To ask your top tips for a 16 year old's party - this Saturday!!!

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Hi... I've been so chilled about this... so much else going on from GCSEs to work commitments and sick mother ....

But I've suddenly realised I do have 70-80 teenagers turning up at our house to party on Saturday night...

DD has bought disco lights - a mate has done playlist - we're ordering range of beer and cider (and champagne for midnight when it actually turns into her birthday) with not much to munch on beyond crisps, popcorn and sweets and guacamole/hummous.... we're putting away anything breakable and covering the downstairs loo floor as we've been warned by DD and her mates that it "could get really manky".

She's lined up 4 mates to be the "bouncers" if there is any trouble ..and laughingly said all her male mates are small or tall and gentle but the two girls are pretty feisty!

We have guest list - and I'm allowed to be on the door for the first hour and then instructions to vanish so DH and I will be watching telly upstairs - and occasionally glancing out of window to see what actually is going on!

Oh and she's said we should put a "Private" sign half way up the stairs but be a bit relaxed so that only her closest mates go up to first floor. Luckily we have bizarre outside loo (70s decor!!) as well as inside one so should be enough.

They are basically nice kids... but they are 16 and demob happy after exams! And I know some of them are quite capable of getting slaughtered though DD is pretty moderate in her drinking and feeling very responsible.... but she isn't one of the feisty girls, much gentler.

So..... what are your top tips? What have I missed? What do you wish you had known before hosting teens at home?

Feeling very unsatisfied to be left hanging!

Me too!! Hope it went well OP

I am guessing hoping as it's her daughters birthday today they have gone out and OP will report back later

I'm worried about what the heat did to the hummus!!!

After our parties, there was a big brunch, clearing up etc. I would not expect to see OP any time soon. She is a star mum in my books.

I think the OP will be honest.

She seems a nice sort to me

Hope it all went well and your daughter had a great time!

lol we've had a few of these parties. The prom after party was similar.

We don't provide alcohol, no need lol. They bring plenty of their own.

Hope OPs DD had a great time. Hope OP got some sleep :)

AIBU to think that my 15yo is hungover and not puking due to food poisoning? She insists there was hummus left out of the fridge all night at a party she went to last night but that doesn't sound likely - particularly as the police were called and broke it up early when the celery sticks ran out.

I'm worried the op is still sitting a corner shaking and rocking!!

Come ON Op! You can't do this to us!

Still no update???

Come on OP!! We need details

I really don’t think we’re gonna hear back from OP ☹️
Anything could have happened. It could have been a roaring success and she’s too busy with her dd’s birthday to get on the computer OR it was an unprecedented disaster and she can’t face all the inevitable “I told you so’s”, or indeed anything in between!
I’m afraid we are all condemned to our imaginations! 🤨

Ffs

Lankin, my imagination involves a broken window, a large patch of burned carpet, a urine soaked bed, a vomited-in goldfish tank and at least 3 irate parents who've been sitting up all night with their offspring.

Oh, but this has been a nice thread really. Solidarity and all that. I mean, we took our eye off the ball with being lax about the guest list (first mistake) and thinking it wouldn't matter because we are rural so no gatecrashers (second mistake).

To hear stories of other party disasters is actually quite cheering because it makes me think it might have gone wrong anyway, whatever we did!

Am sure the OP and Dd had a fab time and are enjoying the birthday sunshine.

We will never know the truuuuuuuuuth.................

I think a lack of an update doesn't bode well. I hope nothing too serious happened and everyone is ok.

Honestly, this will be almost impossible to control, and if you lose control of it, there's no getting it back. I'd be worried just from a safety aspect with that many teenagers in a small space with access to alcohol - it could very, very rapidly get out of hand. Could you not hire a venue or something instead? Probably a bit late now...

I'd also be prepared for the police to turn up. A gathering of teenagers that large is likely to attract calls as even if they are reasonably well behaved there will be a lot of noise and people might be anxious.

Oh my threadhadn't updated and I guess the party has taken place. I've not seen anything on the news about it at least!

If it went okay OP's probably enjoying everyone speculating

And if it didn't she may be tied to a tree ...

Oh my god.

Aw, I was hoping for an update before I go to bed really early. Neighbours a few doors away had a massive party & it was still very loud at 3.30am, feeling knackered today.

OP, please update. We are all over-invested in this, and will be so happy if you say it all went well (and will give you endless support if it didn't, as many of us have been there...)