Bitter comments from DH over the washing

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Sorry for this boring thread but I can't work out if I'm being over sensitive

A couple of times I've shown DH how to hang the washing out. As he will have hung things by the shoulders only or whatever and they get pointy shoulders

Today he's been in a foul mood all day as our toddler is winding him up. He saw i'd hung his T shirt out and made one of those jokey but bitchy comments about how I'd hung it out the wrong way up. I was going to say any way up is fine, it's just better not to get the fabric pinched, but he cut me off and said something about my "pedantry", in quite a nasty and bitter way

I can't quite believe I'm writing this as it's so dull, but I feel quite pissed off about it

Just think he's a bit of a grumpy prick really! Aibu / over sensitive?!

Arguing over things like this is something that doesn't have to happen.

If you've 'told' him how to hang the washing up, then it means you've previously had a go at him about how he hangs it up. Yes?

Either leave him alone to get on with the washing how he sees fit or if you don't like it do it yourself. Simple.

Re-reading this, he is being an arse.
Pinch his t shirts and then either don't iron them or do them badly...revenge is best served passive aggressively.
In future, save your breath. Let him hang washing out however he sees fit,,it's not worth the time arguing over.
I used to iron DH's tshirts but it annoyed me that he would just pull clothes out of the wardrobe and crease everything up. So I tidied the wardrobe for the last time, told him if I found it all messed up again I would no longer waste my time ironing.
I no longer iron his tshirts. TBH he doesn't seem to notice or care

Oh my god, my husband hangs washing like this all the time and It drives me nuts!

I think the heat is getting to people.

😂😂

It I had hung a load of washing out only to return inside and be told ‘you’ve hung all that out wrong’ I think my response would be made up of a lot of unsavoury language. Lee him get in with big and keep shtum.

Get on with it*

I disagree with tips from the bottom and bottoms from the top. I always hang trousers up by the ankles as the waist band is the bit that needs to flap freely in the wind to dry. Everything gets reshaped whilst wet and hung out. Shirts go on a hanger to reduce ironing required. I saw a tip about how to hang trousers up that have a crease to reduce ironing and it worked! I'm trying to find the picture...

Has anyone seen the thing where someone will hang a towel on the bathroom radiator to dry, where the radiator is about 2/3 the width of the towel, and instead of folding the towel in two they will try to hang the towel up without folding, "so as to make best use of the space", which means that the bits of the towel in the middle dry quickly but the bits on the edge where it's scrunched up don't dry at all? DH used to do that, and I pointed out to him that it was more important to have the whole towel dry overnight than the middle bit dry ASAP, and he agreed and changed it. When we met, I used to prepare salad by taking all the leaves off one by one and washing them separately and then chopping them. DH showed me how to do it by just washing the whole head of lettuce and then shredding it by cutting horizontally instead of vertically. Sometimes there is a best way, and I can only imagine how fucking irritating it must be to have to either watch someone doing it suboptimally or endure sarcastic comments from them if you say anything.

My dh hangs washing half folded over the line with one peg in the middle. This causes a line in the clothes. A peg mark in the middle and the underneath doesn't dry so the washing has to be turned over 😠 this has been discussed many times but he continues to do it!!

I left DH alone with the iron today. Big mistake.

I have a really nice top made of crinkly fabric, and you just hang it up to dry. Occasionally the collar needs a gentle iron, but not the rest of it because of the nature of the fabric and I've explained to him that it doesn't need ironing about a dozen times before.

Today, I got home to find my top neatly ironed... and at least a foot wider than it should be because he'd ironed it from side to side and pressed the crinkly fabric completely flat.

So now I have to wash it again, and hope that it springs back into shape ok. And I was going to wear it for work tomorrow as well. Damn.

This is why tumble dryers were invented.

