and enjoy your weekend x

VladmirsPoutine · 08/07/2018 20:45

This is what is known as 'the fear'. Yes you probably did look like a bit silly but in the grand scheme of things people have done and said worse. In this weather and with the football people seem to give zero fucks about losing control of their senses. In a few days you'll stop re-living it so drastically.

RWT is your common garden variety troll. Spreads her venom among threads but doesn't tip the scales far enough to get banned.

DriftwoodFascinator · 08/07/2018 20:46

You should've seen what my local high street was like last night, fucking hellfire now there was some mortifying behaviour going on.

I live on a similar street. Bloody hell I'm embarrassed for some of the people crashing about here recently.

Btw, OP - at 23, you're a woman, not a girl.

MaMaMaMySharona · 08/07/2018 20:47

23 isn’t a “young girl”, it’s a “young woman”. I have done FAR worse than this and I still look back in horror Blush

Don’t worry at all, the fear will pass Smile

Amyerda · 08/07/2018 20:48

it's the bevvy blues and paranoia. The fear indeed. Shall pass. The guy sounds like a prick btw

Silhouetta · 08/07/2018 20:48

Thanks, I didn’t even like him embarrassingly! Don’t know why I bothered chatting, like I said I just get very chatty! The worst thing is the idea that other people noticed and thought I was a fool. I’m really hoping they didn’t