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Shell fish in nursery lunchbox

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Nicpem1982 · 27/06/2018 16:07

Posting for traffic really so apologies

Dd has started to have packed lunch at nursery and the guidance I was given was just send her with what she will eat although we're a healthy eating school.

She's asked for prawn and cherry tomato skewers for tomorrow which is fine for me but is shell fish on the no list like nuts normally?

Sorry new to this lunch thing....

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TwitterQueen1 · 27/06/2018 17:43

if the kid cant cope with salmon instead of prawns , maybe she has additional needs? worth checking out.

I cannot believe you've actually written this down Petrol. One of the most offensive and stupid comments I've seen in a long while.

Housework I suspect the OP is young and too polite to say that she has no idea what you mean.... [crying emoji].

Amalfimamma · 27/06/2018 17:44

CaptainBrickbeard

Oh God Noone could call you a failure for avoiding a food that your dh is allergic too! I think it's a choice. I didn't have shellfish until I was 19 and came to live in italy, the lack of shellfish did me no harm.

We all make choices with weaning and as long as we aren't feeding kids of 2 or 3 takeouts every night I can't see any reason why we should insult others' choices. Are your kids happy and healthy? If the answer is yes then you're not a failure and you're not making bad choices. Don't let a stranger on MN let you think you are

GaryBarlowsTaxReturn · 27/06/2018 17:44

How on Earth is op being 'smug'? Seems more that there's a few posters on this thread with chips on their shoulders.

PattiStanger · 27/06/2018 17:47

You could wonder why someone needed to ask the Internet this question that no-one can know the answer to rather than picking up the phone and spending 30 seconds calling the nursery to ask them.

One might think it was to show off but who can know that either?

CaptainBrickbeard · 27/06/2018 17:47

BitOitOfPractice yeah, blw meant mine ate a very varied and exciting diet as babies and then went maddeningly picky as toddlers. Someone told me it’s a survival mechanism so that in the wild they don’t eat poisonous things which I found reassuring but also unlikely to be true given the horrifying range of things they WOULD put in their mouth and their revolted reaction to salad .

Thanks Amalfi. My parents didn’t like spicy food so I never tried curry til I was 18! I love it now.

Amalfimamma · 27/06/2018 17:50

CaptainBrickbeard

You're welcome.

tomhazard · 27/06/2018 17:52

Show off Pattistanger? Why? Because she eats the perfectly ordinary foods of prawn and tomato? She's hardly taking a silver service 3 course meal to nursery is she.

Op, sorry people are being total dicks to you on this thread. Call the nursery and check, and if it's fine send her in with prawns and don't think about it again!

petrolpump28 · 27/06/2018 17:54

If eating it in a special way is important to her you could try using the handle of a teaspoon to skewer them with and call it a spoony kebab

yes lets all chomp on our spoony kebabs.

Madness.

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Nicpem1982 · 27/06/2018 17:54

Nursery is closed it shuts at 345, it's not a paid service although they run additional breakfast and lunch sessions so I couldn't call.

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colditz · 27/06/2018 17:56

I cannot believe some of you are fucking serious, having 3 year olds who have never tried any form of shellfish?

It's not some niche and secret expensive upper class treat, it's a staple food!

Of course I do know kids who have never tried shellfish but they're the sort of kids who have also never tried kiwifruit, or lamb. Not the sort of kids whose parents post on mumsnet, presumably (and usually) with kitchen access and a supermarket within 50 miles

PrivateDoor · 27/06/2018 17:59

OP I am very envious that that is your dds first choice for lunch, good for her!

if you don't know if your three year old has an extreme allergy response to shellfish, you've failed as a weaner. Kids should have been given some form of shellfish by THREE
Wow something else to add to my last of fails, failed weaner I must let my parents know they have accomplished this title too as I am 30 and have never had shellfish because the very thought of it turns me. As a health visitor, I have no idea how I missed that this is a rule!

