To tell a mum on school run thatout her thong is very visible through her leggings?

[Clinicallysilly]

I see a mum on the school mum every morning wearing very see through leggings. Today, she bent down in front on me to get something out of the pram basket and I was greeted by the view of her arse through her leggings. She had a pink thong on under thin black leggings and a top which stopped at her hips. So everything was visible, I felt embarrassed on her behalf. A longer top would have covered a multitude of areas.

So my aibu is if I see her again should I tell her that her that her arse is on view? Diplomatically of course. I'd want to know I think. It's hard to see how see through a fabric is until you wear it and you won't always be aware that your backside is on view.

She knows. Everybody knows that your underwear are on show when you wear leggings - unless you have the thick sport lycra ones possibly.

People might be totally unaware when wearing black trousers, or a black dress.

With leggings, of course she knows.

I wouldn't want to hear it from someone I didn't know, tbh. I'd rather hear it from a close friend so leave it up to them and keep your eyes down.

Love your turn of phrase there Rivendell

Genuine question alert: what is the difference between a stranger telling you or a friend telling you? Assuming the stranger tells you gently.

Is this not standard on the school run?

This is like the girls I see going into college, the triangle thong is very visible.
I don't particularly go looking but live on the main road and walk with them in front of me most days.
It must be the fashion.

i can't get excited about this - i've seen this 100 times with leggings. Even the better ones and wear unexpectedly. It's a bum in a thong at the end of the day, who cares?

On the one hand it's easy not to realise these things, but on the other hand, I also don't think it's a big deal.

i can't get excited about this - i've seen this 100 times with leggings. Even the better ones and wear unexpectedly. It's a bum in a thong at the end of the day, who cares?

On the one hand it's easy not to realise these things, but on the other hand, I also don't think it's a big deal.

I don't like strangers telling me because it doesn't matter how tactful you are; I think it just comes across as a bit brash.

I don't like strangers telling me because it doesn't matter how tactful you are; I think it just comes across as a bit brash.

i do wonder at the teenage boys wearing those ripped skinny jeans, so you see a good portion of hairy thigh which can't possibly be alluring to teenage girls can it? It does seem to be the fashion to have things hanging out these days.

Yeah, I wouldn't bother. It's a bit like people who think having their bra straps visible isn't trashy or weird.

Urg why do people wear these as trousers? Cheap and unflattering

I don't like strangers telling me because it doesn't matter how tactful you are; I think it just comes across as a bit brash.

But why? Why is it brash for a stranger to do it but not a friend?

You answered your own question peachy...they are cheap...not everyone has loads of cash

I'm not saying anything to her. I'm in the 'if you want to see my arse then you need to pay for the privilege!' Camp. I don't like to give people a free show!

I'm sure her kids have seen and taken great delight in telling her!

Mine certainly would.

If you are going to say something, just say “Did you know your leggings are see through?” Seems the most innocuous way of letting her know. If she still wears them after that, you have your answer!

You have different boundaries with friends and strangers. I would tell my sister but not someone I hadn't spoken to before. I know how my sister would take it from me but I don't know how a stranger would. If I did tell a stranger, I think it would be based on my assumption that she would be grateful to me somehow.

Brunsdon - yeh they are cheap but you can wear them with a longer top so you cover your bum and knickers!

I'm sure her kids have seen and taken great delight in telling her!

Mine would physically restrain me from leaving the house. Children tend to have a fairly Sharia view how their mothers should dress.

Thank you for explaining gandalf456

I personally wouldn't say anything, certainly not to a stranger. I wouldn't see it as anything to do with me, I would just look the other way. If I were to make that mistake myself, I'm very sure my DDs would say something about it lol.

She probably knows and doesn’t care, there’s a few on my school run like this. Just attention;seekers in my book. If you say something she will know it’s working.

She most likely is doing it for attention. You saying something to her will most likely please her. I have few mums who dress like this on the school run. Attention seeking in my book