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To be so embarrassed?

75 replies

Wawaa · 08/07/2018 20:13

Went out for drinks with friends during the match yesterday. Obviously England won so high spirits, and everyone chatty. I’m a young, single 23 year old girl and very chatty - get very chatty when tipsy too! I speak Italian so randomly asked the group next to me if they were Italian - tipsily practised my Italian with one of the blokes and had a bit of a banter but in hindsight he was quite dismissive and not that nice! I even followed them out for a cigarette like a little lost sheep before coming to my senses (he was trying to get rid!!) and going back in

I’m so embarrassed! I was with some old friends and a couple of their friends (two couples, very chilled) and while I don’t think anyone really noticed, in my head I’ve really magnified it and concerned am a bit of a sad desperate spinster! Don’t want to be a laughing stock :(

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 08/07/2018 21:59

Oh we all want to be seen as irresistible.
However in reality you know it's never going to happen. Everyone appeals to someone but no one appeals to everyone.

angelikacpickles · 08/07/2018 22:01

You've got The Fear. It's grand. No one noticed. You'll be fine.

Rozzzzzalmost35 · 08/07/2018 22:02

It's THE FEAR. I hate it, but have learned to live with it! X

frasier · 08/07/2018 22:07

Everyone else will be busy having their own fear, they won’t be thinking about yours.

KC225 · 08/07/2018 22:14

You sound charming. Chatty, friendly and trying to make someone feel welcome. It was a special occasion - you didn't embarrass yourself. Browse some of the Facebook videos, the 35-40 year jumping through the shelter for a start off.

Old spinster at 23 - go and have a look at the cost of your car insurance. That is painful reminder of how young you are.

Dopplerineffect · 08/07/2018 22:42

We all get the fear

To be so embarrassed?
KokoandAllBall · 09/07/2018 02:21

You think you’re really attractive? Maybe he didn’t.

Maybe he wasn't evaluating her attractiveness levels at all but just didn't want to speak to a new person.

He may have found her stunning, but was having a bad day. Or wasn't happy that England had just won.

Aus84 · 09/07/2018 02:42

Haha, don't worry OP, I think most of us have embarrassed ourselves at some point. It's quite likely that your friends were tipsy too and didn't even notice. You'll soon learn to just laugh at yourself and move on with life x

RoseWhiteTips · 09/07/2018 12:32

We’ve all been there? No we haven’t.

Silhouetta · 09/07/2018 17:31

Rosewhite - because you’re a keyboard warrior/sweaty teenage boy who never leaves their room I assume 🙃

BMW6 · 09/07/2018 17:37

Rosewhite - because you’re a keyboard warrior/sweaty teenage boy who never leaves their room I assume

fab smackdown Grin

ScreamingValenta · 09/07/2018 17:39

This will have passed totally unnoticed in a lively pub. You spoke to them, went out for a cig, then moved on. Nothing to see here!

PeckhamPauline · 09/07/2018 18:24

What you did is nothing and no-one will even remember it. If you'd launched yourself at the man and snogged him, perhaps!

Having said that, you sound like a bit of a flirt. Maybe try to rein that in as it's not an attractive trait.

HotSauceCommittee · 09/07/2018 18:33

Ive done far worse, OP, unfortunately, not even when I was young and lovely.
You’ll never see him again probably.

AlwaysAToDoList · 09/07/2018 18:40

So you’re embarrassed because you know you’re attractive and he wasn’t interested?

Cheddarsmedders · 09/07/2018 18:46

It’s the fear mate, we’ve all been there (apart from rosewhite who sounds like a hoot and I bet gets invited to allll the parties)!

Bigger picture; You were chatty to some people - so what? No one is thinking about that today trust me.

swimmerlab · 09/07/2018 18:55

If you think that's embarrassing then I dare not tell you about some of the things I did when I was 23.

It's the fear, not pleasant but you've done nothing that would even register on the drunken embarrassment scale.

Beeziekn33ze · 09/07/2018 19:26

No one, whatever their orientation, is obliged to respond to an approach, albeit from a boozed up young person. Let it go!

LemonysSnicket · 09/07/2018 20:27

YABU - but I've been there. You have hangxiety because you did something you wouldn't normally have if sober.

RoseWhiteTips · 09/07/2018 20:55

AlwaysAToDoList

So you’re embarrassed because you know you’re attractive and he wasn’t interested?

I think this is the crux of the matter...

RoseWhiteTips · 09/07/2018 20:58

Silhouetta

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Silhouetta · 09/07/2018 22:33

Are you always like this Rosewhite or... just on Mumsnet??

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Desmondo2016 · 09/07/2018 22:48

Ha ha the hangover horrors. I can't believe you've got to this age wothout doing something far worse. As long as you're not the person that gets drunk every time (We all know 'that' person) then everyone else will either have absolutely no idea you were in anyway tipsy, or if they did they really won't be thinking about what you did.

Cheddarsmedders · 10/07/2018 08:53

Hi OP! Is The FEAR a distant memory already?

Ennirem · 10/07/2018 09:02

Forget the rude Italian twat

He doesn't sound rude to me. He sounds like he got cracked onto in a bar by a perfect stranger who wouldn't take no for an answer while he was trying to enjoy an afternoon out with his friends. And as though he was actually pretty polite about trying to shake her off.

Just reverse the genders and ask if he'd been the one harrassing the OP and she wasn't interested you would have called her a rude twat?

OP though, we have all been drunk and done something awful. Alllll of us. No--one got hurt and it isn't the end of the world.

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