To be so bloody angry??!

[PissyPantsNameChange]

Admitted to hospital Thursday, DM had my DS.

Friday, DM was admitted to hospital (unrelated). DF had my DS and DB's.

Saturday, I discharged (wasn't leaving until tomorrow) because DF wouldn't have been able to go and see DM if he had all 4 DC's on his own.

Dsis decided to stay in Plymouth and DB (both Dsis and DB are adults) didn't even bother answering his phone.

I'm a SP on my own with 0 help now my DM is in hospital. I've left early and now seriously regretting it, admittedly a lot of my anger is directed at my selfish siblings!!

AIBU??

PaissyPantsNameChange so you didn't ask? As DB didn't answer his phone did he even know you were both in hospital?

Why are the kids being looked after so long without contact from their parents?

Nicknacky which kids? DF's kids never left him theor DM went into hospital but they were still with the DF. OP's child only went to be looked after by DF because OP was in hospital. Which kids have been without their parent for a long time?

The nephews and nieces.

I wasn’t talking about the op’s child.

I’d hope that if I was rushed to hospital I wouldn’t need to ask my own sister to help she’d automatically help me out and I would do the same for her. Different if it’s a friend but a close friend would just do what they could, I hope you and your mum are on the mend soon op

Are they your brothers children or your younger siblings?

I'm confused,who else's kids were with your dad? And why couldn't he cope? Is he ill too?!

My DS didn't see me for 1 day.

My DB's haven't seen my DM for 2 days now, although they are much older (still children) than my DS.

No, I didn't specifically ask, I guess I thought my Dsis would offer.

Why didn't your DF get a babysitter for a few hours while he went to visit your DM?

Did your DF ask you to discharge yourself?

The way your OP reads, it is as if you decided unilaterally that you had to martyr yourself.

DB's are my younger (children brothers).

DB is my younger but adult brother.

Dsis is my older adult sister.

DF had his 3, as well as my DS. I felt bad that my mother hadn't had any visitors and seeing as my DF hadn't had my DS on his own before let alone with 3 other kids on his own, I was worried he'd struggle.

I didn't want to put pressure on him seeing as his DW was in hospital for a suspected heart attack.

Your sister obviously doesn’t realise there is a childcare problem unless someone tells her.

When are your brother and presumably his partner due back?

Yup.. you need to create a better network around you. Really get your neighbours to rally, keep asking. It's all in the power of asking. Maybe just have one of the kids out of the scene might be helpful too, ask their school friends. Can any of the mums rally in? Can you put a post on fb to ask for a little help and see if your community step up. Siblings are always shit... and over rated. Mine were the bain of my life.... I hate it when i hear only parents bringing in siblings for the kids... I am like, no they were the ones that fucked everything up.... keep being nice OP, your value is gold. Sorry you feeel crap.

Nicknacky none of the children are her nieces or nephews and none of them belong to her adult brother the children her DF is looking after are his own children as in her siblings, they are being looked after by their father it was only OP's child who was temporarily being looked after by someone other than their parent. Jer adult DB is being accused of not helping however he didn't answer his phone so didn't actually know anyone needed help. He was persumably supposed to guess.

Ah I’ve finally got it, sorry I thought your parents were looking after your adult brothers kids.

Must surely your brothers and sisters must be old enough to help it babysit?

half it finally clicked, the young ages of these kids threw me if they are too young to stay home alone or help.

Just been told by Dsis that I should be pulling my weight and helping out with my DB's

Lord, I need strength to deal with that woman.

What age are the kids?

I’m confused.

DS is 15 months

Brothers are 7,9,11 (oldest one is autistic).

Adult brother is 24 married with 4 kids.

YANBU. I'm not particularly close to my DSis or my DPs but I would immediately ask what I could do to help.

I imagine your brother might have struggled to come look after the kids when he has 4 of his own.

Could your child’s dad not have helped?

Although I’m confused if brother even knows his mum is unwell?

why couldn't the 3 (7/9/11) and baby come into hospital to visit briefly with dad? (or neighbour keep an eye on some of them)

How old are your 3 youngest brothers?
Could they perhaps have gone to friends?
Obviously I understand that your DF would be worried about your DM but I'm not really clear why you needed to discharge yourself early?

I think you need to build a better support network and not rely on your siblings in an emergency, as it's clear they won't/can't help with childcare. Did they give reasons eg work/other commitments or just say no?

You need a network of friends who could look after your child in an emergency, or a list of numbers for trusted local childminders/emergency nannies. What would have happened if you'd needed surgery or been too unwell to leave hospital?