Colleague keeps blaming me for what she's eaten!

[WaterOffaDucksCrack]

Aibu to find this annoying? And it's making really self conscious about my size and shape.
She'll buy stuff for the office (only 4 of us in there) and eat it then turn to me and say "wow have you eaten all that oh my god". The other day I was eating a banana and she said "are you eating again?!" It was 13:00 and I hadn't eaten all day. I think she just has a strange relationship with food as she will say she can't eat xy and z but then eat it anyway. I've just had enough of it now it's getting me down. I feel anxious every time I go to eat.

For the record I'm 5ft 5 and size 10. I used to be 3st heavier so I'm still so conscious about my size as I could still stand to lose a stone or so.

Put laxatives in her coffee.

Wow I can’t believe she keeps saying things like that after you’ll called her up on it.

Put laxatives in her coffee.

@WaterOffaDucksCrack. Five foot 5 and size 10 sounds like good proportions to me, well done on losing 3 stone, that’s fab.

Every office I've worked in has a weird food person. Either apologising for they're eating, or commenting on someone else's food.

I just acknowledge it - yep I'm eating again - and it stops any further dialogue. No justification or apology just fact.

'food talk is really boring. Please talk about something else or shut up'.

silly bitch needs to get a life and some manners.

If its when people aren't around you can afford to be blunt.

This happens to me all the time. If you’re skinny it’s probably a compliment - like she’s impressed that you’re skinny in spite of eating so much (even though it sounds like you don’t!)
If I was overweight I bet she wouldn’t do it.
Don’t let it bother you.

Is there any way you can avoid eating in front of her? Just to take the wind out of her sails a bit? Or is one of those pffces where you lal have lunch together / at your desks? I'd be going out for lunch (and snaffling snacks in the stock cupboard) just to shut her up!

CrumbsInBed thank you!

Whipsmart I don't really get chance for breaks or to eat properly, hence the bananas etc unfortunately.

Thanks everyone else. I feel a bit pathetic that this has bothered me so much!!

Definitely need to go down the “haha, I didn’t get a chance with you around!” route. No comments about the food police - that makes it sound like you actually ate the stuff, which you didn’t!

Thanks everyone else. I feel a bit pathetic that this has bothered me so much!!

It’s bullying. Don’t let her away with it. Next time she does it, take her into a quiet room and have serious words. Remind her you’ve spoken to her before and you feel that it’s now harassment which you will take further if she does not stop. Get serious!

I like to go down the road of questioning and making them explain what they mean. Keep your town polite and quiet but get them to explain in detail, it usually takes the bite out of their snide comment and makes them look a bit silly. Also gets a bit boring for them
Eg
Eating again!
What do you mean?
Well, you are eating again
This is the first thing I have eaten today, what do you mean by eating again?
Well, didn’t you have some of that cake earlier
No
Oh
Ok then (slightly shake head and go back to work)

Keep asking for clarification until they run out of excuses for their comments

Don’t defend yourself, don’t get annoyed, she I just something really strange you are trying to puzzle out.
I also have a load of way more sarcastic responses but not suitable for a boss to use 😝

My mum does this! She's always commenting on what a huge appetite I have, how I eat so much and how she doesn't know where I put it all.

I clearly don't as I'm a size 10, she just sees me in a restaurant ordering pizza and assumes I do that every day!

Someone ut talked about their personal insecurities about food. I think that’s a good phrase to use-‘Don’t take your personal insecurities about food out on me .’ Or ‘ you seem to have extreme insecurities around food pleas don’t bring this to the office’

Explain to her that she’s mistaken you, for someone who actually gives a shit.

I think as her boss and being Professional and all that Maelstrop has another excellent suggestion. I still think you need to keep a written log of her comments too.