Some people resent advice.
Took me a long time to figure out that showing or telling someone a better way or what we think is a better way is received as criticism by them.
If that is the sort of person you are tuck with you would do yourself a favor by not bothering about how they hang their clothes and just take care of your own. Either they will figure it out or they won't.

My DH doesn't hang washing. I asked him to once but the result was ridiculous - he had literally hung everything from one peg by the bit he picked it up by. He didn't pull sleeves through, he didn't shake anything out, he didn't make any effort to hang anything straight or by an edge or anything. Of course he did it deliberately so he wouldn't be asked to do it again but I CBA to "teach" him this one, I just do it myself.

I don't let him do the washing either because he shoves it all into the same wash regardless of state or colour and then washes it too hot.

He can do his OWN clothes like that if he wants, but he's not touching mine or the boys'. Again, no doubt it's deliberate but it's not a fight I can be bothered with.

I refuse to iron or put his clothes away though - his shirts all get hung on hangers and then it's his choice whether or not to iron. And he gets his clean clothes handed to him so he can put them away, which gets me past the "where are my socks" sort of bollocks questions, because I don't know

My sons will not be like this.

Kewcumber I just wait until he's asleep and turn all our stuff round. Also, if I'm drying it on radiators, he'll turn it round so it dries quicker, IT HAS A WHOLE DAY! I'm in no rush.

I am a washing line rebel. Jeans and trousers hung by the ankle hem! The weight of the top part helps pull out the creases, and as a PP said, the top and pockets get maximum flap.

He was BU to be in a “foul mood” all day. Is he often moody? Do you walk on eggshells?

YWBU to be picky about washing being pegged on the shoulders, unless the clothes were delicates, or the way he hung things meant they wouldn’t dry.

I always hang trousers up by the ankles as the waist band is the bit that needs to flap freely in the wind to dry.

Yes! Me too, hanging by the waistband means longer drying time surely.

I agree about trousers etc from the ankles. Part of the difference is whether things are stretchy fabric or not; jogging pants are best hung from the waist. I have struggled to explain adequately which things to hang which way up and have concluded that part of the problem is my husband never sees the consequences of things he does. Partly because he's not the one collecting washing that hasn't dried where something wasn't shaken out, partly because he doesn't see the distortions / excess creases / doesn't iron anyway ...

Very frustrating!

My husband and I do our own laundry (and I do the baby’s...). Reading this thread, I’m glad we do as I hate the way he washes and folds clothing, so he can do it his own way to his own things to his heart’s content, and everyone’s happy

What I don't understand is if OP is so particular about which way the washing is hung, why she did it the 'wrong' way round herself? I'm on her partner's side - it's either important or it isn't.

For jeans, alternatively: water obeys gravity so hanging them from the ankles means water in the fabric is moving downward through the denim as well as evaporating, so the waistband will end up wetter this way. Hang by the top and water is drawn away from the waistband, giving it a chance to dry quicker.

This sounds like my rule about how pillowcases should be put on pillows - it’s very particular and variable based on pillowcase design. My poor husband doesn’t quite get it and I’ve given up as I know I’m being super picky about it and it’s hardly the most important thing in the wold. I just adjust mine when he’s not looking

I don’t moan about his washing hanging skills though, so he can’t moan about my ironing skills - quid pro quo.

Today, I got home to find my top neatly ironed... and at least a foot wider than it should be because he'd ironed it from side to side and pressed the crinkly fabric completely flat

Haha Actuayllyquitesmall, I had a top and skirt in that crinkled fabric, my husband washed them and then freaked out as he thought he’d shrunk them to seemingly child sized - most entertaining! 😝

LadyOfTheCanyon: that’s a very interesting observation. I guess there is a drying speed in heat and breeze v water and gravity speed calculation to be done on any given day?

And I would still argue that the heavier weight of the waistband, pockets etc hung at the bottom pulling out creases is of more benefit than quicker drying.

I am going to be checking things of uniform dryabillity now (like tea towels, flat sheets) for faster drying at the top!

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