Is it entirely inappropriate to give a teacher a gift that contains a condom as an end of term present?

[TiffanyDoggett]

Sorry, not a trolltactular wind up thread to entertain on a Friday night but a real dilemma.

Ds 5 has a wonderful TA who is is key worker due to ADHD and suspected ASD. She is wonderful and I wanted to get her more than the usual mug and prosecco.

I've seen an online beauty box company that does a really nice lip care collection (lip balms, treatments and lipsticks) and it's bloody half price today! She's in her very early twenties and obviously looks after her appearance so I think this is perfect. However it weirdly contains a condom . Can I still buy it for her?

The obvious thing to do would be to remove it but half the fun of these boxes is opening up all the tissue and packaging.

I don't think I would, it's a bit inappropriate

God no. Don't. Just don't.

I really wouldn’t

I would say not appropriate. Possibly quite insulting depending on her personal background. Don't risk it.

Do you really have to ask?! 😂😂

That’s probably why it’s half price... what sort of idiot dreams up these stupid contents? It’s a shame as it sounds a lovely gift without.

Buy it. Remove the condom. Put the tissue paper etc back & seal back up.

If this isn't doable I personally wouldn't buy it. I don't think a condom is an appropriate gift to give your child's TA.

Just go to Boots and get her some make up? I'm sure she will sort her own contraception.

Good God no!!!

I think you could if you have a good relationship with her; which I suspect you do. But I would enclose a card that says "I loved this set and instantly thought of you but then I noticed it had a blooming condom in it, haven't a clue why!! Hope you don't mind that bit!!"

Could you email the company and ask them to remove it before packaging it up?

Mouth -related products and a condom- probably not.

I definitely wouldn't!!

That's waaaayy over the line of personal.

Oh god, no. Please don't! I don't know what I'd say if a pupils gave me that at the end of the year!

Oh thank God! This is why I love mumsnet. Ok it's a no!!

Am not on top of my own SPAG tonight, clearly... I blame heatstroke!

Get it and just pretend you didn't know the condom was in there?

I kid.

@Ilovewheelychairs I might try that as a last ditch attempt but otherwise No!

Heres the thing, you don't know about her personal life and she might take it as insulting, or worse.

Also what if she's lesbian?

Even if you remove it, it will be listed on the contents of the box! Just dont do it. Very inapropriate considering the nature of her job

Even if you removed the condom, it probably says on the box that it contains a condom, so the gift would be a no no.

No way

Yes it is inappropriate.