Oh and no, they haven't had lamb either because we don't eat it

CaptainBrickbeard · 27/06/2018 17:59

colditz, my children have tried lamb and kiwi and a host of other things. We have many supermarkets at hand, I’ve been posting on MN for years, we did baby led weaning, we go abroad and try lots of different dishes but we don’t eat shellfish. Why is that so unbelievable?

colditz · 27/06/2018 18:00

The poster with the husband with a shellfish allergy at least has a damn good reason, wtf is everyone else playing at?

Are there also kids who've never tasted a tomato? Is that secretly niche, show off and snobby too?

colditz · 27/06/2018 18:00

CaptainBrickbeard, I absolutely understand your reasoning. Very sensible on your part.

Everyone else is very surprising to me.

colditz · 27/06/2018 18:01

"we don't eat it"

I mean ...

If I didn't eat pasta would that mean it would be reasonable for my child to get to three and NEVER have even tasted it?

CaptainBrickbeard · 27/06/2018 18:02

Cross post, you have excused me for my omission . My youngest so far has had the same allergies as my husband so we are guessing a shellfish allergy is likely for him as well so obviously we don’t consider it a staple food. I did just remember that my eldest has had and loved calamari though he didn’t try it until age 6 or 7.

NoWordForFluffy · 27/06/2018 18:03

You seem a bit angry there, colditz! It's only shellfish, not worthy of getting het up about.

colditz · 27/06/2018 18:03

You can't have a severe allergen as a staple food, I can't have nuts in the house, it's a ballache because it's a new allergy [fume] and the kids really, really miss peanut butter on toast. I buy wowbutter and it's good but £6 a jar

PorkFlute · 27/06/2018 18:04

Send in the skewers op! You would have been informed if they weren’t allowed. Dd loves prawns and would take prawn mayo sandwiches/prawn salad in if her school refrigerated the lunches. I wouldn’t even risk it in the cooler weather though since the lunch bags are sat in a sweaty cupboard all morning.
Lol at some of the replies on this thread. Are prawns really that much of an outlandish thing for a child to eat? And as for the skewer panic you do realise that 3 yos use scissors in nursery. And in outdoor nurseries they help light fires and roast marshmallows - on skewers of all things! No reported deaths yet. You’d think the op was talking about sending her 3 yo in with a machete by some of the replies!

PattiStanger · 27/06/2018 18:05

I'd imagine there are loads of small children who've never had a tomato, I don't find that unbelievable I'd say there are lots of families that don't buy fresh fruit and veg.

You'd have to live in a very rarified world to think that prawn and tomato skewers are normal pre-schooler food imo

Shockers · 27/06/2018 18:05

DD often takes prawns/sushi/mackerel to school for lunch. She has a small cool bag which I put ice packs in. She’s never been ill.

colditz · 27/06/2018 18:06

I'm not angry - I'm sort of gobsmacked and then surprised at my own shelteredness IYSWIM

We eat shellfish 3 or 4 times a week. Prawn sandwiches, spaghetti and mussels, "crab" sticks (which are probably not even real shellfish) and it has always been such a normal, staple food that I'm shicked that there are kids who get to preschool age without knowing it exists. It's like not knowing about cheese.

snowsun · 27/06/2018 18:08

They might have something to say about the skewers!

PrivateDoor · 27/06/2018 18:09

Colditz of course that would be ok, pasta doesn't really add anything to your nutrition assuming you have suitable alternatives It really is not necessary to eat ALL the foods in the supermarket I don't recall ever having pasta as a child and it didn't seem to cause me any great harm We prefer to only eat meat/fish/poultry a few times a week and manage ok with chicken, turkey, fish. We seem to be doing ok without lamb or shell fish.........

There was a post yday about a coeliac not wanting to feed her dc gluten and the vast majority agreed this was ok.

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Nicpem1982 · 27/06/2018 18:10

Patti - I don't think I know any family that doesn't buy some form of fresh fruit or veg on a regular basis, tomatoes are everywhere and so cheap and portable for a toddler. At nursery tomatoes are part of snack a couple of times a week so the whole group has them or are at least offered them

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