To ask your top tips for a 16 year old's party - this Saturday!!!

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Hi... I've been so chilled about this... so much else going on from GCSEs to work commitments and sick mother ....

But I've suddenly realised I do have 70-80 teenagers turning up at our house to party on Saturday night...

DD has bought disco lights - a mate has done playlist - we're ordering range of beer and cider (and champagne for midnight when it actually turns into her birthday) with not much to munch on beyond crisps, popcorn and sweets and guacamole/hummous.... we're putting away anything breakable and covering the downstairs loo floor as we've been warned by DD and her mates that it "could get really manky".

She's lined up 4 mates to be the "bouncers" if there is any trouble ..and laughingly said all her male mates are small or tall and gentle but the two girls are pretty feisty!

We have guest list - and I'm allowed to be on the door for the first hour and then instructions to vanish so DH and I will be watching telly upstairs - and occasionally glancing out of window to see what actually is going on!

Oh and she's said we should put a "Private" sign half way up the stairs but be a bit relaxed so that only her closest mates go up to first floor. Luckily we have bizarre outside loo (70s decor!!) as well as inside one so should be enough.

They are basically nice kids... but they are 16 and demob happy after exams! And I know some of them are quite capable of getting slaughtered though DD is pretty moderate in her drinking and feeling very responsible.... but she isn't one of the feisty girls, much gentler.

So..... what are your top tips? What have I missed? What do you wish you had known before hosting teens at home?

I'd be ordering a LOT of pizza!

Your DD telling her friends that you're super strict will make zero difference.

No one condones vodka drinking at 15/16 except the kids.

Recently in the news about the tragic stabbing of Jordan Douherty, after a party in a Community Centre was gatecrashed.He as 15yo

My DD is 16, I am ok with her drinking limited alcohol at home where I know she's eating/not mixing/drinking water .

I wouldn't let her go to a house party with alcohol TBH.
I'm not a 'Cool Mum' but I don't care .

You will be responsible for any drunk teens and you will need to make sure they get home safely

You will also be liable for any teens drinking within your home

70isaLimitNotaTarget

Recently in the news about the tragic stabbing of Jordan Douherty, after a party in a Community Centre was gatecrashed.He as 15yo sad

My DD is 16, I am ok with her drinking limited alcohol at home where I know she's eating/not mixing/drinking water .

I wouldn't let her go to a house party with alcohol TBH.
I'm not a 'Cool Mum' but I don't care .

This

It’s very likey op your address is doing the rounds on Facebook twitter and snap chat as we speak expect at least 100 from random schools

You're fucked

Pippylou

All 80 sets of parents have given explicit permission for the alcohol?

You only need someone to get really ill and it could get very nasty.
i don’t belive for a moment that op has gotten verbal or Witten consent for all 80 parents and of op provided drink to my child and I found out the police would be called to fucking calm me down

I went to some excellent house parties when I was 15/16/17. All of them the house was fucked and I drank vodka by the bottle and took drugs.

The stand out one, I took a vast amount of speed, as did most other people. Everyone was very drunk, police were called several times, the house got pissed over - including several expensive wall hangings and her brothers bed. The kitchen was pretty destroyed. The banisters ripped out. The roof got beaten off from the inside out with a golf club (attic was opened to get out the Xmas decorations). Vomit everywhere. We spent the next morning axing stuff in the garden with a hatchet.

This was a supervised party. Her adult brother gave up after the police had come twice, but before the roof smashing. She had an argument with him and encouraged the house destruction... Everyone who was there was invited. Aparently it caused in the region of 60k of damage.

Get some proper bouncers.

I'm tempted to save this thread to re-read every year so that when I get a request for a party like this in 10 years I remember to get a "No way Pedro!" in somewhere amongst the laughing.

Your DD doesn't need to just tell her friends you're super strict, she needs to tell them that you won't let in ANY outside drinks (bottles of "water" or not), and that if they bring any size of bag/jacket that can hide booze in that they're not happy to have searched on entry they'll be sent home.

And yeah, you can't hide upstairs all night with that number of kids around.

I don't think OP is "mad", "brave" or "crazy". I think she is irresponsible and more concerned with looking like a "cool mum" than she is with the safety and well being of her dd and friends who , at 16, need the adults around them to be providing a decent example of how to celebrate and have fun, not excessive alcohol and sick buckets!

"all the parents know there will be alcohol"

Urm, no they don't. You don't even know how many kids are coming, so like feck have you ok'd the booze with the parents.

Sorry pressed too early (didn't mean to sound quite so aggressive!!)

My point is that you cannot have had the conversation with every parent?

Yes I'm sure most parents would expect booze to be there but they wont expect it will be provided by the parents

I hope your neighbours are not just chilled but also partially deaf! What about the neighbours in the nearby houses if the guests are in the garden shouting and singing they should also be warned, after 11 o clock I’d expect music to be switched off or at least turned down. I can see this ending in police and tears.

Haven't rtft but there is plastic stuff you can get from Amazon to put on the floor to cover carpets etc as otherwise they'll be ruined with many. It's like really thick stuff you can walk on without ripping it. I'd also remove all furniture possible etc. Good luck!!

