To tell my dm to cut this out

[Majorintrovert]

I love my dm deary. Apart from my dc, she's all I have.
So I go out with my mom a lot to break the day up for me and my small dcs. (with what I have, I'll take them to soft play etc and so dm can spent time with them)
Everytime myself and my mom go out, she pressures me to buy something. I'm literally in the shit. A credit card debt because work didn't pay me properly for months. Dh was unemployed. No benefits aside child benefit etc. I'm on mat leave now but not entitled to smp. So I'm struggling to even pay rent. I've had to sell everything.
An my dm.. Today just really got to me. She just walked into a jewellers and bought an £900 ring. I'm not jealous, but she really rubs it in my face all the time. She's well looked after finally from her dp. An I'm happy for her, she's had a lot of shit in her life. But it makes me so so down when she's doing all this and saying "oh, but it means a lot to have diamonds. You can't afford them though. One day maybe"
Also little digs about dh. He's a gamer and incredibly depressed and things aren't going well at all between us now. I haven't told her this because of what I'm about to say. She sits there and says to me "myself and my dp were talking about your dh. He asked if I was a gaming addict how I would feel towards him. I told him I'd leave" maybe you should.

I'm just on my own here. I've applied for housing benefit but I'm not entitled a letter came back when I got home today. That was a smack in the face. I don't know what to do and my dm just rubs all this in. I just don't want to go out with her anymore.
I'm starting education again soon to better myself to provide for my kids and I can't afford the equipment. I'm just so low and she's there staring at an expensive diamond ring asking if I think it's sparkly enough. I don't want her money. I'm glad she's having what she wants and she's living her life happily as all of this is her pension. That's great. I just hate the uneccesary rubbing it in and making me feel more shit than I already do.

Sorry but a job in medicine or healthcare is not an option for him

How did he get an A level without GCSE Maths & English? I’ve worked in FE and you just wouldn’t be allowed on to any courses without these.

No clue but he did. I've seen the results. Whether it was a special thing sorted for him from the school due to the passing off his mother or because they cancelled one of the English papers for the pupils taking it (it's not actually listed. I sat English lit. He didn't. None of them did) unless its changed. He left in 2006. I'm guessing my curriculum was a lot different being as though it was a lot later. But it's there on paper. I was confused for a long time because I wasn't allowed to attend sixth form due to being one mark off passing maths.

Depression is hard and being laid off must make it harder to find a job. No idea why he is getting such a hard time actually, the fact he is getting into education to better himself is really good. I’m not sure what to suggest as help because neither me or my partner work and we live on benefits but I’d cut your mother out. She seems like a drain and isn’t healthy to be around. I’ve recently gone no contact with my mother who was similar but less wealthy and I can honestly say I feel a lot better. The stress I was under just waiting for her to say something was immense. Now I don’t have that anymore life seems a bit easier. Still struggle on but with one less thing to worry about.

Im glad you have seen someone about his plans but have you actually figured how this will work so he needs to get the science GCSE how long is that going to take ? then the heath acsess course is he planning on working round that and doing it part time ? if so that's 2 years then uni that's another 3 years of he goes to uni full time can you afford that or will he be doing it part time while working ? It's brilliant he wants to better his career prospects but is it realistic for your family for him to be doing this now taking at least 6ish years maybe more? can your family survive on that? I think you both need to sit down and work out what your going to do together. Are you going to be responsible for supporting the family for the full time he's in education ? Are you happy to do this ? You said you wanted to learn the new skills and set up to do it yourself so are you hoping to start your own business? Again is this realistic to do if your husband is not working and in education. Both are great things to do but usually whilst one person was starting up a new business or going back into education then the other partner would have a steady income to support the family. Have you asked your partner how you are going to live whilst he does 6 plus years of education ? I think you need a frank and realistic conversation if you can't pay your bills l/ rent ECT does at least one of you not need to be working ?