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AIBU to hate my boring husband?!!

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PickleLickle83 · 08/07/2018 13:36

I love a holiday, but my husband never wants to go on one and even the discussion of booking one turns into a massive row...AIBU to hate my husband and seriously consider booking a holiday to take the kids away without the boring f**ker to prove a point? He always blames money (we earn around £85k between us so not exactly poor!) What would you do, leave the boring git at home and go without him or just book the holiday with him included and just tell him that it's happening?!!!

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PickleLickle83 · 08/07/2018 13:38

Sorry for the re-post, thought I had changed my name 😁

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Godotsarrived · 08/07/2018 13:39

I’d book it for the family and leave it up to him if he wanted to come along. My husband would never think of booking a holiday so I do it and when we are there he is less inclined to do stuff but he still enjoys it :)

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PickleLickle83 · 08/07/2018 13:40

Once the holiday is booked and the countdown begins, he gets all excited and it's the best thing ever but the actual booking of a holiday so such a mission!

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EveningHare · 08/07/2018 13:52

just go and book it then

Fairylea · 08/07/2018 13:53

Just book it without him.

PumpkinPie2016 · 08/07/2018 13:54

Book it - if he wants to come he can, if not, he can stay home while you and the DC go!

MessyBun247 · 08/07/2018 13:56

Just go. Enjoy your life. Leave him to wallow in his boringness at home.

Why do holiday discussions end in a row? What reasons does he give for not wanting a holiday?

MessyBun247 · 08/07/2018 13:57

Money can’t be the only reason.

hazell42 · 08/07/2018 13:57

You're not joined at the hip. Book for all of you
Make it clear he is invited but if he doesn't want to go, that's fine. You'll go without him.
He's not in charge you know

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PickleLickle83 · 08/07/2018 13:59

He is adamant that we will not be going on holiday, its not even like it's this year, i want to book for next summer! We haven't got a holiday booked for this year cos he is such a boring twat and didn't want to go anywhere. Is it just my husband who is like this?

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abigailsnan · 08/07/2018 13:59

Just book it and go yourself if he is not interested.
My OH leaves it all to me he always has done and he is always pleased with the booking where ever I have chosen.
If OH never went who would I have to transport the luggage ?? Smile

StrugglingMumma · 08/07/2018 14:01

Book it as a family and then if he wants to come great, if not.. more baggage allowance for you!

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PickleLickle83 · 08/07/2018 14:02

All he talks about is money Messy, he says it's too expensive to go (cos i work in a school and have to go in the school holidays so you can imagine the holiday prices). I managed to find a good deal for 2 weeks in the school holidays but even that wasn't enough to sway him 😞

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Teateaandmoretea · 08/07/2018 14:02

Why wouldnt you just go on holiday with the dc? What could possibly be unreasonable about that?

Teateaandmoretea · 08/07/2018 14:03

He sounds tight as hell. But you have a job also so why is he calling the shots?

Cheto · 08/07/2018 14:05

Do u do other stuff together ? Holidays are really the only time we spend time together as a family cos we're always working . If he just doesn't like spending time with family then it sounds more serious

MessyBun247 · 08/07/2018 14:06

Just go. He doesn’t rule your life. Yes holidays are pretty expensive but that’s just the way it is. If he doesn’t want a holiday he doesn’t have to go.

I’m sure you and the kids will have a lovely time Smile

Wildernessie · 08/07/2018 14:09

What a dream situ..book a fab hols&ditch the boring git at home..why deprive u&DC of a decent holiday if you're in the position to please urself..

Takinrujomu · 08/07/2018 14:09

It sounds like he is more concerned about the costs especially as from your posts, he actually enjoys himself once there. I agree with the others really, just book it. If he chooses to come, then fine. Might be a good idea to find out why he is against the idea of going on holidays though.,

Singlenotsingle · 08/07/2018 14:11

You don't even have to go abroad. We had a gorgeous caravan on a Parkdean site, swimming pool, lovely beach. Lots to do, plus TV and WIFI. We paid £360 for a week in June. Downside was we were quite sad for several days after we got home... Sad

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PickleLickle83 · 08/07/2018 14:11

I would take the kids without him, i did last summer holidays, we spent a week in disneyland without him and everyday he said that he missed not seeing the kids faces and their excitement.

My husband works away from home every week (monday to Friday) all over the country and i work full time, run a house single handed and look after our 2 children and run around after them with different clubs etc. I think I deserve a holiday but would prefer it to be a family holiday and making memories.

I think I will just book it and if he doesn't want to go, i can name change it to my mum 😊

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RhubarbRhubarbRhubarbRhubarb · 08/07/2018 14:12

So, what does he do with his AL?

PasstheStarmix · 08/07/2018 14:15

Sounds like your dh maybe doesn’t like the stress of he booking process ans making decisions. Book it for the whole family him included and then just tell him it’s happening. If he doesn’t want to go just go with the kids and maybe see if a close relative or friend can go in his place. Chances are he’ll probably go through with you saying he gets excited with the build up usually. Good luck

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