To not want to be friends with my transgender friend?

[birdonawire1]

When he was a man he was the loveliest, kindest and most thoughtful of men. Very self afacing and a devoted husband and father to 3 lovely children.

Since ‘coming out’ and dressing as a woman with all the attendant hormone treatment, hair extensions and so on she has become selfish and self centred. When we go out for a walk in the park she wears flashy clothes and killer heels and looks out of place. She would look nice in much more dressed down clothes and better as a woman but it’s all about the heels and showing cleavage.

The devastation to her wife and son in particular has been shattering yet she takes no responsibility and blames her wife for turning the children against her. No mention of her wife living a lie for all those years. She goes on dating websites all done up and is getting lots of dubious attention. She wants me to go out partying half the week despite having children and a DH and having outgrown that lifestyle

I supported her at first and have no issues at all with LGBT people, but I really can’t handle this, but if I walk away she will have very few old friends left and hasn’t made new ones yet. She has already lost a lot of her old friends because of the selfishness and not the transgenderism, as well as her wife and kids.

[LighthouseSouth]

going to work every day is putting on a mask

I have depression and anxiety so put on a mask

I have elderly parents to deal with so put on a mask

I hope that when I retire, when my parents are gone etc I don't suddenly become horribly selfish!!

re the wearing of heels in odd places - I have an ex friend who took pride in going out on a country picnic in heels, clutching on to us as she negotiated muddy patches. That friendship didn't last long. I don't know what that behaviour is about but it's just a PITA.

[DianaPrincessOfThemyscira]

I couldn't remain friends with someone who behaved this way. The clothing and the partying - ok, annoying but I could deal. This part:

The devastation to her wife and son in particular has been shattering yet she takes no responsibility and blames her wife for turning the children against her. No mention of her wife living a lie for all those years.

No. Just, no. Selfish and cruel.