Cut My Nose To Spite My Face Now Miserable and Lonely

[WokeUpWithAHeadache]

I posted a while ago (under a different name) about DP asking for lift so he could meet & have lunch with his sister while I waited outside for a few hours.

We ended up having an argument about something else which resulted in me shouting ‘ BTW I never changed my name to UBER find your own way to your lunch ‘ - not my finest moment.

He realised his mistake & said he never intended to make me feel like that.

The lunch is/was today and his Dsis changed the plans to them playing a sport they both enjoy this afternoon and then a BBQ this evening to watch the football. I could drive over for the BBQ.
I said no.
It was never about him spending time with her (which I encourage) it was sitting in the car & waiting whilst they got pissed.

He left this morning. I’m bored now.

AIBU to have a Magnum & glass of rose now to console myself?

He’s staying overnight & coming back tomorrow

I remember your thread.
And good for you imo.

Uber is a shite name!!
Enjoy the peace is my suggestion.

I say meet him half way and go to the BBQ, he did say he hadn't meant to make you feel thay way so why are you feeling hard done by still? Will you be able to stay over?

I could drive over for the BBQ.
I said no.

Do you want to go to the BBQ? If so just text DH or SIL, say you've changed your mind and would they mind if you came? (But remember they are free to say no!)

I don't really understand the problem.

You're invited to a BBQ that you want to go to, but simultaneously don;t want to go to?

You do sound like hard work in all honesty.

Maybe you should link your other thread OP.

I don't think you sound like hard work. I'd be really insulted if I was asked to give DH a lift somewhere and whilst they had food and drinks I had to wait outside. I'd feeling really really used.

Yes you said no to the bbq but I would have felt the same, like second best and wouldn't want a pity invite

So you had an argument with your DP and to punish him you have decided not to go to a BBQ that you wanted to go to. That told him.

I don’t get why you’re supposed to sit alone in your car whilst they have a meal and get drunk, to then drive them home

That’s really odd.

I’d enjoy the peace I think

So... you have the place all to yourself, you have ice cream, and you have wine...

God, I'm so jealous!

Why on earth were you expected to sit in the car for the original lunch plan???

I do like 'BTW I never changed my name to UBER find your own way to your lunch ‘

I haven’t seen the other thread. I don’t understand why you would just sit in your car and not do something else until he was finished if it wasn’t worth coming home in between or go for lunch separately elsewhere if he wanted one on one time with his sister.

But now you’re just being stubborn. He’s apologised, they’ve changed the plan so you don’t have to do that and now you’re sat at home bored and lonely. It sounds like you’re just wallowing.

I don’t know how to link a previous thread - sorry.

Second best was how I felt or as my DP put it ‘side salad ‘

Got myself a take away menu, bottle chilling & going to cheer on England 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿.

You're miserable and lonely because DP isn't there? I get that some people need to have company all the time, I really do but is there nothing at all that you could occupy yourself with?

Yes sitting home alone miserable, sure showed him! Thing is he said he didn’t mean to make you feel the way you did and you were invited to the bbq.

Well it’s too late to go now so drink some wine, order a pizza and he’ll soon be back

I thought when your title said "miserable and lonely" we were talking life-long misery and lonliness, not just a few bloody hours because of some daft tiff. Yes, if you're not ubering then go sink a few.

I thought when your title said "miserable and lonely" we were talking life-long misery and lonliness, not just a few bloody hours because of some daft tiff. Yes, if you're not ubering then go sink a few.

It does very much sound like you’re unable to occupy yourself. You’ve seem to say that about two separate days. The sitting in the car rather than filling the time with something and now just being home on your own. Is that something you struggle with?

In my original thread : DP wanted me to drive him to meet his sister for lunch. I wasn’t invited (that’s fine he only sees her a couple of times a year ) but the venue was in the middle of no where & an hours drive away.
He wanted me to sit in the car while they had lunch, got pissed & then drive him home.

Oh lord. Poor guy can't win can he (and yes I read the other thread).

You are all getting horribly side-tracked and missing the vital question! No YANBU to have a Magnum and glass of rose. Which Magnum?

I spend a lot of time on my own as I work from home.
I probably am just wallowing because everyone else is having fun watching the football later.

Double Caramel