Ex-wife being very unreasonable????

[Alijay01]

Very long story but I have 2 step children (boy 15 and girl 18) from my husbands first marriage and a very difficult ex wife, kids lovely i hasten to add. we moved closer to the kids to get more access and both of them wanted to stay with us for a week and. then their mum for a week, ex wife VERY unhappy about this but we started this routine at the beginning of the year "for a 2 month trial period" (her doing!!) at the end of Feb she stopped it because it wasn't working - Boy forgot his school shoes ONE time (not a prob as we just bought him another pair to keep with us ) However in the midst of all this we bought tickets to see Queen tonight at the O2 for all four of us as had the week on week off system carried on this would be our week, Girl 18 at work so not a problem, Boy 15 finished all his mock exams last week and not doing a lot until the end of term now.
We asked if we could take the kids tonight and she has said no absolutely not as it is a school night, it is but not a lot going on and 15 year old would still be getting 8 hours sleep! She has guilt tripped girl into not going as boy is not allowed to !!!
Hubby and I have now sold the tickets for more than we paid for them and got ourselves into a premier lounge into the bargain so actually a slightly better night out for us, not the point though
Am I wrong for being absolutely fuming with her because the only 2 people who lose out here are the 2 kids who were so excited about tonight!! Why would you do that to your own children ????

If a child has their mocks you don’t take them to a concert in the middle of this or encourage them to miss school. Your DH isn’t actually a proper parent - sounds like a Disney Dad to me.

Also 1 week on / off for 15-18 year olds is disruptive to their social lives. At that age they should be able to drop in / drop out as they like & may not appreciate that they are further away from friends etc . My guess is that the kids are actually in full control here and your DH is blaming the ex.

I don't understand why there is a arrangement for an 18 year old? She's 18. Surely if she wants to go to the concert she just goes, if she wants to stay at her dads, she just goes. Her mom doesn't get a say at that age.

If I was your DP I would just be telling the kids I will be outside at x time to collect them, it was booked during what should have been his time with them and they are old enough that a court would take your SS's wishes into consideration. And like I said, there shouldn't even be an arrangement for your SD anymore.

@DuchyDuke, the OP said his mocks finished last week, so he's not being taken out during them. And he won't be missing any school time, not that there will be much going on there at the moment anyway.

Ceecee children ARE immature!

I dont understand why contact is being arranged for them at their ages, One of them is an adult and the other 15.

@WendyCope not really sure why that was in response to me, but in this case one of them isn't a child, she's 18. She can make her own decisions.

Sorry Ceecee not for you! I misread poster name.

Anyway, quite, one child is an adult which makes me think she doesn't want to go or she'd say so!

Apologies again Shouldn't read while cooking curry.

and you clearly cannot read because its flamingo

... or maybe, just maybe, she's making a point by writing it as 'flaming'?? Just a thought.

that would have been clever!