To tell a mum on school run thatout her thong is very visible through her leggings?

[Clinicallysilly]

I see a mum on the school mum every morning wearing very see through leggings. Today, she bent down in front on me to get something out of the pram basket and I was greeted by the view of her arse through her leggings. She had a pink thong on under thin black leggings and a top which stopped at her hips. So everything was visible, I felt embarrassed on her behalf. A longer top would have covered a multitude of areas.

So my aibu is if I see her again should I tell her that her that her arse is on view? Diplomatically of course. I'd want to know I think. It's hard to see how see through a fabric is until you wear it and you won't always be aware that your backside is on view.

I think it depends if you know her to speak to

I also think a bit more understanding wouldn't go amiss
There's a line between not knowing she's doing it and jumping straight to being wierd and wanting everyone to see her thong

I've got an example...i have a pair of jeans that falls down slightly, I wouldn't usually wear them for the school run because I'm lifting ds2, wrangling ds1 etc

But one day about a month ago...my DP had nicely but somewhat inconveniently put a wash on just before I dressed and bar putting a pencil skirt on I had to wear them

So cut to trying to get dc out of the car and clearly having a struggle ...a women dashed up to me dragged my jeans up which I couldn't do anything as I was half trapped in the car with ds2 in my arms

I struggled free...glared as I was pulling my t shirt down and she hampered " just thought you'd want to cover the top part of your pants (am far too old for a thong)

Honestly I was really unimpressed I wasn't flashing the bloody world it was two seconds where I was clearly struggling getting two kids out of a three door car and she was more concerned with modesty for a whole two seconds

If you know her maybe drop it in gently ...if not give it a rest unless she's got pasties and fishnets on can't you give her the benefit if the doubt that maybe she hasn't got a lot of clothes,is stressed or whatever?

@Gummygoddess
I emailed someone from another department at work I could see their knickers.

You emailed! Why didn’t you just have a quiet word. I’d be worried an email could come across as creepy, stalkerish or as bullying.

Cheap leggings should be banned! Everytime the person bends down or just walks in front of you, you can see arse and I’m sorry but you just can’t help but notice.

Or at least if your wearing cheap rubbish leggings wear full pants not a thong

She honestly might not know. Here's my idea for telling her.

• Print out a short, tactful, anonymous letter telling her.
• Fold it.
• Put double sided tape on it.
• Park next to her.
• Wait until she has moved away from her car.
• Stealthily tape the note to a window of her car.
• Quickly back away while looking innocent.

I wouldnt. I had a work colleague once tell me 'you can tell you are wearing a thong under those leggings because they are so tight and you cant see any knicker lines'
I just thought she was really odd.... why was she thinking so much about my underwear?
Would you tell someone you could see their bra strap or they had a vpl?
I imagine you would if you were a nosy old lady from the 50s... but otherwise if someone is fully clothed and they arent wearing any hate mongering slogans or anything.... just leave them be!
And that woman does not 'have her arse out' ... you can simply see the lines of her underwear thru her trousers... ALERT THE POLICE!

Lol! OP you are clearly thinking you want to be kind in a 'girls together way' since she might not be aware her leggings are see through and you and umpteen other parents & grandparents now know she wears pink thongs!! TMI for strangers at school gates!!

However if you don't know her well enough to chatter regularly and drop into convo "noice pants the other day!" confident that she would laugh with you and thankyou for it, then YWBVU to say anything as you'll just embarrass her further.

Let her friends tell her as she won't be extra mortified at message delivery then ! She has other people in her life who could (or maybe already have said!)/ tell her.

I fear the messenger would be shot in this case, so am glad you wisely decided to keep schtum.

I had this with a dress recently. At an event I’d worn a dark dress later that evening dh goes I didn’t realise how see though your dress was till now. Too late to fix but I’m aware for the future now. I do wonder with certain mums though as it appears every outfits they wear shows their underwear be it tightness, see though or too small.

Be grateful she’s wearing a thong! DP was putting DDs shoes on at nursery and the attention seeking trouble making mum there bent to the floor wearing see through leggings with nothing underneath.

