No smoke without fire

[shockedstunnedandangry]

My fiance works for a large corporation within the UK and has been suspended from work and he says he doesn't know why. It's been 8 weeks since this happened and he says he has no idea but it might be something to do with a works night out and a student he shared a taxi with. All sounds very odd and lots of people need to be interviewed which is why this is taking so long. He's VERY worried about this and I'm very suspicious of what he's been up to and I'm sure he wouldn't be suspended for sharing a taxi with a student. He's been checking back through text messages and worrying there's something there to incriminate him but he swears it's all a misunderstanding but I'm one that tends to think there's no smoke without fire. AIBU to think that?

Push him about the multiple complaints and he'll probably try to claim they "wound each other up", "came up with a story between them" and all the rest

You're either a team or you're not, and if you are I'd have expected him to share this with you (and no, refusing to speak about it "because he didn't want to worry you" - almost certainly the next excuse - wouldn't wash with me)

That's not something I think you can get over in a relationship. By all means do what you think but if you stay with someone like that I doubt very much you'll have a happy life and you need to think about you now since judging by his behaviour he clearly hasn't been! Sorry for your situation but there's clearly a pattern there. He's a creep, plain and simple.

LTB

There is no way that multiple women are lying about this.

And frankly I'm shocked that his employer hasn't sacked him. They clearly aren't bothered about ensuring their female employees are safe at work. Moving him to a different department just means he'll harass different women!

You can’t just sack someone without proper evidence. Many factors need to be taken into account, yes there have been allegations, obviously no proof, or clearly he would have been dismissed, I’m not defending him but ultimately a few ‘unfounded’ complaints can destroy a persons career and life. The whole thread is questioning ‘is there smoke without fire’ and the majority on here are confirming YES. I like to believe in fairness and without evidence we cannot truly know what happened other than ‘he said...she said’. There is another thread running about a man being victimised and bullied at work by people making unfounded allegations that is gathering much sympathy, we do not know the facts or the evidence, I would never advocate someone leaving their partner without such facts, we just do not know the dynamics. I would imagine this person has had the shock of their life, envisioned losing everything and I’m not going to kick a dog while it’s down and make broad assumptions based on no facts whatsoever, and encourage a complete stranger to make a life changing decision based on these non facts. If he is what you all accuse him of then he will undone himself eventually, if he isn’t, let him move on with new knowledge about appropriateness xxx

He sounds like the sleazy guy we spend our lives trying to avoid The company could be hoping that he leaves by his own volition, it might be better for everyone if he did.

I would not stay in the relationship, allegations at work whether true or not, aside, he has repeatedly lied to you. You cannot trust him.

You need to see the paperwork .... and there will be paperwork.

Are you happy to leave it at that and move on @OP?

Thanks to everyone but going to leave this now. He's kept his job but lost my respect and me.

💐So sorry

I'm sorry your going through this shocked.

Remember people will be around on here if you need support.

If you need support shocked, please ask? We’re always here to listen if it helps?

Sorry op, I can't think of anything comforting to say. I really feel for you and hope you're OK.

It looks as if you've made a very brave decision, OP - in which case brilliantly well done, even if it doesn't feel like it right now