Tell me why 2 children is enough?

[BlueSatsuma]

EVen though I know it is!

I’m almost 40 so it’s a panic thought!

I’ve 2 chronic illnesses and can’t cope with anymore but I LOVE LOVE Babies.

Then give it bk to get some sleep.

Because everyone I know with three says they regret It!

I’m the youngest of 3 and hated it l. My mum couldn’t cope especially considering my siblings also had special needs.

I’m only sticking with 2

I’d do it we will have to both work to afford 3 or 4 but thems the breaks. In a couple of years we will buy a second car and it will be big enough for 4 kids so we only need to buy a second car once no matter what we decide. Most holidays will be beach holidays for the next ten decades where we drive there and rent a house so we won’t be paying flights and hotels! Schooling will be the killer - private school for high school.

Everything comes in even numbers, if you have 3 you may as well have 4!

I waver between sticking at 2 and going just one or two more 😬

Babies grow up simple as that.

Personally I can afford 2 with extra money with 3 it would be tight. My body struggled with pregnancy and my help condition would be effected by another one. Having little ones is hard on our relationship we both thow ourselves in with our kids when they were very small there wasn't much left for us. My career would suffer if I took another break nothing major but I wouldn't get where I want to be as quickly. Lastly I just know I'm done my best friend is pregnant just now and for all I can not wait to get my hands on this little baby to cuddle I do not for 1 moment wish it was me.

Think about what benefit your existing children will get from you having a further one. Money and time spread thinner. Also be aware that you have a higher chance of multiples the older you are.

I have three and the dynamic is way better than two, in my opinion. I did come from three myself though. Yes things are harder - holidays etc, but we tend to rent villas anyway so not much of a game changer. We already had the big car though so that helped. The downsides are far less than the upsides.

I have three boys though so they are into the same toys etc it’s amazing! I also have three great sleepers.

Late to this thread but OMG the people banging on about "overpopulating the planet". You're probably the same people claiming there isn't enough food and water in the world for everyone. The world is the way it is because of shitty politics, not because couples are having 3 babies.

A really good example is how everyone is being guilt-tripped into recycling, saving energy, etc, at home. But you have cities in other countries that consume energy 24/7 and LOTS of it. The amount we use as regular people is minuscule. I know it adds up and for that reason, I do my bit where I can. But I feel people need to understand this!

Finally, recycling is a scam. The people who invented this "solution" (plastic goods manufacturers) came out and said it a long time ago. Guilt the people into making a change, while we continue to produce plastic for them to use. Look it up.

I'm done!

Because you only have two hands. That’s how I justify it anyway 😅

I have 3 daughters. It's not actually a brilliant dynamic, if I'm being totally honest.

It was fine when they were little, even if my eldest did feel a bit left out as the younger two were so close.
But the teenage years have taken their toll.

That said, in fairness, my sister has 3 teenage boys and is living her best life!

Late to this thread

You think? 🤣 If OP did have another child they’re probably in school by now.

deleted as it’s a zombie thread

I noticed the date.

I wonder what OP did in the end?

Haha! Let us know OP!! Did you go for it? 😆

I tend to tell people to count their blessings. Of course, 2 children are enough. Sounds like yours are healthy. I gave two children with complex needs. Had them in my early 30s with no family history of anything. Given your age and how risk goes up, why would you want to roll that dice again? Have you considered how a disabled child would affect your DC and yourself given you have chronic conditions and are almost 40? It's a no brainer to stop.

It's enough, the world is overpopulated, the climate is getting worse and we are running out of natural resources. Liking babies is not enough reason to continue polluting the planet with more people.

Do you have any family or friends with babies you could offer some help to instead? I bet they’d be very grateful!

Damn it. Why do people resurrect zombie threads?

Why is it such a problem to do so? Sometimes its interesting to see the topics re-ignited and even more so if the OP is still about and gives an update.

Zombie ha. Im one of 3. I always felt left out of things even as an adult. Playdates with her pals here years ago 3 was akward always a drama

3 is really really really hard! And expensive!! Like someone else said - cars, house, holidays! Everything is designed for 2 adults and 2 kids. I didn’t realise how easy two was until I had three! And I’m fit and well and money isn’t an issue and it’s still hard!

It wasn't enough for me