DD is 7 soon and we want to throw her a birthday party, we’ve had a really bad year and have just come out of it so I want her to have a fun day as she has been through so much with us. It’s not going to be a massive thing, just a picnic and playing in the back garden type.
I’ve asked her to make a list of school friends she wants to invite. There are 12 other girls in the class and she wants to invite 10 of them. The two she has left of is because she knows I don’t like them. She doesn’t want to upset anyone but she is worried they would behave badly.
These two girls have terrorised the other girls in the class this year. One has been angry and violent towards the kids since reception.
At my daughter’s 5th birthday party she was calling all the girls ugly and was hitting them all whilst her mother just sat there ignoring her on the phone. She hits all the time and my daughter has come home from school with bruises and scratches all over her face. We’ve handled it with the school properly and it seems to have calmed down a bit.
The other girl used to be ok sometimes but this past year she has started behaving terribly to all the other girls. At a recent birthday party she was hitting everyone and she spat in my daughter’s face. I like her Mum and her Mum punished her for what had happened.
I feel really guilty about the prospect of not inviting those two, I was bullied and excluded from these things at school and I would hate to cause any upset to a young child. But their behaviour is just so terrible and I don’t want my daughter’s birthday to be ruined by the two girls acting that way.
So my long winded question is AIBU to jot invite 2 girls out of 12 to my daughter’s birthday party? I’m happy to be told IBU if I am. I don’t want to teach my daughter unkindness but I don’t want to teach her that turning the other cheek all the time isn’t always the right thing to do.