I hadn’t a clue what had happened (I was putting DS2s shoes on), and DP just picked up DD and bolted out the door! She did it on purpose (my friend saw her) right in DPs face and smirked at him.

Silly woman, she quite literally made a fanny of herself

I'd just tell her. People are so weird about this type of stuff. Like when someone has makeup smeared across their face or a bogey on their cheek, they'll just stand there talking to the person pretending they don't see it. Then that poor sod realised when they get home after a full day at work being a bogey face.

My DD(adult) did politely point out to me that a pair of my leggings showed a lot more than I would have wished, but they were really just a pair of house ones. I did see a lady in the pool showers with a swimsuit that had 'gone' down the back - the elasticised threads of the stretch fabric gets destroyed in some swimsuits by the chlorine and it can happen without you realising it. I check my suits on a regular basis. There was a wide channel all the way down her crack that was transparent. A mutual friend was also there so I discreetly told her - I would much rather hear it from a friend than a stranger. A friend told me once ( was only on the back) and I was grateful - not sure how I had missed the fact it was much baggier !

There is a woman who frequently walks along the same piece of road as me at the same time as Iam driving drive - I know it is tight beige leggings with a short top she is wearing and I know she isn't actually naked below the waist but it still looks that way from a distance and I can see drivers coming the other way doing a double take.

Why does it matter so much to people what others are wearing?

“Why would anyone wear leggings in such hot weather”
She wants to. The end. Fuck off.

I'm not saying anything. Will keep schtum. I hope someone tells her soon though. I'd be mortified if I knew my dc's teacher could see my thong through my leggings.

Nowt wrong with wearing leggings, even thin ones, just wear a long top/dress that covers your arse. Job done.

I was wearing a billowing white linen smock dress yesterday (40 weeks pregnant) Had white underwear on but didnt realise until outside in the bright sun that you could basically completely see thru it... underwear was by shorts style pants and a full cupped cotton bra so not too bad..... would have been mortified if someone came and let me know you could see my underwear.... I mean I was out on a day trip with my son what was I going to be able to do about it anyway except walk around worried everyone was laughing at me?......
and to be fair im not sure in this heat that idve put a vest or a slip on under it anyway.... id rather take the laughter than the intense heat.... I was very cool in that dress and I dont regret it

She probably doesn't know as some things don't look see though inside but do when you are in the sun!

I hope the papers pick this thread up. They'll be doing all of us who have to see arses and all sorts on show a service. Maybe people will check the see throughness of their clothing before inflicting it on the innocent general public.

White underwear is NOT invisible under white clothes. Basic error.

You need nude.

Someone particularly needs to have a word with the men tennis players at Wimbledon on the subject.

DarlingNikita but is it not arguably worse if you cant see any underwear at all.... people mightve thought I was just naked underneath?

I emailed someone from another department at work I could see their knickers.

I guess we can assume the email didn't sign off

"Best Regards,

Dave/Steve/Gary" Delete as appropriate

As a rule of thumb if they're thin enough to see pants, say nothing. If they're thin enough to see freckles or the details of an arse tattoo, maybe consider telling her.

I’d tell her. I’d want someone to tell me. I had a top which I wore a half lacy bra under, had done loads of time then one day when I looked in a mirror under a bright light I realised you could actually see my the colour of my nipples through it, I was mortified and couldn’t believe no-one had told me .

Some woman - a complete stranger in the street - once came up to me to tell me the top of my pants was showing above my jeans.

I was not impressed. I found it incredibly intrusive and invasive and told her so. I hope she now thinks twice before doing that sort of thing.

Maybe say 'I don't mean to be cheeky but can you tell me where you got that pink thong from. I've been looking for some in just that colour.'

letsall, no, it doesn't look as if you're naked; it just doesn't look as if you're wearing visible underwear.

Sorry, that sounds facetious but I don't mean it to! I don't know how else to explain it. Try it!

I'd tell her tbh but that's just me!

I'd have to assess the broader situation - you'd know if this is something she'd find mortifying based on her general demeanour.

Many of the women I see dressed like this don't look like strangers to a bar brawl.