Slogan t-shirts/sweatshirts that advertise your status as a mother - ghastly right?

[FallArmyWorm]

I cringe when I see someone wear one. Do you?

@SoddingUnicorns

It can happen and it can really cool your brain. I was the first of my group of very successful London “meeedja” types and I felt very isolated and out the loop the further my pregnancy went on. Flurry of visitors when baby was born then...nowt. Few texts, cursory likes on FB, plus a load of other nonsense to do with them thinking I was boring since becoming a mum.

It took months for me to mentally calibrate to realise they were dicks, that I wasn’t a boring pudding that smelled of rusks and that my DD was the most important thing to me and fuck everyone else who thought I’d changed. I hadn’t really. It was just that I was now plus one.

In short, for those of you who never felt your friends “go weird” on you - especially if you were the first of your group to have a baby - then you’re lucky. As if you’re far from family and flooded with hormones and dealing with a healing abdomen it can be quite the headfuck.

*it can COOK your brain.

Anyway, lecture over

@PaulHollywoodsSexGut I’m sorry that happened to you, I didn’t mean to insinuate it couldn’t happen. I meant that labelling other women who wear clothes you dislike as having an identity crisis is a bit snide, which it is.

@SoddingUnicorns mine wasn't criticism. Merely an observation as to why some women were lucky enough not to experience an identity crisis on becoming a mother.
As primary care giver to my DS with little family support, I suddenly found I had no time and little energy to do any of the things/ pursue any of the interests that I did a lot beforehand and which contributed in large part to making me me..

Agree & can't stand the selifshmother brand- mums thinking some logo in a cool looking font saying M O T H E R is the height of being trendy while also coming across as foolishly smug too. Awful.

I'm not a fan, but then neither am I a fan of hush ruched skirts, or Breton tops. Similar with those 'Go girl club' t-shirts etc.

They just scream 'Ignore my minted husband and nanny, I'm just like you'. Alright if you think instagraming your peonies is where it's at, but nah.

@FallArmyWorm but you didn’t start a thread about identity crises as a mother. You started a thread to slag off what other women wear. Bit late to pretend otherwise now no?

The comment beneath yours tidily proves my point about snideness.

Or maybe you had a lot of time on your hands before you became mothers?

it's not tongue-in-cheek, it's just a pathetic comment. You might try to make yourself feel better, but no, sorry, some of us had a great life pre-kids but have manage to keep our identity and self-worth when having babies.
Maybe because we were happy and confident enough to start with, so not bothered what some idiots might think seeing us with a baby on a boob?

@SoddingUnicorns my post crossed with your last one and I had understood (mistakenly as it turned out) that your initial comment about descending into criticism was directed at my own comment about women who don't experience identity crises

@soddingunicorns

The OP feels that the tshirts are naff and bordering on smug bravado, meaning that for those of us who may NOT have wholly embraced our whiplash speed switch from corporate ballbreaker/media socialite/nurse/bus driver to MOTHER, GIVER OF LIFE AND NURTURE they seem a bit “nrrrrghhhhh”

[no emoji for itchy chin]

Fair enough, I phrased it badly to be fair.

and I’m out.

@SoddingUnicorns in other words I had not realised you were deeming my initial post about disliking these tops because of the id crisis point as criticism.

I just think that the constant need to bring other women down, to judge and to make snarky and nasty comments is fucking depressing.

The Selfish Mothet stuff is hideous imo. Boring cuts and yeuch colours.

Alright if you think instagraming your peonies is where it's at