Bitter comments from DH over the washing

[Pooshy]

Sorry for this boring thread but I can't work out if I'm being over sensitive

A couple of times I've shown DH how to hang the washing out. As he will have hung things by the shoulders only or whatever and they get pointy shoulders

Today he's been in a foul mood all day as our toddler is winding him up. He saw i'd hung his T shirt out and made one of those jokey but bitchy comments about how I'd hung it out the wrong way up. I was going to say any way up is fine, it's just better not to get the fabric pinched, but he cut me off and said something about my "pedantry", in quite a nasty and bitter way

I can't quite believe I'm writing this as it's so dull, but I feel quite pissed off about it

Just think he's a bit of a grumpy prick really! Aibu / over sensitive?!

He was in a foul mood and you made a bitchy comment about how he had hung out his own t shirt.
How exactly did you think he would react?!

It is unusual for him to behave that way? If it's a rare one off maybe he's just hot and grumpy and in a mood - not ok, but not a huge problem. But if he's often nasty and snarky I would be concerned

Just to be clear, I hung the washing out including his T shirt

No she didn't wolfiefan HE made the comment about the way she had hung out his t-shirt.

Hen pecked, hmm not usual sadly

It was the dh that made the bitchy comment.

The rule of thumb is ‘if it goes on the top, hand it by the bottom. If it goes on the bottom, hang it by the top’ this causes me issues with dresses! T shorts should NEVER be hung by the top.

"do your own fucking washing then darling"

Then proceed to pull his clothes off the line and stamp them into the grass.

Fluff that's interesting, didn't know that!

9am- I fantasised about doing just that 😂

So you complain when he hangs tops up by the shoulder and then you go and hang tops up by the shoulder.... yabu and a hypocrite.

Either stop complaining at him or stick to your own "rules" for hanging the washing up.

Weeellllll.... I have to say if someone tried to teach me the "right" way a few times I'd be pissed off. Cos I'm an adult and I'll do it whatever way gets dry, thank you.

And if that person then did it the "wrong" way, I'd be all oh I guess it's one rule for me and one rule for you, huh?

Mrs - he hangs them below the line from the peg, rather than over line with a peg. Causing pointy bits...

Wolfiefan The h didn’t hang his own tshirt out, that’s the point!

My DH is the same in that I find him pedantic. If he'd managed to hang some washing out with a busy day to day life and a toddler, I'd just be grateful it had gotten done. I hate being made to feel there is a right or wrong way of doing something, when it is really just pandering to someone else's 'pedantry' - it isn't a nice feeling when it's pointed out is it, especially when you've made the effort. It makes you feel at best like a guest in your own home and at worst, really undervalued.

I have to say I would be really pissed off if someone tried to tell me how to hang the washing to dry.

But then again I'm not really fussed about "pointed shoulders" or unusual creases because everything seems to drop out within five minutes of wear anyway (plus I don't own an iron so creases really don't bother me!)

I cannot get past the foul mood because the toddler is winding him up, never mind the sub politics of you giving him pinchy t shirt shoulders.

There'll be tears before bedtime chez Pooshy

I remember at the age of about 33, I was washing up in my parents house and my Dad decided to teach me the "right" way to wash up.

At that stage I'd been washing up for 20 years and the dishes somehow miraculously got clean despite my apparent cluelessness over the correct order to do it in.

My DH cannot hang out washing, he does this too despite my intensive tutoring! However, I've come to the conclusion that doing it badly is better than not doing it at all and if it's his clothes that then look shit, so be it

How does a grown man get wound up by a toddler? Is he incapable of reacting in a measured adult manner?

Oh FFS I've lost the power of reading!!
I have re read more carefully and he sounds horrid.
Sorry OP.

Go on strike. He'll soon learn to put things on the line properly if he has to do his own ironing and has to spend ages pressing out the peg marks on the shoulders.

The oft quoted rule on here is....

You interfere, you volunteer

From now on. He does his own damn washing.

Let him crack on washing and hanging up his own stuff then. He can enjoy his own pointy shoulders.
A toddler is not capable of winding anyone up, if normal toddler behaviour annoys him that much, think he has a bigger problem than pointy shoulder OP.

Top up for bottoms and bottom up for tops.

He sounds like an arse but if you have been picky about it why are you getting it wrong?