To be so embarrassed?

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Went out for drinks with friends during the match yesterday. Obviously England won so high spirits, and everyone chatty. I’m a young, single 23 year old girl and very chatty - get very chatty when tipsy too! I speak Italian so randomly asked the group next to me if they were Italian - tipsily practised my Italian with one of the blokes and had a bit of a banter but in hindsight he was quite dismissive and not that nice! I even followed them out for a cigarette like a little lost sheep before coming to my senses (he was trying to get rid!!) and going back in

I’m so embarrassed! I was with some old friends and a couple of their friends (two couples, very chilled) and while I don’t think anyone really noticed, in my head I’ve really magnified it and concerned am a bit of a sad desperate spinster! Don’t want to be a laughing stock :(

Oh bugger name change fail. There ya go

Dont worry about it op. Nowone else probably noticed a thing.

Oh OP I hate that feeling so much.

The day after the night before, embarrassment is magnified massively! It doesn't sound all that bad, and you'll likely have forgotten in a couple of days. The day after always seems like it was awful though!

I'd say that's boringly inconsequential as far as embarrassing scenarios go. Nothing to worry about, OP, happens to the best of us!

You’ve got The Fear, it’s shit, I remember it well.
It will pass!
You need to give yourself permission to make mistakes, be human, not be perfect.
By the time you are 40 you’ll be happy to mentally tell anyone to get to fuck if they have a problem with you. But for now be young and gorgeous and make a promise that you will never give yourself a hard time again.

Alcohol is a foe! OP I am 44 and I have come off the booze and when I do drink - I get paralytic

Yesterday I fell over at Wedding , swore in front of kids and was so pissed I couldn’t sleep for remorse

So your minor flirting efforts are just that

Forget the rude Italian twat x

Crikey. When I was drunk and 23... no, let's not go there!

Seriously, there could be any number of reasons why he wasn't interested in you which have nothing to do with you or your relative attractiveness.

Most of the time most people are completely unaware of each others' embarrasment/insecurities (far too busy dwelling on their own). So don't stress it! Oh, and, if you can quit smoking before you're 25 your lungs are probably still young enough to completely regenerate - I've never checked if this is true (someone told me once when I was young and used to smoke) but it's worth bearing in mind.

OP when I think back to some of the creeps and letches who would pester me on a night out and refuse to take no for an answer you really have nothing to be embarrassed about. You took the hint and came back inside. Really, you were just a bit merry. Nothing at all to be embarrassed about.

I think I’m attractive blah blah but made me feel like shit and really ugly!!

Are you used to getting a lot of male attention and perhaps not used to this mans dismissive attitude of you?

Anyway, you shouldn't feel embarrassed, you've done nothing wrong.

Yes I know but it’s more socially acceptable for women to be pestered isn’t it. Obviously I’ve had my fair share of drunken creeps but it’s a not a nice feeling to see yourself as one!

We have all done daft things, just forget it.

Oh god, there are so many more embarrassing things that will happen to you in your life. You have no idea.

Glory in your youth and beauty and try not to give a fuck :-)

Not lots of male attention but I get my fair share especially when I dress up/make an effort. Not happy with my figure atm abs have gained some weight and it’s making me paranoid. It didn’t help that one of the couples at the table we’re talking about how they met (the girl started the conversation) and I think that gave me Dutch courage to start convos. I’m very chatty and sociable but didn’t even really fancy the guy, it’s just shit being knocked back

I've done far more embarrassing things over the years, most of them stone cold sober. I blame my autism but I still cringe & hope everyone else has complete amnesia.

You have beer fear ....it passes ..I know from experience

Meh, at worse you probably looked a bit daft but it's not like you clung to his leg as he tried to leave.

Many folks have had the dawning realisation the next day that their sparkling repartee probably wasn't what they thought it was but honestly, there'll be people up and down the land today completely morto about their antics. This is not so bad!

I do think you're being a bit silly. As others have said, it really isn't that bad and no doubt it won't be the only embarrassing thing you ever do, nor the worst!

I do however think your age comes across in your reaction to what happened. Rather than thinking about whether you embarrassed yourself, what others thought of you, why this man didn't respond to your chattiness when you think you're attractive etc, it might help to put things in perspective by thinking of him as a living, breathing human being and not just "a man" who "didn't fancy" me and dwelling on how this reflects on you.

He may have been in a relationship and not too interested in striking up random conversations with chatty young women.

He may have just wanted some quality time with his mates.
He may have had a recent break-up and not be in the mindset of looking at other women that way just yet.
Or, you may just not have been his type, attractive or not.

I promise I mean this when I say I don't want to come across as being nasty, but sometimes people not being interested in us is nothing to do with us and everything to do with them, and it sounds like you might benefit from giving others a little more consideration sometimes.

Haha, I like the phrase ‘beer fear’. You’ve done nothing wrong, cringing the day after the night before is par for the course. Certain songs bring back horrifically embarrassing moments for me that still make me cringe 15 years later!

Just brazen it out if anyone takes the piss, but it really doesn’t sound too bad at all 😉

There is a certain type of person on Mumsnet who, when someone posts something like “I think I’m attractive”, sees red and start to put the boot in with their “Oh you think you’re REALLY attractive” crap. Ignore them OP. It’s not you, it’s just any woman. I hear those posts in my mind as if they have a fag hanging out if their mouths and are in stained pyjamas.

And yes, brazen it out if anyone does say anything when you’ve had a drink. Practise saying “So what, I was drunk!” and dismissing them 👍

don't worry hun.we all do silly things.this time next week it wont mean a thing.or it wont if you don't let it linger.dont cling to it.laugh and go "you silly twat silhouette" then wrap your arms around yourself and go "yes but im a lovely kind of twat" and then move onwards.
not every guy will fancy us back.not everyone will be in the mood for boozy fun.it doesn't mean tthere is anything wrong with you at all.in this heat I don't want anyone 'in my space! lol'
honestly don't think on it.its all fine.relax this evening do something cosy and just remember your human.
and if this is the worst you ever do youl be sooo lucky hehe.

We’ve all done something when drunk that we’re embarrassed about when we sober up. It’s a horrible feeling! 23 is still very young given that you’re not long out of your terms and you may live till your 70+ so ignore the nasties on here.
As a pp said, brazen it out if it’s ever referred to by saying, “Oh my god I was so drunk and the next day when I realised how I’d behaved I was mortified.”

This my friend is post alcohol anxiety! It's super common and it gets worse with age!

No you weren't a nob. Nobody will have remembered! It's literally your hangover speaking

Basically he's knocked your self confidence. He probably did find you attractive, but some men enjoy putting an attractive woman down. Don't give it another thought Op.

You feel like shit and ugly because this one bloke wasn’t particularly interested in your chat?

Look...at the risk of sounding a bit callous, you need to understand that men are not obliged to entertain you, pissed up or sober. He was allowed to not be charmed by you. It doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong and doesn’t reflect on your physical appearance at all. Men are entitled to be disinterested, just as we are. Forget it.