Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Is this a sign of something or just generally being f**king annoying?

98 replies

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 27/06/2018 23:20

My DH is driving me crazy.

It’s lots of little things but with increasing frequency. Just a couple of recent examples from this week. Two nights ago he asked where his sunglasses were because he left them on the shelf. I said ‘I didn’t move them, but if I did they would be in the sunglasses basket’. He stomped around, checked the basket, came back and said they weren’t there and I’d clearly moved them somewhere. Next day he text saying it was so annoying I lost his sunglasses... I was at home so went to check the basket and there they were. (And there are only four of us!)

I was running late home last night and text him to make pasta for the kids and not wait for me. My youngest DD will only eat it plain with cheese. He texts back ‘there’s no cheese’... I said ‘yes there is, there’s a whole new cheese.’ He denied it. I got home much later, opened the fridge and there was the cheese, right at the front, middle shelf. Unmissable.

This morning I was leaving for the gym and getting the kids ready, I said ‘you took my padlock can you put it in my gym bag please?’ He said yes and went out up the hall. I got to the gym, no padlock. Called him and he said he had no idea what I was talking about.

People can be annoying, I’m sure I am! But AIBU to think this is something more?

OP posts:
Singlenotsingle · 27/06/2018 23:21

Sounds like it could be, especially if it's making him grumpy. How old is he?

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 27/06/2018 23:23

36... he’s not really grumpy. More frustrated that hes lost his glasses / there’s no cheese / doesn’t understand what I’m talking about.

OP posts:
Singlebutmarried · 27/06/2018 23:25

This is perfectly normal in my experience.

Wheres the cheese grater? In the dishes waiting to be unloaded.

Where in the dishwasher

Use yer fecking eyes!!!

Same with conversations, swears blind (probably why he can’t see for shite) that they never happened.

I no longer answer questions......

MyKingdomForBrie · 27/06/2018 23:25

Well this is my DH all the time but if it's new and unusual behaviour then I'd have a chat with him and see what he thinks.

NoSquirrels · 27/06/2018 23:25

Is he very stressed about anything - work, family? - because it could be symptomatic of that.

Username12345 · 27/06/2018 23:26

What does he say to justify it when you call him out on it?

Greenglassteacup · 27/06/2018 23:27

Sunglasses basket ?

Goostacean · 27/06/2018 23:27

Not directly helpful, but for important hinges I’ve taken to whatsapping my DH so I have proof in writing that I told him 🙄

Goostacean · 27/06/2018 23:27

Things, not hinges.

SabineUndine · 27/06/2018 23:29

Sounds as though he’s got something on his mind.

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 27/06/2018 23:30

Is sunglasses basket so weird? Grin It’s just a little basket on the side where I put sunglasses.

OP posts:
Claireshh · 27/06/2018 23:30

My husband gets like this when he is very stressed. He’ll ask o question but while i’m answering I can see he has started thinking about something else.

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 27/06/2018 23:30

I don’t know what would be on his mind...

OP posts:
Nomorechickens · 27/06/2018 23:33

I have a bit of sympathy here, because apparently we have a visual memory of where stuff is (which is why it's so frustrating if something is not where you think you left it), so if you're the one who puts away the shopping, you will know where everything is and he won't.
However I suspect there is also a bit of 'my male brain is engaged in important matters, I don't need to remember this trivial domestic stuff' going on

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 27/06/2018 23:35

I have a sunglasses basket too!! It’s beside the 3D glasses for the cinema. Grin

Pebblespony · 27/06/2018 23:38

This is the same in our house but

Pebblespony · 27/06/2018 23:39

with the roles reversed.
Ffs, posted too early.

MentalUnload · 27/06/2018 23:39

This is not particularly kind, but when my husband did this I did it back to him. Just once, so he knew what it felt like. It did seem to nip it in the bud.

Cutyourshakehole · 27/06/2018 23:41

Yabu to have a basket especially for sunglasses 😂

Greenglassteacup · 27/06/2018 23:42

I want a sunglasses basket now

Greenglassteacup · 27/06/2018 23:43

I have a hair bobbles basket though

Greenglassteacup · 27/06/2018 23:43
Grin
LurpakIsTheOnlyButter · 27/06/2018 23:45

DH - shall I get the butter out?
Me- no, it's out
DH- shall I get the tartare sauce?
Me- it's next to the butter, don't you have EYES?
Me- grrrrrrrrr

TheOriginalEmu · 27/06/2018 23:46

Had he always been this way? Or s new development? I’m a bit like this (and TERRIBLE for losing things) and I’ve recently been diagnosed with dyspraxia after years of frustration about this.

Papergirl1968 · 27/06/2018 23:46

It’s a man thing, isn’t it? Not being able to see what’s right in front of their face...