To be miffed that my in-laws are utterly disinterested in my pregnancy

[Thirtynineyearold]

This will be my second child after having the first one 10 years ago (bad back, hip, chasing some kind of career etc). I'm not British so my family shows interest via phone/Skype daily. My DH's family, on the other hand, have not texted or shown any particular interest for the past 9 months (I'm due any day now). His mum comes over once a week to look after DD and offers her help, but then nothing really happens when I ask. Until 4 weeks ago I cooked her a dinner too, huffing and puffing around the stove, and received no sympathy. My DH's three siblings have shown up once each since we told them, and it was because we invited them over or they wanted to give DD bday present (one of them). Two out of three of them have families.
I might be a bit sensitive at the moment and feeling lonely due to living far away from my own family, but I expected a little bit more than this. I know they'll all flock when the baby comes, but that will be to see the baby and not us (or help out). I raised this with DH, but he only shrugged.
I don't know how to brush this side and stop feeling so negative.

OP you are an adult. Stop expecting an imagined mother figure (she's NOT your mummy) to look after you.

She didn't plant your flowers or cook your tea when you worked late? Why on earth SHOULD she?! You attitude is absolutely pathetic.

Funny how FIL doesn't cop the same flak.

LeighaJ it's not exactly rocket science to see that the MIL comes over every week to look after the older child so is unlikely to stop!

Fancy expecting sympathy while making a meal.
Presumably you CHOOSE to become pregnant. You're up the duff, not unwell or disabled! Pregnant women manage to do a lot more physically demanding activities than cooking tea, you know.

Mind you, I suppose a snowflake would melt near the heat of an oven.

I think they havnt nessercerily done anything wrong - however, you, as an expecting mother,DO need more help and support than you are getting.
Even just talking about cute baby clothes if you don't need actual help, it's about having community around you.

It's extremely important, and extremely overlooked in our western culture, by both families and the midwife system. I am sorry you are being affected by it like so many others 💖
My advice is look for that community elsewhere, baby groups, pregnancy groups, the park. Find your mother sisters xxxxxxx

Love xxxxx