To tell a mum on school run thatout her thong is very visible through her leggings?

[Clinicallysilly]

I see a mum on the school mum every morning wearing very see through leggings. Today, she bent down in front on me to get something out of the pram basket and I was greeted by the view of her arse through her leggings. She had a pink thong on under thin black leggings and a top which stopped at her hips. So everything was visible, I felt embarrassed on her behalf. A longer top would have covered a multitude of areas.

So my aibu is if I see her again should I tell her that her that her arse is on view? Diplomatically of course. I'd want to know I think. It's hard to see how see through a fabric is until you wear it and you won't always be aware that your backside is on view.

Wide legged palazzos are more comfier

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Yeah fair point peachy...its how they are worn rather than the leggings themselves

Attention seeking? Seriously ?

not a pretty sight but maybe the lightbulb has gone in the bedroom? I'd keep quiet.

the swimsuit thing is always worth checking, whatever you pay they get eaten away by chlorine and always in the worst places. And never never a white swimsuit!

No. I wouldn't have a clue how to tell her.
If it was someone I knew well then it would be different, but in this instance I would rely on her close friends telling her.

If they are that see through, I’m sure her family or friends will point it out

i remember we had a friend visit from nuremburg and he loved the leggings - he asked me why women here go out just in their tights. Apparently less common around where he lives!

Whilst we're at it can we add topless dads? there are at least two on the school run who do this.

Brunsdon1 Thu 28-Jun-18 12:09:40
*I think it depends if you know her to speak to

I also think a bit more understanding wouldn't go amiss
There's a line between not knowing she's doing it and jumping straight to being wierd and wanting everyone to see her thong

I've got an example...i have a pair of jeans that falls down slightly, I wouldn't usually wear them for the school run because I'm lifting ds2, wrangling ds1 etc

But one day about a month ago...my DP had nicely but somewhat inconveniently put a wash on just before I dressed and bar putting a pencil skirt on I had to wear them

So cut to trying to get dc out of the car and clearly having a struggle ...a women dashed up to me dragged my jeans up which I couldn't do anything as I was half trapped in the car with ds2 in my arms

I struggled free...glared as I was pulling my t shirt down and she hampered " just thought you'd want to cover the top part of your pants (am far too old for a thong)

Honestly I was really unimpressed I wasn't flashing the bloody world it was two seconds where I was clearly struggling getting two kids out of a three door car and she was more concerned with modesty for a whole two seconds

If you know her maybe drop it in gently ...if not give it a rest unless she's got pasties and fishnets on can't you give her the benefit if the doubt that maybe she hasn't got a lot of clothes,is stressed or whatever?*

Why would being stressed make you leave the house in leggings that are see-through?

She might not know. I once had a cheap pair of black leggings and to my horror, I could make out my white knickers in a shop window
I sprinted to the at pretty fast that day.

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Eliza read the first part of my post about why I ended up in trousers that weren't ideal....how do you know for whatever reason it's the only option she has?

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It's her standard uniform as I said in earlier posts just like mine is skinny jeans, top and a cardy depending on weather if I'll wear a cardy.

Say nothing. Maybe she is an attention seeker, in which case you'll be giving her what she wants. Or maybe, all she can afford is Primark leggings and doesn't really have many decent tops and saying something would likely make her feel terrible.

reported own double post, sorry

Wide legged palazzos are more comfier

Id rather go bottomless 😆

Mrs Torrence well that would cause a stir in the playground & have you arrested for public indecency! Imagine the poor kids faces

Who on earth wears thongs nowadays?

More importantly; would you tell someone if they had camel toe? 🤔😂

I'm not saying anything now. The general consensus seems to be that wearing see through leggings with a brightly coloured thong is acceptable and I should keep my beak out. I clearly am an old lady in my 40's and should keep my opinions to myself!

You certainly don't have to like it, all we're saying is that it's hardly something to waste time thinking about, never mind a Mumsnet AIBU thread.

Please tell her diplomatically. Children may notice and make comments to one of her children. So you can say you are mentioning it out of kindness to her child at the school.

People have the right to show bits of their body if they want to. There is far too much covering up going on. (Writing as a nudist at heart....)

Yes you're right Xenia but people also have the right to go about their business without being accosted by the sight of people's bare arses, tits & goodness knows what else. I didn't ask to see her arse, it was presented to me via see through leggings. If I visited a nudist colony, I wouldn't complain about the naked bodies because I'd expecting it. I wasn't expecting to get an eyeful of her arse and thong.