Also I hope your ready from the social media fall out pictures of goosknows what being taken of god knows whom

And then their is the whole issues of ones coming who are not yet 16 but 15

You must be completely out of your mind op! Don’t do it! Are you in the absolute arse end of nowhere? Definitely don’t do it if you’re anywhere near a town.

My parents let my older brother have a house party at this age - it got gatecrashed and was a complete fucking disaster. Someone let my guinea pigs out of their hutch and it took days to find them. Parents swore never again... till I asked if I could have one for my 16th. They thought maybe what happened at my brother’s party was just bad luck, so they let me have a party. You guessed it - gatecrashed and a total fucking disaster. TOTAL disaster. The police were called no less than three times. A girl I had invited was dragged across my garden by her hair by a gatecrasher who then put the invited friend’s face up to my mum’s car and said she was going to put her face through a car window. It was absolutely terrifying. They also threw a beer can through the front window of our house. Beautiful, original Victorian glass which had to be completely replaced. I went to a naice all girls school btw and only invited girls from my school and boys from the naice, local, boys’ school. I wasn’t inviting the local drug dealer! The people who crashed were complete strangers to me and had never met the girl they ended up assaulting. I assume someone knew them or knew one of them or something. The other theory is that they saw someone walking through town to get to the party carrying loads of beer and followed them up.

I’ve noticed that the nicer / bigger the house, the more likely it is to get crashed. Especially if it’s near a town as ours was.

I will never host a party for teenagers in my house.

You are seriously hosting a party in your home for 60+ 15/16 year olds and providing them with alcohol? It's posts like these that make me really appreciate my quiet and respectful neighbors.

Reading that^^ back it makes it sound like the worst that happened at my brother’s party was that they let my guinea pigs out of their hutch... It wasn’t! I’m fairly sure my dad had to physical remove some of them. I just remember the guinea pigs as that was most important to me at the time.

Also, should say that my younger sibling was never allowed to host a party like this.

I must also be getting very old and out of touch .... supplying condoms !!!!!
Seriously !!!!! .... WTF !!! ... are some posters suggesting running a big teenage pissed up brothel ... there have to be some boundaries.. my kids would've been bloody horrified if I'd been bimbling around parties giving out condoms and cider !!!! .. in reality no one wants that kind of cool mom
!! Sounds like an episode of Ab Fab

Dd had a post gcse party for 150 16 year olds.

I thought I was going to die of stress on the night.

I put in cctv, dd had a guest list and sent a text the night before to say arrive before 10.30 as gates were going to be locked. Duplicate guest list on gate and names were checked off.

We had paid bouncers on the gate, patrolling the ponds and a medic on site. He mainly patched up cut feet, broken bottles and barefoot dancing not a good combination.

I nominated some of DD's friends as undercover kind of watchers, made sure we all had each other's numbers and also ran through a fire evacuation plan with them.

Filled dustbins with ice and added bottled water and soft drinks, far more than you think especially if it's going to be super hot.
For extra fun add one random can of alcohol per bin, sends them wild looking for others 😁

Food was apparently not cool but I was allowed to leave the toaster out and "hide" about 20 bags of bread in the empty kitchen cupboards, butter and jam in the fridge. All went.

In fact any food you "hide" will be eaten.

Was best party ever apparently.

After my number one “tip”, (just don’t do it), a close second would be do as @stayathomegardener did; pay professional bouncers, (maybe a team of), and a medic.

And YY to loads of bottles of water lying about.

Parents pay professional bouncers for teenage parties at home???

Jesus. Sometimes I think I'm from the Planet Zog.

I think you are mad in the head tbh and if you were going to do this stayathomegardner's plan sounds way safer and better planned.

but I do have a tip. Please make sure you take all medicines - prescription/non prescription/etc our of your house and lock them somewhere safe - ideally locked in your car which is locked.

Kids will put anything in their mouth - especially when drunk.

At the least please don't go upstairs and leave them to it. How will you feel if a kid is assaulted, a fight breaks out, a girl is sexually assaulted, someone chokes on vomit, someone is forgotten in the garden. You really can't run an event for up to 80 16 year olds and opt out of the venue. If a disco or club did this, you'd probably be screaming negligence

By the way, are you going to police kids driving off having had drink provided by you? Or are none of them driving.

My 16 year old was at a party recently where the mum did like you are planning. Went upstairs for several hours. She came down as dd and her friends were leaving. It was a shit show - vomiting kids high on marijuana all over the place - for many first time experience. Kids trying to drive off despite being drunk. I had little sympathy for her. You can't just let them at it at that age.

Well.... I will come back and tell you about it afterwards...

Main question now - best way to clear up vomit? I didnt get vomit granules and wish I had... have only tidied up own kids vomit which is rather different!

And to those who are sarky enough to say I don't know how many are coming - who has ever given a party and known that? 78 have accepted .... I do not expect them all to turn up.. I know which ones drink to excess, which scarcely drink at all (typically the sportier ones, but not always), which smoke, etc....

Yes gatecrashing would be a deal - but we have contingency plans on how to handle that. Having now talked to 5 local mums who've done this - we would be unlucky if it went badly wrong - but it could and we need to be prepared.

I know which ones drink to excess, which scarcely drink at all (typically the sportier ones, but not always), which smoke, etc....

I have to say I am impressed you know the smoking and drinking habits of 80 teenagers.